What should I do with my out-of-work husband?
I have been married for over a year. We have been living together for 2 and half years. He has never had a job even though I have gotten him interviews and job offers in the fields that he said are his dream jobs, i.e. video game developer and pyrotechnic apprentice. His excuse if that he is going to school. He is taking 3 college classes a semester and is getting paid $1200/mo from the GI bill (our rent is $1250). I pay all bills even though he gets paid. He plays his Xbox360 for over 40hrs/wk including all Friday and Saturday nights. He sees nothing wrong with this and oh, I am in the middle of medical school. What do you think?
Asked By: lostandstressed - 7/3/2007
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If this is for real, my own question is why do you keep this guy? Dump him.
Answered By: la buena bruja - 7/3/2007
Additional Answers (19)
you must love him cuz he is still your man. suck it up and pay the bills
Answered By: chicago floater - 7/3/2007
Turn him into a homeless out of work husband.
Answered By: GORDO BLAKHART - 7/3/2007
I think the writing was on the wall, and for whatever reason you still wanted this bum. So....either realize you will be the one providing for your family, or find a man who understands the need to be part of the team....not just the member who benefits from it.
Answered By: wendy - 7/3/2007
A marriage is a partnership where both parties are in agreement with who does what. If you LIke being the breadwinner and allowing him to be a lazy little boy, fine. You married a child. He needs time to grow up, adn in 2.5 years, you haven't helped him do that - I think you should let him go til he becomes a man.
Answered By: ICARRESS - 7/3/2007
Wow, you should kick that bum out!
Answered By: sweetgurl13069 - 7/3/2007
I don't want to bad talk your hubby....but my father didn't work for years and left my mother to take care of me and him... More
Answered By: Alicia F - 7/3/2007
Well, you picked the guy so it is your judgment call. I would have imagined girls going to medical schools are high achievers and most stay single until they are done so there are no distractions. You seem to have chosen against the norm so what can I say?
Answered By: Sir Richard - 7/3/2007
im going to have to agree if you put up with it this long you don't have a problem with it so just try to get him to be more domestic or.......You could start going out and hanging out with your med-friends and doing things of that nature he will then try to better himself a little... More
Answered By: email@example.com - 7/3/2007
This is a huge flashback for me. I dated a guy with the same situation for 4 years. He never tried and didnt want to better himself, he constantly used me as an ATM and it got to the point where I couldnt get past the resentment for him as I was working my ass off so he could do nothing... More
Answered By: Ember - 7/3/2007
Trade him in on a newer model.
Answered By: DonPedro - 7/3/2007
I would stop paying all the bills and let him figure out how to pay them. And if things didn't change i would decide if i wanted it to continue to be this way or if I was ready to make a change.
Answered By: turtle69 - 7/3/2007
what you need to do is stop him from sitting on his but, time for him to get a job and start paying the bills. time for him to put up or time to get out.
Answered By: luckystar - 7/3/2007
Sounds like you are being taken advantage of. He found someone with a very promising and highly paid career. He does NOT look at you as his his wife but as an ATM machine where he can make a with-drawl whenever, where ever he pleases. Hate to say this but if you had a daughter with this guy what would you been telling... More
Answered By: MsCuRvy0 - 7/3/2007
Give yourself a time limit on how long you plan to continue to put up with his using you. Let him know, nicely, that you would appreciate him kicking in on the rent since he gets $1200 a month. Sit down with him and ask him where he sees himself, and your relationship in 5 years or 10 years, when he thinks he will... More
Answered By: amysaysrelax - 7/3/2007
1- call your local military recruiter (army, navy, marines, air force, coast guard, whicheva... More
Answered By: Princess - 7/3/2007
Sounds to me like you found yourself dating a grown up child. Seriously. You are the mom taking care of everything, setting up his job interviews, picking up applications, and paying the bills while he sits, like every other teenager in the world, playing his video games. I'm not so sure that after completing... More
Answered By: Hollynfaith - 7/3/2007
First of all I must say that you did live with him for quite a while and you had to have seen this before the marrige.....wow. But love is blind so I can understand....but if you habe to do this........when he's away one day running an errand.....hide all his stupid games at a friends house, clean up only your messes... More
Answered By: heather m - 7/3/2007
What is he doing with his money?!? How is he going to school if he is spending so much time with his video games. The first thing you need to do is stop being his mother. Let him find his own job interviews. Sit down during dinner or plan a quiet evening where you can openly and honestly express your feelings... More
Answered By: answergirl - 7/3/2007
Divorce papers should be your next investment. They will be cheaper than keeping him in the long run.
Answered By: Tex - 7/3/2007
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