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My spouse is new to the Army. Does it get any easier to get used to the stress and new rules?

He is still in AIT but already I am sick of dealing with all the stress. We have a one year old son who really loves him. I could really use some advice about how to deal with all the new situations. I am completly military illerterate lol. I love my husband and support his decisions 100?but I fear for him and our family. What is in store for us? What if he is deployed? How do I find people to help with questions who wont think I am complete idiot? Thanxs for your help

Asked By: Rachel J - 7/11/2006
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You need to go to ACS Army Community Services. Below is the link for the one at Fort Stewart but each base has one. They can offer you counseling and support groups. Even if it sounds bad or something you wouldn't normally do, I highly recommend them. The support groups are more like wives griping about their problems and other wives who have been through it telling you how to find help. It is great.

The stress will always be there. He will be deployed at some point. There really is no way around that right now. Be happy for the time you have together. Be thankful he has a job that will provide you income, housing and insurance. If you take housing you will not have to worry about anything to do with it. You will have a place to live and basic utilities. Medical for your son is covered. That is a huge relief at that age. AIT is rough. While basic will make a break a soldier, AIT will make or break them int eh career they have chosen. If he fails, he will either repeat or be told to pick a new job. it is a tremendous amount of pressure on him. Just try to be as understanding as possible. I know it isn't easy. My husband had 2 months of AIT like training right before he deployed. Out stress level was astronomical.
Answered By: accountant - 7/12/2006
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Answered By: marketingexpert - 7/16/2006
As a 20 year vet I can guarantee that it will only get easier as time rolls along. Check with the family services agency to see if they have a support group for the wives of trainees. they usuaklly get some old timers wives in there to help the new wives learn the ropes.
Answered By: oldsoftee2001 - 7/11/2006
Unfortunately that's just the beginning. I wish I had some words of wisdom, but the reality is that it IS a stressful situation for everybody.

You might try meeting/finding other wives, as in a support group, to give you better advice.
Answered By: clit_niblr28 - 7/11/2006
Maybe just remember he loves u and your love will get him through the hard times he has ahead so write him lots and always tell him how much u love him
Answered By: what_the_wow101 - 7/11/2006
The best way to get used to it is to assimilate...get involved with the base wive's clubs and hang with those ladies. They'll help you get through it and you'll be part of the EWC (Enlisted Wives Club)in no time. Another way to learn that stuff is to volunteer at the Family Support Center or other place like that on base. You'll be a pro on the rules and it'll just become part of your life. Also, your husband's unit probably has a familly support club. You should look into it. I made a lot of friends that way who let me cry on their shoulder and we'd watch each others kids and stuff. It took me about 18 months to get used to it, and really form strong friendships.

After a few years of marriage you'll look forward to him being deployed... :)
Answered By: pknutson_sws - 7/11/2006
Ok i have been married to a military man and he has been deployed many time and going again soon. we have two children. all i can say is if you trully love him you will support his decisions. just remember when he leaves and he will it always happens just know he did not leave you and your child he had to for the country. you are not alone. i love my husband and deployments come to and end. the sweetest thing is when they come back.
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Answered By: caligurll28 - 7/11/2006
Even though I've been out for many years, I can say it does get easier. Basic training is what separates the men from the boys. It just takes a little time to get adjusted to the military lifestyle.I have some family member who are currently serving stateside and overseas, It seem to me they are getting all the assistance they ask for. I would like to end by saying, the military was the best decision I made in my life and I would not have change any of it.
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