PSH and people said public schools where bad influeces...
mii culo -.-
Answered By: Bekky - 8/28/2007 |
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Talk to his counselors at his school. I'm sure they deal with this all the time and they can either help you or recommend where to get help. I'm sorry for you and hope you get the help you and your family needs.
Answered By: Precious - 8/28/2007 |
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It's a phase most parents go though in life
you will get passed it, be patient
Answered By: A***n G - 8/28/2007 |
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We dont always LIKE our children, we just haev to rememebr to keep on LOVING them. Same goes for our spouses, parents, siblings....etc etc. They arent always one in the same. I have a 13 year old so I KNOW!!
Answered By: Betsy - 8/28/2007 |
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THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!! You love your kids, you don't always have to like them. But feel confident that he will probably grow up (mature) and you can again have a healthy relationship.
Answered By: LaraLouLa - 8/28/2007 |
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I think that you and your son needs to go to therapy.
No you are not a bad parent for feeling like that.
Answered By: Marla - 8/28/2007 |
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Wow i dont know what to say im sorry. your not a bad parent im sure u still love him somewere inside of you.
maybe he will never chagne and leave ur house and u can go visit himwhen he gets older
Answered By: danielaa - 8/28/2007 |
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In another question you said you were a single mom. which is it?
Answered By: Mama Carrie - 8/28/2007 |
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Maybe you should see a therapist. You have a lot to deal with and you should go through it alone. They can help you cope with your situation and maybe get a better bond with your son.
Answered By: Krystal S - 8/28/2007 |
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Is he on medication? Does he need to be on medication? Does his medication need to be changed? It sounds as if you have your hands full. Can you talk to someone at his school to see what they suggest?
Answered By: Noah's Mommy - 8/28/2007 |
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You obviously have a parenting problem. I can't help you. I really don't understand wht there is no mention of a psychiattrist for you...and your kid.
Answered By: chrispkreme333 - 8/28/2007 |
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Well i don't have an answer for you but perhaps he feels alone cause he is the only one going to a special school for special kids, maybe it makes him feel inadequate. If you really are scared for your younger children turn him over to the state and let them handle him.
Answered By: Wishmaster - 8/28/2007 |
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AUTISIM IS A HARD DISFUNCTION TO DEAL WITH ESPECIALLY WITH SIBS. HAVE YOU THOUGHT OF A HOME FOR YOUR SON WHERE YOU CAN STILL SEE HIM HE SOUNDS DANGEROUS TO YOUR DAUGHTER.SORRY SOUNDS HARSH BUT I DEAL WITH AUTISIM & VIOLENT THREATS ARE A BAD SIGN
Answered By: serinity_rose76 - 8/28/2007 |
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I think what you are feeling is normal for a parent raising a troubled child. It's not that you don't like HIM. You love him, you just don't like some of his behavior. Maybe the two of you could go to counseling together. See if you can work out some of the communication barriers that are keeping you from having a healthy relationship. Be patient and kind. Love him unconditionally and keep trying. Hopefully, it will get better.
Answered By: Becky - 8/28/2007 |
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I drive for a school and do work between my runs for a school like ur describing dont feel like a bad parent its hard to deal with children like that i dont have one but im around them more than i am my own children keep ur head up n be there for them no matter what and if u feel ur other children r in danger there should be some place to call n get some help for him i assume hes on meds if hes in a school like that. Well hun good luck and i really hope something good will come from somewere for u n ur family
Answered By: paper doll - 8/28/2007 |
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It's not crazy at all. I've told my kids on a few occasions when they were acting up that I love them, but I didn't like them very much at that moment. They understand the difference.
Have you checked out boot camp type programs for people with the problems he is having?? Or some type of military school enviroment, a place where not only is there someone there to monitor him daily, but someone who can control him as well. Might be an option you need to consider so that everyone else in the home can feel safe.
Answered By: az_mommma - 8/28/2007 |
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My son had mental disabilities and mental diorders...i had trouble with him since he was 6yrs.old but he was a straight a student and graduated...your problems are worse cause he is threatening the other kids and yes he could be dangerous.hes a delinquent and you need to find help for him before he does something...there are hotlines you can call and talk to someone about this there are also organizations and groups out there too look in you phone book or even ask the therapist hes see now to see if him/her can recomend someone,but do it soon
Answered By: mary g - 8/28/2007 |
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You need to talk to him and and counsellor together. Autism is very complicated and he probably feels like a looser if his other siblings are different. You need to find out where did yout go wrong maybe spoilt him too much , cos he has a disability and did not set the boundaries early on. And it is hard when he has reached his teenage as it can be a serious test for parents. TEll him you love him and just want him to respect you and cooperate!
Answered By: Lindsay - 8/28/2007 |
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My heart goes out to you. I can't speak from experience but I know several really good people in your situation.
Here's my best advice: pray daily with your family, alone and especially with your spouse. There is such peace in seeking God's help when you just can't face another day. Perhaps the answer is something simple that you can start doing right away that will gradually make things better. Sometimes when life seems impossible and the problems just won't go away, all you can pray for is that God will strengthen you so that you can face it.
Make sure you have something to look forward to every week like dinner out or sending the kids to the movies together so you have an peaceful evening at home.
Take deep breaths and keep a prayer in your heart. You were sent here to do an important work and you will succeed.
Answered By: annie - 8/28/2007 |
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G'day. There really should be a place for people like this. There is nothing you can do until he wakes up to himself, and that depends on his personality. As soon as he is old enough, get him a job and cut him loose. Protect the rest of your family. There is nothing you can do for him until he is ready to admit he is in the wrong... and that is unlikely to happen while he is leading the easy life sponging off you. Yes, any kid (or adult) that treats his/her family that way IS sponging off them. Everyone has to earn there place in life and alow everyone else the right to a nice life. Cut him loose. He can always come back when he's ready to be a reasonable person. If not, concentrate on your other kids. Best of luck. Bruce
Answered By: tredbruce138 - 8/28/2007 |
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Just keep hoping because you cant give up on your kids put him in a juvenile detention center or some correctional facility you can straighten him out some way
Answered By: Miss NeNe - 8/28/2007 |
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My advice is to start praying for him. Ask God to allow you to see him the way HE does. I know how it feels to love your child, but to not always like them. I have a sixteen year old too. Prayer helps a lot, also, I would suggest finding a counselor or a Psychologist to help him deal with his anger.
Answered By: KIMMY - 8/28/2007 |
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Try boading School or milatary school.
Answered By: K S - 8/28/2007 |
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Don't worry....I hate crazy people too.
Answered By: Aleema D - 8/28/2007 |
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You are a good mommy
My Papa ince told me He loved me but didn't like all that I did
I now tell that to my ladys. it is true love is always there but we all know they do things we hate
Answered By: Marvelgirl - 8/28/2007 |
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