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Based on my personality and being a female, will it be hard for me in the military?

I'm a 19 year old female was considering enlisting, either active or reserve. I want to serve my country and I always do a job the best I can and have good integrety, and love physical challenges, but I'm worried about the people. So I'm definately not a partier, still a virgin, and don't use rough language, I guess I could be considered really innocent. I love people and always try to get along with everyone but Im just worried about things I've heard. I've heard multiple times from some of my friends who served that there's constantly parties, and alot of that pressure and that there are alot of r**e cases. I want to enlist but I'm worried I guess. Will it be hard for my type? Does anyone have any thoughts?

Asked By: g_to_the_m - 7/18/2007
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You shouldn't have any problems in the military....no matter what branch of the service you decide to join. There are people on active duty and in the reserves that mirror you exactly.

There are parties, but there are also parties in the civilian world. Not all parties are the same...just like in the civilian world. Some people are responsible and host/ess a great party. Then, there are others that are just wild and anything goes. You will be able to tell the difference. If you should happen to attend a wild party, listen to that little voice wispering in your ear. In other words, get the heck out of dodge!! There are command parties that are great. You get to meet, eat, and talk to everyone on base or your department that are off duty. These parties don't involve any alcohol, and some are required that you attend....if only to show your face.

The military is a snap shot of the everyday people you see on the streets. Being such, the same things happen on base as they do off base. As you mentioned, r**e, theft, murder, fights, etc. do occur If compared to any city, no base would match up to any city as far as crime rate goes. If a base does have a crime problem, the commanding officer (CO) and law enforcement department are either on the hot seat or it's warming up.

You sound as though you are level headed and will plan your career before you make any type of commitment. THINK about what type of work you like to do, or would like to do. Pick your job that encompasses that and go for it. Also, I would encourage you to look at the officer programs for the branch of service that you choose. All branches offer the G.I. Bill, as well as tuition assistance, and even an opportunity to go to that service's academy...as in West Point for Army, Annapolis for Navy and Marines, the Air Force Academy, or the Coast Guard Academy. They all have good programs that can take you from an E-1 recruit, to the academy, and out the other side as an officer. Once an officer, your limit is your ability. There are accreditted college courses offered on base as well as aboard ship (Navy). Of course there are online courses, and the different services have courses available via their own websites that will enhance your abilities at no cost.

The military is not always easy, and it's not always hard either. Once you get the hang of things and understand how things work, life in the military is no different than civilian life. There is a time to work, and a time to play. You have responsibilities and accountability. You get vacation and you will be required to work overtime. If you know your job and perform your duties well, you get promotions, and there are even bonuses and pay raises. Oh, don't count on always getting a christmas bonus. Your medical and dental is free. A place to stay is free or at a reduced rate if on base. Even food on base is free or at a very reduced rate on base. Ahh, not all dining facilities are the same. There are VERY few places outside of the military where you can pay around $6 or less and eat all you can handle, no matter what is on the menu.

Don't let people try to scare you with horror stories, or tell you that the military is some kind of milk and honey society. It's hard, not everyone makes it through training, and what you did yesterday has nothing to do with what needs to be done today. It only means you may have experience in dealing with a similar situation.

Once you complete basic training, you are considered a professional. People respect you and the uniform you wear, and you should honor that respect by living up to what is expected of you. If you respect yourself, and what you have accomplished, it's as easy as Sunday morning.

Talk to the recruiters, get the information you need from them and service websites, and make your decision. Do NOT take it lightly. Years down the road you will look back and judge your decision.

I think you will adapt to military life and do just fine. Good luck!!!
Answered By: Airdale - 7/18/2007
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I dont think it will be that hard I had friends that had personalities like you and had no problems in the marine infantry.
Answered By: Dustin W - 7/18/2007
No it won't be hard for you at all.I went in the Army when I was 17 and had never really been anywhere except the one horse town I lived in.I traveled to 8 different countries even was in combat this was in 78-82.I was in some conflicts most people don't even know about.El Salvador.Honduras,Panama and others like Bogota,anyway you will have a decent time and meet a lot of different people.I would choose Air Force or Navy,seems like the schools are better.Good luck!
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Answered By: Steven - 7/18/2007
Just stay true to yourself and do what you feel is the best for all the ppl u will b fiting 4. and girls can do anything guys can do. Good luck.
Answered By: vegetarianna24 - 7/18/2007
I have been in the military for 18 years now. There are parties, but the military of today is a lot different than in the 80s. Parties and such are sort of a thing of the past. They happen, but there is not pressure for you to go. There are quite a few people in my unit who do not drink and have very high morals. The military needs high integrity, hard workers, and people who truly believe in the mission. I think you will fit in and I strongly encourage you to enlist in the active. Good luck.
Answered By: Guy - 7/18/2007
We need people like you in the US Military. Your question is a good one. Based on what you say, you might be better off to make a deal for educational support and go in as an officer rather than enter as enlisted personnel
Answered By: billnzan - 7/18/2007
Yes: Because to make it in the military you have to be thick skinned.

In theory you should be able to go in to the military like any other job and have a harassment free work place. Reality is the military is 24/7 so even off work you are still in a close knit social group that leads to things happening that in the normal college or work place you would not be exposed to. Add to that being overseas or a long way from home and it makes it worse.
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Answered By: RomeoMike - 7/18/2007
Join the military as a Chaplains Assistant!
then find a nice Christian Man with the same values in the military.
Answered By: D. M. - 7/18/2007
I dont blame you for being worried but just do what you have to do if its in you to serve then go for it after you enlist in the military people will respect you honor you and salute you for being a hero you shouldnt worry about poeple worry about your job becuase when you are out there serving your protecting us the only thing i could tell you is do what you have to do ok be and stay safe be a hero.
Answered By: jesus g - 7/18/2007
I'll let you in on a secret, as long as you have boobs you'll do GREAT in the military, you'll get some cozy back office job that lets you sit in the A/C all day, you'll get promoted ahead of more deserving males, you'll get lots of attention and you can cry your way out of trouble 99?f the time....
Answered By: Colbert Nation - 7/18/2007
You sound like me when I first went in to the army. None of the things you mention set an alarm off for me. I would consider maybe going in as an officer rather than enlisted. A commission would suit you better personality-wise. You can look in to ROTC and get a degree out of the deal too.

As far as what you have heard, there aren't any more parties than in highschool or college.

You get out of it what you put in to it. With that said, often you build on what you already have in the military. The best of luck to you. Contact me if you need any specifics from another female in the military.
Answered By: armypoetess - 7/18/2007
I disagree with most of the post saying you will do well, Bad company will corrupt good company it's as simple as that.

First all rough language is always used in the military. I'm sorry but that is how it is and you will be tempted to do the same.

Parties like going out and getting drunk and passing out only to miss with work with five hours of your life missing is a big NO NO in the military because they will not tolerate that.

r**e and sex scandals are always gone to be around if you isolate men from women because there is always one guy in the group you can't be too sure about. If you are raped you will either be threaten with your life or even worst the individual will try to cover it up and kill you making it look like a accident. Also don't expect the Army to be too happy if you come out and tell the world that you were raped thus giving a bad reputation

If your worried about losing your virginity then I recommend you stay out of the Navy. Look at the percentage of women who get pregnant out at sea then you will agree with me. I'm not saying you will not be pressured if you join another branch because I'm sure you will.

Anyways I have no question in my mind that someone with your type of abiliity will be able to handle basic training. Just keep your mouth shut and try to stay in the middle(don't try to impress and don't be weak) or else you will become a focus point for a drill sargent and that is deffinitly not fun.

After basic things get really easy in AIT. It stays that way unless you are sent to Iraq(everyone hates that place). But lucky for you, your a woman and the military tries to keep it's women in the back.
Answered By: kasey... - 7/18/2007
I do not think you will have any troubles at all I think you will be fine, yea sometimes people have parties but you don't have to attend and you will make allot of good friends who will watch you back, just don't put out to the first fool you run into and keep your nose clean you will be fine.
Answered By: Vince - 7/18/2007
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