Is this proper?

I have just recently announced who my attendants will be in my up-coming wedding. So none of my sisters would feel slighted I named them all bridesmaids and chose my bestfriend to be my matron of honor. She immediantly set to planning my bridal shower. She has even made the invitations. She has all of the plans in order. My older sisters still feels slighted that she wasn't named matron of honor. She says it is her job to throw me a bridal shower. Everyone I know says it is the job of the matron of honor. My sister says that is wrong. And has set about planning a bridal shower for the same day and time as the one my bestfriend is planning. Who gets to throw the bridal shower? Is it my sister or my matron of honor? And if they both throw one at the same time which one am I obligated to be at cause there is no way I can be at both.

Asked By: Little Angel - 4/23/2007
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Your sister is acting like an immature spoiled brat. It sounds to me like she is used to getting what she wants and doesn't care what others think. She needs to grow up... More
Answered By: Amy C - 4/23/2007
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Sounds like your sister is a little jealous. You should sit her down and be blunt. Tell her you didn't want to hurt any of your sisters feelings and that is why you picked your best friend over all of them. Maybe enlist your other sisters in helping her understand. It is the matron of honors job to plan the bridal... More
Answered By: cyndaylou - 4/23/2007
Your sister is being a big baby! You should attend the shower that your matron of honor is having and let all your friends/family know that they should be attending that shower as well. Tell your sister that she can simply have a shower on another day. It's not unusual for more than one person to throw a shower for... More
Answered By: Lyndalu_98 - 4/23/2007
Grown women really should figure out how to get along, and I think it's ridiculous of your sister to plan a second shower when your friend is planning hers. They should all be planning together... More
Answered By: Silver_Stars - 4/23/2007
Generally the maid/matron of honor will plan the bridal shower, with the help of the bridesmaids... More
Answered By: basketcase88 - 4/23/2007
The matron of honor is supposed to throw you a bridal shower. That is the one I would attend. It sounds as if your sisters are jealous and they want to ruin your bridal shower. I think you did the right thing in not choosing one sister over the other. You're doing the right thing, don't stress over it and let your... More
Answered By: peppermint - 4/23/2007
Your sister should understand that since it is your wedding, you are obligated to assign the roles of the attendees. You gave her the honor of being a bride's maid. and that should be enough. Your best friend is your BEST FRIEND. Of course you will have her as the matron of honor. This is what most of my female... More
Answered By: Pilt Down McMann - 4/23/2007
Your bridesmaids are supposed to be supporting you not making you feel bad or making you make hard decisions! Tell your sister that she's putting you in a really hard position and maybe she could throw the bachelorette party instead? I've always thought it was the maid-of-honor who did the bridal shower, but maybe... More
Answered By: Draba123 - 4/23/2007
As far as I know, it is the job of the matron of honor to throw the Bridal Shower (and it is the job of the bridesmaids to assist in throwing it). However, you can also have more than one shower (many people do). Perhaps you could let your sister throw you something with just your family present, at a different time... More
Answered By: Haley D - 4/23/2007
the shower should be a collaberation effort. If your sister(s) have a problem with that, then they should check with the MOH to see who wants to throw the bachelorette party and the shower. But its your day... They shouldnt be fighting about this.
Answered By: Rita D - 4/23/2007
All of my bridesmaids planned my shower together. One was responsible for invitations, one for the cake, one for decorations, one for games, and one for the main dish. Then they all brought side dishes. It worked out really well because everyone was equally involved.
Answered By: greeneyes_bjb - 4/23/2007
The matron of honor is in charge of EVERYTHING. That said, she should involve your other bridesmaids in all of the planning. While she is the head honcho she should be getting input from the other bridesmaids. It isn't just her job, she's just the boss, ya know?
Answered By: autumnshadz - 4/23/2007
its the matron of honor. im in a wedding coming up for my best friend and im her matron of honor and its my duty to plan the bridal showers, it how i've always been told its done. if your sister has a problem with that why dont you have she and the matron do it together. theres nothing wrong with that. it my duty to... More
Answered By: rowan_kristy - 4/23/2007
the matron of honor is the planner for the party-NOT your sister.
Answered By: Yoyo - 4/23/2007
It is the matron of honors responsibility to through the shower but it is okay to have more then one shower if you have enough guests that they can be split up (matron of honor does friends, co-workers, etc - sister does cousins, aunts, etc) Of course, they can't be on the same day though... More
Answered By: Chrys - 4/23/2007
Usually it is the MOH who throws the shower but I have seen some instances of the whole bridal party planning it (a shower can be a lot of work for one person!). Did your MOH ask any of the other girls in your bridal party if they wanted to help plan with her? If she did and your sister didn't want to help, she is... More
Answered By: lalala - 4/23/2007
Talk with both of them both and see about hyaving one of the bridal showers date changed
Answered By: Britt - 4/23/2007
tell your sister to grow up, its not her day its yours, and if she really wanted you to be happy she will stop being such a drama queen about it, and just let your best friend throw it. If she really wanted to do this for you why don't she ask your best friend if there is anything she can do to help her make this a... More
Answered By: lishamarie3 - 4/23/2007
Oh dear! You better get this fixed quick! It is technically the maid or matron of honor's job to host the shower... More
Answered By: valschmal - 4/23/2007
It sounds like your sister is very jealous. Since you referred to her as matron of honor, I will assume she is married, so she obviously knows it is the job of the maid of honor to organize and host the shower. You need to talk with her and tell her you will not be attending the shower she is planning and you would... More
Answered By: melouofs - 4/23/2007
I would tell her that if she wants to plan a bridal shower for you then go right ahead. And you can invite all your family to the one that your sister is doing and have it on a different day and time and help with the planning of it so seh won't feel left out. But if you don't want to do that then be honest with her... More
Answered By: supermom12042702 - 4/23/2007
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