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How do I deal with women who don't approve of my pregnancy?

We are going to a friend's wedding in a few weeks. There are going to be a lot of people from my work there, and the women have particularly negative attitudes toward pregnancy. They are all career-focused, and see motherhood (and especially pregnancy) as a weakness and a deficiency. So, I am expecting a lot of mean and sarcastic comments about how I am "procreating at an alarming rate" and am "subjecting myself to typical female stereotypes." My husband says to just pay no attention. But I am the sort of person who likes to stand up for my own convictions. What can I do/say to defend my choices without being rude and petty?
By the way, I am not some high school drop out who started having kids at 15 without any means to support them. I had my first at 25, and am now pregnant with #2 at the age of 27. I have a Bachelors and a Masters degree, and am now working on my PhD at an Ivy League school. But obviously, my children are a priority, so I can't advance in my degree and my career as quickly as women who don't have kids.
I am not judging women who have kids at 15 or at 45, or never at all. It's just none of my business. I just always get comments that 25 and 27 is too young to have kids, and I absolutely disagree.

Asked By: sleepsheepnyc - 9/7/2007
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Too young to have kids??? Studies show that it becomes more and more difficult and dangerous to conceive after 30 - although this is the trend, look around you and you'll see so many unfortunate couples who waited too long to conceive..."A woman’s fertility peaks at the age of 24. There is a gradual decrease in fertility after the age of 30, so a couple may take longer to conceive, or have to face problems of sub-fertility. More pregnant women in this age group will have undergone fertility treatment. ""http://www.health24.com/journey/Planning/3277-3283-3285,25474.asp

I am with you on this one! I have a University degree and am working towards a second degree, while managing Logistics, Transportation, & Customs for a large company, and I am now 3 months pregnant!! I do plan to continue with my education and advance my career, and I so badly want a family... balancing all of this says so much more about you! Let them become as masculine as they like, we have the gifted feminine bodies for a reason - no need to turn male/lesbian just for a career when you can have so much more. (lol maybe not the right thing to say!) I am extremely worried about what everyone will think (still have to spill the news) but ultimately their opinions will have no merit.... I did some research out of curiosity of your question, take a read!!!

"There is no influence so powerful as that of the mother." - Sarah Josepah Hale

We as mothers have the distinct privilege of playing a major role in the creation of new life. That we alone possess the physical nature unique for the job is an honor of breathtaking proportions. We hold in our hands the power to shape their world, to model integrity and morality. We have the power to inspire an ethical renaissance, starting one child at a time, in our very own homes. Motherhood offers us the challenge of raising a whole generation to greatness. We do it not only out of love…or duty.

"In rodents, hormonal events of single and multiple pregnancies and lactations appear to rework the female brain in ways that facilitate learning, memory, problem solving, stress reduction, and life-long cognitive activities."

"There are certainly more times in life when there are windows of brain development, when the brain is more plastic than at other times. Motherhood is one of those times," David Lyons, Stanford University primatologist.
Answered By: Betty - 9/7/2007
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You IGNORE them! Obvisly they are jealous and anyways you dont need that type of negativity in your life.
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32wks pregnant with #1
Answered By: wounderful - 9/7/2007
Just let them know mother hood is a beatuiful thing and it's not getting in the way of your goals!!! different people have different opinions about things and you are just doing what makes you happy don't worry about others!!! you don't need the extra stress! you will be w/ your husband show them how happy "both" of you are!!!
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27 Weeks pregnant
Answered By: Waiting on Isaiah Caden Dec 3!! - 9/7/2007
Tell them you do not appreciate their comments about your personal choices in life when you do not comment on theirs. Just becuase they are career oriented and you are not does not give them the right to say you are in the wrong. It is true, if you dont give them crap about their choices to not have kids, why should they give you crap about wanting a family?
Answered By: sugarplumfaerie52686 - 9/7/2007
Wow, they are that blatantly rude to make comments to you!

Your husband is right, you have to ignore them- they are close-minded ignoramuses to think that just because you want to be a mother you are throwing your life away. Being a mother is the highest calling a woman has.

Don't sit and defend yourself. Just tell them that you are comfortable with your choices and leave it at that. If you have to feel defensive that means you aren't sure of your convictions. Just be a nice person, and let them think their petty thoughts. If it becomes to much at work, I'd go to a superior.
Answered By: keevelish - 9/7/2007
Forget them. You don't need their approval to live your life and be happy. Maybe they're secretly jealous because no one wants to donate their s***m for them to contaminate the gene pool....
Answered By: Amber - 9/7/2007
Honestly ignore them like your hubby says...just smile at them with their rude comments...to be truthful I really think they are jealous that you are getting to have your cake and eat it too..... don't mind them... nothing you say is going to change their negative minds....
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21 weeks pregnant (22 weeks Saturday!)
Answered By: FenwayGeorge - 9/7/2007
Wow! I couldn't think of anything that wasn't rude! State your convictions and be proud of yourself! What an amazing woman you are! You have so much to be proud of! What a wonderful example you are setting for your children. To be successful both personally and professionally, I applaud you! You kick Butt!!!! Head up, beautiful smile and remember how you are going to be helping to make this world better by having kids who learn from a determined and strong mother.
Answered By: jenjfrost - 9/7/2007
Listen to your husband.
Answered By: krennao - 9/7/2007
If they say anything to you, they deserve for you to open up a wicked can of whoop a$$ on them. It is absolutely none of their business if you and your husband want to have 2 kids or 10 kids. If you can afford them and love them, that's what matters.

It's not as if you are a welfare mom and are just cranking out kids to get benefits. I suppose you could dish it back and comment that they haven't experienced what it is like to be a real woman if they've never been pregnant or given birth, but I'm sure you don't really believe that yourself so it would be disingenuous.

My final thought is that you don't need to answer them at all. Just smile and glow. They're probably secretly envious.
Answered By: RayeKaye - 9/7/2007
Why not just say - it is a good thing your mother didn't think like you or where would you be now?
Answered By: chiliswoman - 9/7/2007
I would tell them I feel sorry for them because they are missing out on one of the most wonderful, beautiful, life altering things a woman can experience. When all is said and done and their lives are over they won't be remembered by co workers and what they did at work. They will be remembered by their kids and if they don't have any then in my opinion they didn't do a whole lot with their lives. Good for you for knowing family is more important than careers but still getting out there and having one. Sounds like you have maintained a balance in your life and that to me spells success.
Answered By: wazup_dude2007 - 9/7/2007
You dont.
dont subscribe to ignorance. and dont let anybody judge you. Even if you were a 15 yr old h.s. drop out or an Ivy League Grad. THEY dont live your life THEY arent gonna raise your kids.
You are doing something greater than you realize. YOu may not get the deserved praise and appreciation but Motherhood is the greatest gift you can give to anyone.
I understand your dilemma, and its hard to deflect such remarks during pregnancy but hold your head high.

I know you want to defend your honor but why argue with fools?
Answered By: jean grey - 9/7/2007
If they start bragging about all of the things that they get to do in their career field, I would start bragging about the same things that I get to do in my career field and also the things I get to experience as a mother. Maybe they will see that you are accelerating just like them in the career field, yet they can't experience the family thing b/c they don't have kids. This is their loss. Congrats on your second one by the way. I had my frist at age 23 and now am going to have my second at age 26. I know how you feel.

Try even giving them an experience. Tell them that you missed your son/daughter all day while you were at work and when you got home and saw them, you starting crying and shed a tear or two in front of them. Don't be ashamed to do that....maybe they will see then how much being a mom means to alot of people.
Answered By: endlsjurny - 9/7/2007
Just ignore them! Its none of their business what you do with your life.

If you feel compeled to say something to them simply say "you are intitled to your opinion & I respect that but it just doesn't work for me I am a proud to be a mother"
Answered By: tmb - 9/7/2007
Ahahahaaa.....

tell them ..... i guess i'm just the type of woman that loves to be barefoot and pregnant.....this will throw them off in that you can use their own thoughts against yourself and show that you dont care what they think without really saying it : )

also can add that even though you are having children you still have time to earn a living and be a mom

can also just smile and say.....thank you .....i always appreciate comments on my life from ignorant people and then walk away...


B.
Answered By: ivan dog - 9/7/2007
These women shouldn't be attacking you because you have chosen to be a mother as well as a career woman, they sound very insecure with their own choices and are lashing out at you to feel better about themselves (much the way a bully reacts to others)

You have a couple of options, ignoring them is the best option when dealing with a bully.

A childish way would be to retort to "procreating at an alarming rate" with "well by time you hit the top of the ladder at work, procreating won't be an option for yea, but don't worry there is always adoption"

A more grown up responce would be something along the lines of "well I find my children to be a great inspiration and an excellent reason to strive harder to accomplish my goals, they motivate me to not only be the best career (or business) woman I can be, but to be the best person I can be all the time"

Good luck - and I salute you for your combination of career and motherhood
Answered By: Finchy - 9/7/2007
Why do you have to deal with them at all?
You're not going to change their beliefs.
I one day would like to have a child, however, I do sometimes get frustrated at pregnant women.
Could be because it seems as though I won't ever get to have a child, but sometimes feel rude towards them.
They expect to be allowed to go in line in front of me in the restroom, they expect for me to give them my seat when I may have had a tiresome day myself, then I have to give them presents.
I always think "This was YOUR choice NOT mine!" or "I have to go to the bathroom as well! Wait your turn!"
Or "I didn't get you pregnant, why should I have to pay for it by buying something YOU Picked out on your registry??"

It is juvenile of me to think that way, I completely understand that. And possibly it's my fears/frustration with procreation. I want to have a child, yet it's not happening for me.

I don't think you should do/say or defend your choice w/o being prompted.
Having someone THINK something as opposed to actually SAYING something to your face is completely different.
I never say those things I think to various pregnant women, I just think them.
Expecting comments is really a waste of time, most of them will probably be more concentrated on the bride, not the pregnant woman in the congregation.
Answered By: Amber P - 9/7/2007
First of all, if you were 15 and having a kid with no idea of how you're going to do to support that baby, hey! you're pretty mature to NOT have an abortion!...so don't judge 15 yrs old for CHOOSING to have these babies. Everyone is different and just like these women are judging you, you are judging these other women who you feel inferior to you.
My advise to you, is that when these women tell you something, just make it clear that you are old enough to make your own decisions and nobody has to be involved in them. Turn around and ignore them.
Good luck.
Answered By: ♥14.6wks*baby#1!!♥ - 9/7/2007
Tell them you don't want to hear their jealous remarks just because they are too afraid of failing at something really important in life like motherhood. :)

Enjoy the wedding.

You might want to say "This is (insert name here)'s day. Can I please just enjoy her beautiful wedding?"

I admire women like you. I have my children and I am a stay at home. I wish I could pursue a career, but being a mom in itself is SO difficult, there is no way I could manage both. Being a mom is a 24 hour job and even on the days you can't possibly pull yourself out of bed, you still have to manage to take care of yourself PLUS your babies. I don't have the energy to do more than I already do.
Answered By: USA Momma - 9/7/2007
I know how you must be feeling.... I am 26 and 38 &1/2 wks preg. with my first..
This is the same kind of comments I get from the group of friends I used to be before I got pregnant..I too feel very bad about those...
You should be proud of yourself of being a mother...
If you can bare that pain of pregnancy & child care ,you are doing the hardest job...Its not what everyone can do efficiently.
which probably they cannot do thats why they are thinking it as a weakness...
Afterall you are superior to them being a women thats where we are different from men and we should be proud of our feminism by being a mother....
Answered By: pamy - 9/7/2007
Well, they are completely... should I say... lame and annoying?

It's your life and it's not like you must follow the stereotype of those women. Just tell them that: you would never regret on what you did, at being pregnant. It's just pure pleasure!

Work isn't everything! Happiness is the most important, my dear friend!

Good luck with the "stereotype" friends! =D
Answered By: Unfaithfulicious - 9/7/2007
Tell them that God has blessed you with the chance of motherhood which is something they will probably never experience. Sounds like they are a little self centered on themselves. I don't think you really need to defend yourself. Just be you!!!
Answered By: sherryn75501 - 9/7/2007
I say that the women who are critical are jealous! Well to heck with them,ignore it. The ongoing debate of whether women can do both (have a career and be a mom) is a personal choice. I feel women should do what is best for them and what works for their own family.
Stand up for your convictions and keep doing what you are doing. You obviously have a good head on your shoulders.Congrats for having a great career and kids.In the long run how others feel doesn't matter!! Good Luck!!!!
Answered By: allmightyjaz - 9/7/2007
I like the rude approach it`s quick and to the point, and it`s not your fault they could`nt find anyone who wanted to be their s***m donor. tell them (gee i`m glad your mother was a typical female sterotype or you would`nt be here to cry about it.) or (gee that empty womb`s giving you an empty head.) or (wow christmas shopping will sure be easy for you this year since your list is so short) or you could just say nothing and smile at them like you know something they probley never will like holding your child in your arms for the first time after it`s born just blow them off their jealous
Answered By: crypt - 9/7/2007
Just say to them that you are the type of person who can obviously enjoy both children and a career! let them know that by choosing just there career they obviously cant multi task like you!

mum and pregnant with number 2
Answered By: allielea - 9/7/2007
Remind these "non-breeders" that you can be a strong career women without denying yourself of the pleasures of life. Work isn't everything, and it won't hold your hand when you are taking your final breathes. Make it light and happy in tone, not judgmental.

Otherwise, if you need to be stronger, let them know that the comments are rude and hurtful and that you thought business women of their caliber had more class then that. Then walk away and have a great time at your friends wedding.

Remember, it takes a very strong women to have two full time careers, motherhood and work. Seeing those of us that can do it, intimidated those that can't.
Answered By: buggerhead - 9/7/2007
Okay, obviously those women need to GROW UP...sounds like a petty high school attitude anyway that they are carrying on. Pregnancy & weakness DO NOT GO HAND IN HAND! What it comes down to is some type of insecurity they have, otherwise they wouldn't make comments. I would ignore them also, and not stimulate their conversation. One day life will pass them by.
Answered By: Lynnette T - 9/7/2007
I'm the same way as you. I often feel the need to stand up for what I think is right.

But, I would say ignoring them would be the best thing, if you feel the need to say something, however, be polite and tell them you would prefer if they kept their opinions to themselves. You don't go around judging them because they DON'T have children, why should they feel the need to tell you what your doing is wrong. So, it's not for them, but they shouldn't be judging because you're doing what makes you happy.
Answered By: Rosie - 9/7/2007
Well, tell them its lucky you are, because if all the women in the world were like them, it would mean the extinction of the human race.
Answered By: Elle - 9/7/2007
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The plan is that nurses and nurses practitioners will take data from patients (temperate, blood pressure, reports of pains, etc.), enter that into Watson, and Watson will order tests and make prescriptions and treatment plans. Unlike human doctors, Watson will KNOW EVERYTHING about medical science. Doctor errors currently kill about 100,000 patients per year in hospitals alone. Patients will DEMAND to be diagnosed by Watson (or other equivalent) & have a prescription by Watson, since studies will show that patients fare so MUCH better when Watson is their “doctor,” and the cost will be MUCH less. (7) Computers are now replacing the lawyers that formerly had to spend massive hours read through massive amounts of documents turned over to the opposing side in "discovery" in civil lawsuits. Documents now are turned over in digital form, and computers search in seconds them looking for key words and phrases. (8) Soon publishers will stop printing books on paper. Everyone will have an e-Reader device. That will be the END of every physical library and bookstore. (9) Soon computers will be able to general characters in movies that are indistinguishable from real humans. Not only actors will lose their jobs, but costume people, makeup people, scene construction people, camera operators, key grips, electricians, lighting experts, etc. (10) New machines are replacing the humans who pick vegetables in fields. (11) New machines are replacing human security guards. (12) Human airplane pilots, both in the military and in commercial service, will soon be extinct. The FAA has already approved testing of drone planes for commercial transportation of non-human cargo. (13) Most trades on Wall Street are already being made by computers. (14) The U.S. Postal Service is doomed. Paying thousands of people to drive around in little trucks to deliver little printed pieces of paper to each household each day is going to seem more and more like idiocy. (15) Most of the reviews and analysis currently being done by human accountants, actuaries, tax experts, and other financial analysts and consultants will be done must better, more more quickly, and much more accurately, by computers. (16) Web sites already are using computer programs to write the text for stories that report on sports games. The program integrates the statistics from the game into a story text that seems to have been written by a human being. (17)Most education at the college and high school level will soon be done online, eliminating a massive number of workers. Thus, GIGANTIC UNEMPLOYMENT, in the range of 70-80?is coming soon to the USA. This will result in Rio De Janeiro type slums all over the USA. That will result in calls for gov't wealth redistribution, which will result in Armed Revolution, Counter-Revolution, concentration camps, & Latin American-style death squads. The rich and ultra-rich are never going to let any government get control of their wealth. Huge bloody CONFLICT is coming. * * * Politicians keep repeating the old canard that the solution is to train and retrain Americans for the "jobs of the future." But they are either morons or are lying, since anyone who thinks about it can easily see that even if every American worker had an engineering degree or a computer science degree, the economy just doesn't need that many engineers and computer scientists. * * * * * * * Why don't more people see this? Why aren't more people talking about this? We are facing soon a catastrophe in the USA (and in other places) on par of the plagues in Europe that killed half of the population in certain areas, and on par with the depopulation in Europe brought about by WWI and WWII. Sure, you can just repeat the Luddite Fallacy, and proclaim that the economy will always create enough jobs for most people to survive. But there is no law of economics that says that any law of economics will always operate the same. Laws of economics are not like the laws of physics. Economies and life forms can and do evolve in fundamental ways that make former economic models and ways of life obsolete. I'm sure the last tribe of Neanderthals were certain that nothing was ever going to change, right before the Homo Sapiens swooped down on them, chased them into a dead end canyon were other Homo Sapiens were lying in wait with big clubs. * * * * * * * * * In the past the Luddite Fallacy was valid since machines always needed the mental acuity that only human operators could provide, and machines frequently needed maintenance by skilled human hands and minds. But now machines have mental functions that equal or surpass what humans can provide in most work functions. And computers aren't so much repaired anymore as just thrown away and replaced. How many cell phone repair shops have you ever seen? Even most laptop computers are replaced rather than repaired. More and more laptop computers never even need to be repaired for years and years. In short, when the economy has no use for most Americans, all h*ll is going to brake loose, & that's coming soon. * * * * *
2 answers - Asked By: Perro Americano Invicto - 5/16/2013
L want to study medicine and work as a doctor but l am limited due to luck of required monyes. however l swtched on to anther career but still within my career interests as a care giver, but this is somthing to do with sales and marketing in the pharmcitical industry.
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I received the following email from these guys: "Hello, my name is Susan Collins and I am Personnel Manager of Audit Sales Company Inc. and will be your supervisor. Thanks for sending us your job application. We'd love to bring you on board. The reason for this email is to touch base with you as a potential candidate for the position we are currently looking to fill (Audit Sales Representative). You replied to our online job posting and I would like to take a moment to familiarize you with who we are. Audit Sales is the worldwide leader in temporary financial staffing, providing excellent opportunities in the areas of accounting, bookkeeping, credit and collections, data entry, finance, payroll, audit and tax. Our relationships with top companies ensure that our employees enjoy competitive pay, and dynamic and ongoing assignments with the best opportunities for temporary and temporary-to-full-time employment. Since opening our doors in 1990 we are recognized as a top performing firm for the Midwest region and have expanded all over USA, Canada and Europe. Future goals include expanding offices to multiple markets across the country. Having gained operational experience in Intern Audit Inc., I recommend all new employees to treat seriously every small detail they may encounter in the course of their work. You have a real chance to obtain quick promotion in the nearest future if our management is satisfied with your job results. Audit Sales Representative is an entry level position that involves transfer of funds from Audit Sales to our client's via Representative's account, consequently eliminating any transfer holds. We don't require any previous experience for this job. We are looking for a trustworthy person to process payments sent from AuditSales.bz to our clients. We will provide an Representative with detailed instructions for payment processing operations including invoices, contracts and all documents regarding current sale. Funds that are deposited into your account comes directly from our company and the funds are sent via instant money transfer service within the USA ( bank wire transfer). You will always be aware exactly where the money is coming from and where it is going. For additional security we provide Invoices and contracts for all transactions completed. We offer a couple types of compensation packages: either performance based pay or base salary plus commission. Of course, details are discussed during your trial period (3 months). When funds enter employee's bank account, Wire Transfer Representative's duty is to withdraw cash and process the funds. The main advantage of our services is the shortest possible time within which the client can receive money for the services/goods. If this operation is delayed, our clients are entitled to cancel their contract with us and we suffer financial loss. Therefore, successful applicant must be very responsible and careful! Our company can guarantee $2,500 base salary + 5?ommission for every transaction done. Working with our company guarantee's you a safe relationship and licensed establishment. If you would like to apply to this vacancy and inquire more detailed information, please fill out our online job application via our secure website: http://www.AuditSales.bz/index.php?action=login BEFORE YOU APPLY PLEASE REVIEW THE FULL JOB DESCRIPTION. We'd like to get started as soon as possible, so please complete the online application today. You will also need to take an online interview when applying for this job opening. If you have any questions/issues please replay to this email. -- Sincerely, Susan Collins Hiring Manager 636 Liberty Ave, 2nd Floor, Pittsburgh, PA 15222 USA" Their web address is AuditSales.bz I have not been able to find anything out about these guys, so I'm thinking that is red flag number one right off the bat.... But has anyone encountered these guys before? Wayne Z - I tried doing a domain search and had no luck, although I didn't exactly give it a thorough attempt.. You have confirmed what I needed to know. Kittysue - The funny thing is I never even sent them my resume! I responded to the posting on Craigslist asking for more information about the company/position and I got that in return, but I gave them absolutely no other information. The whole thing threw up so many red flags.
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