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We have a houseful to say the least..we have a 2,200 sq ft hme with 4 bedrms and a den. Our daughter has 2?

children ages 4 and 7 and we also have 2 sons that are staying with us right now ages 21 @ 24..my daughter is 25 by the way..Different circumstances for each one and even though the 2 sons will probobly be staying for a shorter time than our daughter we feel they should ALL pay rent..they have jobs and we are having a VERY difficult time providing for everyone.Groceries alone are killing us..What would be the fairest amount to make them pay in rent on a weekly basis??Keep in mind my husband @ I buy EVERYTHING right now from laundry detergent to shampoo to razors and so forth..toilet paper..oh my god..we run out twice a week..I need a plan-no way am I doing this for free/they will NEVER leave if we don't charge some rent but I do want to be fair..We dont want them to pay a portion of this or that..just a fair wkly amount since they all get pd every Friday..The boys think they shouldn't have to pay as much since our daughter has 2 kids..it's not debatable..how much is fair?? thx for all the helpful advice..the person that answered back and said we were HORRIBLE parents to even consider making our kids pay rent..you must still live at home or on another planet.honey,we have been going through this with my daughter since she had her first child and that was 7 yrs ago..we take the grandkids on vacations with us every yr and we ask for not a cent to cover taht..we pay..i've pd fpr book fares,school pictures,field trips,daycare when my daughter just didn't pay it..you have no idea..when is ENOUGH.enough? Thx to the people that agreed with me and I wasnt far off the mark..we were thinking 50.00 a wk for the boys and 75.00 for my daughter and they have to start providing their own toiletries..were not trying to get rich but we arent getting any younger and we are going broke paying for everything.. Wow,this question got alot of great responces,thx sooo much..our house pymt is 1,290.00..electric runs about 350.00 and groceries about 200.00 and we also have our 17 yr old that is still @ home but he is starting his senior yr in h.s. and he plays ball yr around..and honestly the majority of the family arguments comes from NOONE picking up after themselves..especially my daughter with the 2 grandkids..thety are 4 and 7 so there is NO DIAPERS or anything...thx again and any advice is great..but anyone thinks we should be doing it for FREE..I can always send them your way.... Sally B and Christina V- where do you guys live....I can send my GROWN daughter to live with one of you and my 2 sons with the other...good luck to you..

Asked By: sc - 6/15/2007
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If you are trying to get them out would suggest that you charge them at least half of what they would pay if they were living on their own. Making them buy their own toiletries is also a grand idea and should be expected. Even with you charging so little, they might still rather live at home for the extra help, so try... More
Answered By: rockangel80 - 6/15/2007
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100 bux a week, thats a lot but you are also paying for toiletries and food... and the utilities.. 100 is only 400 a month, that's less than what your probably actually paying but its reasonable.
Answered By: mommy_to_mason2006 - 6/15/2007
 
Have them pay what they can afford, it may not all be the same amount, sit down with each of them and come up with a reasonable amount. What one pays isn't the other's business. Adults with jobs should be buying their own soap, shampoo, razors, toothpaste and any other toiletries like that.
Answered By: steffers27 - 6/15/2007
 
I would charge each sibling $115/week. I figured that by taking $500/month x 12 months / 52 weeks. I don't feel that is much to ask considering that the cheapest rent that I know of for an apartment is $500 per month and that doesn't include all the utilites, food, and probably maid service that you are providing.
Answered By: User103443 - 6/15/2007
 
THEY'RE UR FREAKING KIDS! YOU CAN'T MAKE THEM PAY RENT FOR STAYING IN YOUR HOUSE! u are horrible parents! go get another part time job to pay for them, but you can't make your own kids and grandkids pay RENT for coming to "live" in your house for a short period of time no matter how much you have to pay for them. you... More
Answered By: sally b - 6/15/2007
 
It is hard to say what is fair. It depends on where you live and what kind of money everyone is making ( earning). I think every one should buy their own groceries. They should all buy their own toiletries. You should divide the utilities equall among you all.
Answered By: jackdinah - 6/15/2007
 
On average, how much do you spend a month on groceries? (food and non-food). Devide that by the number of people in the house, then make everyone pay their fair share. Also consider your household costs, rent and utilities. You can also devide that up. If you don't want to do the rent, at least the utilities cause... More
Answered By: djmom11 - 6/15/2007
 
When my brother and I moved back home we each contributed money to the household each month. He didn't make a lot so he just gave $50-100 and I paid $300 plus bought the food I liked and I paid for all my own toiletries. I didn't feel right living there without helping. I talked to my brother about doing extra... More
Answered By: chriztina9876 - 6/15/2007
 
I was in a similar situation a few years ago. I sat down and figured out approximately how much I spent on everything every month, and I made my grown kids pay a certain percentage. You should at least make them pay 1/3 a piece. Your daughter could kick in a little more since she has two kids. I think that would... More
Answered By: gabbee55 - 6/15/2007
 
well, i think if i were you i would look at the electric bill, the rent bill, the taxes, and the water bill. divide it between everyone who lives in the house so everyone pays an equal portion... More
Answered By: Surrahh :D - 6/15/2007
 
I would agree with the boys that your daughter should pay a bit more if you are supplying everything right down to possibly diapers and the special deserts and treats and cereal that only the babies really use. 20 years ago parents were charging us kids when we turned 18 and no longer going to school at least $50 a... More
Answered By: lynx - 6/15/2007
 
First. I admire the fact that you have welcomed everyone back into your home. That is not easy to say the least... More
Answered By: Richard_M_TX - 6/15/2007
 
Sit down with them and find out what each can afford.
Answered By: connie o - 6/15/2007
 
I am not sure abou the amount you should charge them for rent but you might start with making them buy there own things, shampoo and other bathroom things, along with laundry supplies... More
Answered By: cathy - 6/15/2007
 
The only way to do it "fair" is to do it portionally, but you can do it weekly. I will add a few guessing values for the sake of giving an amount but adjust them to your actual spending. Figure out the average you are spending on groceries let's say $200/week, the average on necessities t.p., razors, laundry soap, say... More
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Answered By: pebble - 6/15/2007
 
For a boarding house type of service, which you are providing, It would not be unreasonable to charge your sons $100/wk each and $150/wk for the daughter and her children. If everyone is pitching in and helping with chores. This would give you $350/wk to cover costs... More
Answered By: DonPedro - 6/15/2007
 
Try 1/4 of their take home pay for rent and another 1/4 of their take home pay also goes to you to be saved for deposits, etc. for when they ready to move out. If you are providing all utilities, food, toiletries, etc., 1/2 of their income should be enough to pay for any car insurance, cell phone, or whatever bills... More
Answered By: Mom of 4 - 6/15/2007
 
For certain they should be paying their way in the house. Otherwise you're a free hotel- turn down service included! I think that when it comes to grandchilren, they stay free. They aren't working, knowledgable, self sufficient adults. All three should have a set amount to pay every 2 weeks (since that is usually a pay... More
Answered By: monkey_kins - 6/15/2007
 
Well, that's hard to answer, but here's a way to break it down... More
Answered By: melanie - 6/15/2007
 
Print this and show it to your loving yet using children... More
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Answered By: Monique - 6/15/2007
 
I agree they should pay rent, but no one online can tell you what is fair. Each child is different depending on their circumstances. While your daughter takes up more space and more food for her kids, she may make less money and surely has more bills to pay for the kids. Base everyone's rent on their income, and don't... More
Answered By: liastele - 6/15/2007
 
your daughter should pay for everything pertaining to the kids...as well as $100 a week...The boys should pay $100 a week too
Answered By: jujubeprincess - 6/15/2007
 
Make a list of all your bills and estimate how much everybody uses. For example, food. Your daughter would obviously have to pay more towards groceries because of her two kids. Id say your plan sounds fair enough. $50 a week for the boys, $75 for your daughter. They should definitely help you out. They have jobs, are... More
Answered By: Amanda - 6/15/2007
 
STOP BUYING FOOD you and your husband stop shopping they will have to start just say sorry honey mom is low on money they will get the hint gl as for the boys feeling like something is unfair well you tell them those kids are kids and you don't let them run you over if you want the adults to pay the same amount tell... More
Answered By: tina1rules - 6/15/2007
 
First of all let me say your brave and I understand where you're comming from... More
Answered By: orangie - 6/16/2007
 
As parents we have a responsability to make sure when our children go out on their own they are ready for the responsability. I would have a family sit down with the exception of the young children. Young children don't need to know about your financial problems or be involved with difficult conversations. I would... More
Answered By: Deb - 6/16/2007
 
I think your request is fair. These are full grown adults who, ideally, should be supporting themselves. You are wonderful to support them and bring them back home to help them. I think, however, that it has become a burden on you, and it's completely reasonable and fair to ask them to help out financially... More
Answered By: ~Biz~ - 6/16/2007
 
20% of their pay would be good. Then make them give you another 20% for you to keep until they are ready to move out. 40% of their pay to you would get them motivated to move out on their own.
Answered By: Single Dad - 6/17/2007
 
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