What would you expect from your partner?
What did or would you expect from your partner during labour and birth? Also what did or would you expect in the weeks leading up to the birth? My partner works long hours, but shows no interest in me or how I'm feeling at all, he really wants the baby, but I don't think he recognizes that I'm going to need support during the labour/birth. Just wondering what you would expect from your partner, to see if I'm been silly or not. I was considering not having him there for the birth, because he doesn't respect me and I would prefer to be left alone to deal with it by myself. Birthing classes would of been a good idea but I've only got a two weeks left, and he wouldn't of gone anyway, because it would of been for me. I'm not going to go into our whole relationship, but the other reason I dont want him there is because, I don't want jokes made about me to his friends and family about any embarrassing details of the birth, which he would do.
Asked By: KillerXmega2000X2000 - 6/25/2007
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He is prolly trying to appear strong. Mine did that with the first and it came off as looking cold but he was just trying to look all grown and strong bc he thought that was what he was supposed to do. men. geez. lol. As for what is reasonable to expect, if you need it, its reasonable. Talk to him, take a birthing... More
Answered By: sooohmmm - 6/25/2007
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You women! Even if your husband will sit by you from 1st to 31st you will not lack what to say. I am not defending your husband but I am just making a true point.Dear woman cheer up God is with you. Take courage.
Answered By: patrick w - 6/25/2007
Assuming this is your first bub... it is his too, it is a new experience for both of you and he doesn't know how to react or how you are feeling unless you tell him. My hubby sat in the corner of the birthing suite looking at name books... it upset me at first but he thought he was helping, he felt it was really... More
Answered By: JK 79 - 6/25/2007
I hope husband not partner ... Expect nothing....and Expect everything...I reel his support...his excitement and if he is not with you he needs to celebrate and commiserate as it takes him from boyhood it catapults him into a father and a man to get a job or step up and be a man...I kind of notice a man cheats at this... More
Answered By: Nina - 6/25/2007
Sign up for some classes and make him go. Maybe talk to him about it before you sign up so you can schedule a time that he can't complain about. My hubby didn't really "get it" until we were taking the classes and he saw what I would be going through. I would still like for him to want to pamper me a little bit more... More
Answered By: moongoddess209 - 6/25/2007
Sammie, Sammie. . . Whether you love or care for your partner or not, if you love and care for your child it is time for you two to get married before your child is born. I don't know what country you live in, but go to your local courthouse and get a marriage license and certificate to legally legitimize your child... More
Answered By: good_old_bastard - 6/25/2007
After watching many birth day stories on discovery health i believe your question is quite common. Everybody worries. He might not be showing it but i believe he is nervous. Maybe he needs a lil' guidance or maybe he's just in shock. Either way i believe he will be your heart and rock when it comes to the labor and... More
Answered By: Jennifer C - 6/25/2007
Guys can get caught up in the emotion of the moment of birthing. My mom told me that my dad, the math whiz, was so nervous he couldn't count right for her lamaze breathing... More
Answered By: sassy sarah - 6/25/2007
i wouldnt say i would agree or disagree with what he is doing, but when i had my baby (she is only 4 1/2 months old) all i wanted him to do was be in there, i didnt care if he counted for me or anything like that, and really when it came down to it, all he did was watch and hold a leg, but he was there and it made me... More
Answered By: tanker015 - 6/25/2007
try a doula..they aren't cheap, but are supposed to be worth it, and they take the "pressure" (for lack of better word) off your partner..If you guys are together and you are both looking forward to being parents, enjoy having him there, talk to him about your concerns..maybe you should print out your question and let... More
Answered By: Nicole B - 6/26/2007
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