Why are some people so nasty to waiters and waitresses?

In the next town over, there is a nice restaurant which I frequent. One of the waitresses mentioned something to me one day about nasty customers. I do not understand this, especially since she is just about the most wonderful person I have ever met. She flies all over that place, doing the work of two people. She is always smiling , very upbeat, always helpful and has a kind word for everybody. In addition, she is very beautiful--tall, slender, peaches and cream skin. I would think that people would fall all over her, trying to be her friend, but some people can be very nasty to her. Two more things---You have probably noticed that I am quite taken with her, but please give me credit for realizing that I am old enough to be her grandfather. And I am planning to see that she gets (ANONYMOUSLY) any positive feedback which I hope shows up here.

Asked By: GreenHornet - 9/8/2006
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There are several reasons behind this. They have never been a server is probably the biggest one. Then you have the couple where the man is paying more attention to the beautiful waitress (I actually had a women take the tip back off the table her husband left for me). I learned not to look in the man's eyes for very... More
Answered By: Janet J - 9/8/2006
Additional Answers (27)
some people are just nasty
Answered By: san_ann68 - 9/8/2006
Those are the same people eating spit, boogers and other tasty well concealed treats, next time they eat there.
Answered By: Joe S - 9/8/2006
some people just become jerks when they have the control over people, even a little control like trying to get a waitor to get his food. but i am NEVER rood to the waitor/waitress cause if you are they could spit or god knows what else in to your food
Answered By: logic - 9/8/2006
people are idiots
Answered By: tim2755 - 9/8/2006
I put myself through school as a waitress. It is one of the hardest job to do well. Most people who are nasty have obviously never tried to do the job. There is also the mentality that the patron is "better" than the waitress so they treat them accordingly. I for one appreciate a good waiter/waitress and tip... More
Answered By: Chloe - 9/8/2006
i have seen people be nasty to waitresses and waiters. i belive that the mean people like that have very low esteam of them selves. so when they are mean to some one else it makes the meanies feel good about them selves. thats how the meanies are
Answered By: lamentations879 - 9/8/2006
some people were never taught how to treat people right.
Answered By: Get C - 9/8/2006
Life's unfair... some people are mean, rude and uncouth... thank God for people that brighten the days of others!
Answered By: Cookie - 9/8/2006
People in service industries are constantly on the receiving end of verbal abuse at the hands of customers. I think that people somehow feel that they are better than the people providing the service and think they can treat them unfairly. Management doesn't help the situation by always taking the side of the... More
Answered By: keoki9 - 9/8/2006
I'm a waitress at my husbands restaurant and i think the reason people are like that is because they have never worked in a restaurant themselves. It is a harder job then what alot of people think. And I give the most credit to people who do work as waiters or waitresses.
Answered By: ♥ Terri ♥ - 9/8/2006
Some people are just rude. The older generation I have noticed are a little rude these days. My parents parent's. I have always been respectful of my elders, that is how I was brought up. But I asked my parents this question and they couldn't answer. My dad always be courteous and if need be "defend" yourself or... More
Answered By: Heather G - 9/8/2006
The reason is a lot of people thinks waiters and waitresses is a low job that is some of the reason but when really it not a low job . I know that's how my mom met the guy from Jason in Fl. form her job So it other people being dumb a lot of nice people don't get noticed.
Answered By: nightsky1331 - 9/8/2006
Some feel that anyone in a position of servitude is beneath them. This is true for housekeepers, as well (been there, done that). And what boggles me the most is that some who are disrespectful have no job, or an even more mediocre one. These should think about how they would like to be treated before disrespecting... More
Answered By: Etienne - 9/8/2006
Well, this is not suppose to be but coz of the fact that "man caused man to his injuries" (Ecclaissiastes chapter 8) so, pride and class distinction caused man to behave in way that does not portray love to fellow man. Any, do not feel despair, coz even if you are been veiwed as important in human eyes, God Almighty... More
Answered By: sweetie - 9/8/2006
Those are incompetent people who are real losers. You sounded a bit creepy in the third paragraph though :) (cream and peaches)
Answered By: dyin_star - 9/8/2006
some people think that waiters and waitresses are below them and more often then not most of those people are working for big companies. I know that that is a stupid opinion.I know my aunt wouldn't want any other work then to be a waitress.hell they make uch good money mot refuse to be paid because they get paid more... More
Answered By: Dizzy - 9/8/2006
Some people are just too demanding and are never satisfied. I think our culture is leaning that way. Ricky Nelson sang it best - 'You can't please everyone'......
Answered By: old school - 9/8/2006
it makes them feel important to run down someone, like they are better than them. HA HA some waitresses make more money then them. TELL PRETTY PRETTY THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO ARE HAPPY WITH HER SERVICE & JOB IN LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Answered By: - 9/8/2006
Some people are just anal retentive ALL the time!!
Answered By: beerbohms - 9/8/2006
People who act like this have no self esteem-no self worth. They have to look down on others to make themselves feel important.
Answered By: - 9/8/2006
I was a waiter for 8 days once in between the USAF and finding a job in my chosen career. It was the hardest 8 days of my life. I am a very nice, friendly guy with a quick smile and kind word for everyone. However, that simply wasn't enough to get me through a shift, I was a terrible waiter and learned first hand... More
Answered By: Tab H - 9/8/2006
i think some people when they were little babys, the drank sour milk
Answered By: Bighorn - 9/8/2006
This is a VERY good question... More
Answered By: iipiki_okami - 9/8/2006
As a waitress myself at one time -- I found the best way to deal with nasty people is to shower them with kindness - then YOU have the upper hand cause it'll make them feel like a fool cause they aren't having a desired effect on you.
Answered By: Goldilocks - 9/8/2006
it is sometimes true some people are rude i have waitressed and bartended for 25 years and most of the people are wonderful which is why i have been in this business so long the money is also great most people believe that waitresses are of a lower class so they take that attitude when dealing with their server i have... More
Answered By: susi98223 - 9/8/2006
sometimes a person feels small and insignificant, sometimes they are. when these persons are put in a position of authority, no matter how trivial, they want to make another person to at least feel subservient to them.
Answered By: ron m - 9/8/2006
I don't know, I come from a different time and was raised to treat everyone with kindness and respect. Also, I believe that people who like and respect themselves, and are comfortable in their own skins, don't need to behave that way; they have nothing to prove, to themselves or others... More
Answered By: Scottie - 9/8/2006
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