How can i tell if my husband has Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
he will place blame for everything: i act this way to you because you did this. i did this because you did that you drag me down, i was better off single, you are the reason your kids are screwed up (they are fine, just not in his eyes) you name it it is my fault. i have turned everyone against him, even his family everyone and comes before me, meaning i am not at home with him even though we may not speak all day as long as i am there he knows i am no where else he is constanly accusing me of having an affair-I'm not i have enough trouble with him. he says if i leave him he will make sure i have nothing because i will never be able to make it and he will excel he will go broke making sure i have nothing if i leave he will close his business and our emplyee's will not have a job and that will be on my head. when he talks to people he is so fake, his laugh is forced he is so nice to strangers and to certain freinds he has are these NPD things or just a really mean person
Asked By: m b - 8/22/2006
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Has your diagnosis of his problem come with the help of a psychiatrist? If not, please enlist the help of a therapist for him and for you, or for you alone if he won't go... More
Answered By: Kraftee - 8/22/2006
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Film him masturbating and then show him the video, if he gets horny he has a disorder, or he's too hot! Hahaha!
Answered By: Genio Atrapado - 8/22/2006
Force him into therapy. If he refuses, leave him. The business closing is NOT your fault. Good luck.
Answered By: DiamondDiana - 8/22/2006
slap him around a bit
Answered By: sljkhtr vliqweyrt - 8/22/2006
He's paranoid schizophrenic...
Answered By: Angela - 8/22/2006
I don't think there's a fancy name for what he has, besides Abusive. Very ABUSIVE. Your husband needs a professional psychiatric evalution, therapy sessions, and possibly anger management. He sounds both paranoid, compulsive, and even selfish.
Answered By: DetectiveSnaz12 - 8/22/2006
You picked a real winner there. Yes, I don't know if it is really narcissism, he just sounds like a very fearful man, but it's not incurable. I'd try to get him to go to couples counceling by saying you want ot improve yourself. He might be open to it.
Answered By: Rabbitacular - 8/22/2006
I don't know if he really fits as a Narcissistic personalit..check this site Personaly I think he is just an Controlling Ass...Good luck...if you are staying w/ him for the kids ..Get help....and break free
Answered By: MindinChaos - 8/22/2006
I'm married to a narcissist and am getting divorced. It's sickening to be with a person who thinks the world revolves around them and blames everyone else for what they do or don't do. I will be glad to be rid of him.
Answered By: liquidcharm - 8/22/2006
Sounds pretty normal to me...
Answered By: M S - 8/22/2006
I cannot tell you if he has NPD, but it sounds like this guy is NOT very nice to you. None of those things that you describe are YOUR fault. YOU can never cause someone to act a certain way, THEY have to make that choice on their own. NEVER let someone tell you that YOU are the cause of their problems. You dont... More
Answered By: brknarrow23 - 8/22/2006
I would not call it NPD. I would expect a person with that disorder to dress very neatly, look at himself in the mirror often and put himself first... More
Answered By: Pegasus90 - 8/22/2006
Hey there... sorry to hear of your troubles, but I don't know enough about the situastion to make an unbiased comment.However, I had bookmarked a site dealing with that very issue. http://samvak.tripod.com/npdglance.html Hope it helps.
Answered By: Mr. Inquisitive - 8/22/2006
What you've described here could be any number of things. My ex displayed a lot of these behaviors and I considered the same dx... come to find out... he was bipolar as well as Asperger Autism... More
Answered By: thegirlwholovedbrains - 8/22/2006
the npd is when u are in love w/ur self. other words ur reflection has more personality than the real one. what u are talking about is a control freak. as well as a paranoid. he is not worth the effort of the time u wasted denying all his accusations.
Answered By: mical b - 8/22/2006
Ok ignore the first comment. I would recommend seeing a professional and asking for advice. Whether your husband goes with you or not you can do a lot of things to help your situation by seeing a counselor or someone who can help sort this out with you. Even if we know the symptoms for NPD we are not clinicians and... More
Answered By: missesbean - 8/22/2006
I do not know aboutthis specific disorder you are talking about, but thissounds all to familar to my sister EX husband for the very same reasons. DO you tell him he should speak to someone about this? He should seek counseling. If he is unwilling to do this, maybe you can offer to go w/ him to couples counseling... More
Answered By: Cortney N - 8/22/2006
there are several web sites that list information about NPD. I listed one below. You can also go to a bookstore, there are books out there that can help about living with a spouse/family member with NPD. You can also join one of the yahoo groups for family members of people with NPD. The only real way you can tell... More
Answered By: olayak - 8/22/2006
I agree that he's Paranoid Schitzophronic. I know this because my father was just diagnosed with it. He was doing the same things your husband was doing to you. He kept telling my mom that she turned his kids against him. He kept making up these crazy stories about her having affairs. He kept cleaning out the bank... More
Answered By: Sarah P - 8/22/2006
does'nt sound like narcissistic personality disorder more importantly how about you seeking support for yourself
Answered By: mochi.girl - 8/22/2006
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