What would you do if you were married and wanted to go back to school, but your spouse didn't support you?
I have recently enrolled in Kaplan University online. My husband tells me he wants me to go school and that he supports me, but he drops these hints to me that he does not want me to go to school. I have tried to talk to him about me going back to school, but the only answer I get from him is, "I don't care, do what you want." He wants me to drop out of school that I have not even started yet and move to a bigger city where he can make more money. What about me? I can't get the job i desire doing what I want to do unless I get my Bachelor's Degree in Accounting. I would like to move to a bigger city too, but I also want to go to school, and I am already enrolled in this school and classes start in a couple of days. I don't know what to do. Please help.
Asked By: pkelley_1979 - 1/4/2007
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Most likely you'd be able to transfer any credits you earn before you move. double check with the admissions office to make sure that your credits will transfer to another school in the city your husband wants to move to. you aren't limited by the situation, only by how you are approaching it. your other choice is to... More
Answered By: spider on a skull - smart guy - 1/4/2007
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Right now I think you need a marriage counselor and not a degree.
Answered By: ajsarabia - 1/4/2007
Sounds like he's sabotaging you. He's probably insecure that you will leave once you get a good education.
Answered By: Catspaw - 1/4/2007
Honey you are doing online classes so moving anywhere is not such a big deal. You have to follow the advice Nike has given us for years-JUST DO IT. Maybe your husband is less supportive than you would like because he is worried you won't follow through. Well, kick it into gear girl and do it to it.
Answered By: marilyn_l_kirkland - 1/4/2007
My advice is to have a very honest conversation with your husband about where you two see your lives going in the next 5-10 years, and what you two need to do in order to make it happen... More
Answered By: Michael L - 1/4/2007
You need to do what you want to do. The most important person in your life is yourself. He could walk out on you anytime and you would be mad at yourself for not doing what your heart desires.
Answered By: kathra - 1/4/2007
If hes not supporting you hes not being a good Husband, Husbands are spouse to have their wives backs. I'd personally just Sit him down and say "Hey, I really Really Wanna go back to school for a we bit so I can get My bachlors and It be really Nice If you supported me, Seeing thats a husbands job in all."
Answered By: animositysrebirth - 1/4/2007
Why don't you try scheduling a time to sit down with him and really be honest about this decision. Perhaps he has reasons that he does not feel comfortable telling you right now or is ashamed of admitting to you. Maybe he thinks he will no longer be the main bread winner and you will look at him differently. Try and... More
Answered By: fancyface1 l - 1/4/2007
Communicate. Tell him why your education is important to you, and explain that you feel like he's sending you mixed signals. Talk about the time it will take to put into this degree, and that you would be willing to move when you obtain your degree. A couple of years may sound like a long time now, but the time really... More
Answered By: hgreen_2004 - 1/4/2007
If classes haven't started yet you should be able to get a full tuition refund, especially if you have a reason like "will be moving mid-semester". You can also finish the online stuff from wherever you end up. If your husband has an actual job offer, than it makes sense to move, but if not, pull out those bean-... More
Answered By: Robin - 1/4/2007
If you are on line it doesn't matter. Just change your address with the University. If you are concerned that your computer system will be down for awhile, go to the library to study. Check on the policy for turning in assignments as the move will take quite a bit of time for you... More
Answered By: kramerdnewf - 1/4/2007
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