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Someone tell me how I can escape from death and misery cause I am gay?

I think I am gay and the only way to run from the fact is to get a job which keeps me away from the phobics. I am in University studying commerce and also studying for certified public accountant of Kenya. I have tried weird jobs like asking about joining the intelligence service(something I am good at from childhood brainwise) I am however shortsighted(not feet for other forces).In Kenya being gay is hard and so I think I may have to shift to another country. If only I could get a sponsor to take me abroad(we are a poor family). I tried to commit suicide while in high school but thought it would end after school(I was once about to be lynched).The same people are in University, I am now planning suicide after everything fails. I once went to a psychologist cause of depression after school(I do not think he realized) I had failed terribly and had to repeat(no one knows why I failed)

Asked By: nino_mike - 9/17/2007
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Don't commit suicide. First of all, you don't want to end it that way. There are countries that accept the gay lifestyle. Like France and Netherlands.

I had a relative that was gay and he ended his life. Think of how you would hurt your friends and family if you did commit suicide. Also, think of the things you would miss out on in life. This is NOT the way to go. I am straight, but I do believe gay people should be able to live a full life like any other person.
Answered By: intrepid18 - 9/17/2007
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Dude, first I don't support the gay lifestyle nor do I like them around me.

With that said, suicide is not the answer. If you really feel you have to be gay, then move to Amsterdam. They love gay people there.
Answered By: k9guy07 - 9/17/2007
Just accept what is, stop resisting life.
Answered By: J E - 9/17/2007
Look, being gay is actually perfectly normal no matter what the idiots say! there r gay horses and penguins and stuff so of corse its natural. i suggest u try and move. i dunno where u live right now but i kno that in central london and brighton (uk) and stuff there r loads of gay ppl and you could b acepted, also amsterdam i heard is an acepting place.
Answered By: meeee! - 9/17/2007
IF you think your life is in danger because of being gay, you should behave very cautiously. There are millions of gay people in the world, and many lead successful and happy lives. Try to take care of your fear and depression, work at what you do, one day at a time, learn how to lift your spirits because you are in a bad place mentally.
At least you are free and that is a great blessing.
As the years pass, and you learn to survive your depression, and learn how to live correctly so that you remain free, circumstances will change. Opportunities will come along for you to do meaningful things with your life.
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Answered By: Luci D. - 9/17/2007
Jesus can take care of all those problems. He loves you more than you can love yourself. I recommend studying the bible for answers. And find a bible teaching support group. What you probably have is something we call a stronghold. It can be caused by neglect,abuse, or some other trauma you may have experienced. But you can be comletely restored. And as you recover God wants to use you to help others. There is hope. Call 1-800-759-0700 if you need help right now.
Answered By: JesusIsTheAnswer - 9/17/2007
Suicide is not the answer. i have a few gay friends who are very successful. you need to accept who you are. and those who don't accept who you are, well that is their loss because i am sure that you are great and smart person and have a lot to offer the world. and if kenya is not the place for you then there are lots of other places that need a good cpa. i could always use one. lol at any rate being gay is not an easy thing and maybe you could use some therapy to help you come to terms with it. i have never believed that being gay is a choice that you make it is who you are. but if you commit suicide then you have let the ignorrant win and that is not good either. look around and see if you can find a sponser who will help you study abroad. don't give up, you will be great at what ever you do and that has nothing to do with your sexual preference. i hope that this helps and god bless
Answered By: kckmellons - 9/17/2007
Believe this if nothing else and know that this is a fleeting situation for you, because you are getting educated. When you leave school, look for a life in another country, you need to get away from the medieval thinking. There is nothing wrong with you or that you are gay.... there is something wrong with the people who do not accept it and treat you bad for it... people like that are closed minded and very self righteous. They do not know how to open their minds, because of the brainwashing that has gone on with their upbringing, how their parents taught them, which is usually warped. Get through school. Get away. You have no idea what it could be like for you and you never will, if you check out. You can be happy there are people that will accept you. Being gay is not something to committ suicide over. You are to smart and to good to do that. Do not stand by and let people murder you, that is what suicide is, it is for the weak and you do not sound weak. You have to look at the big picture. That means, where you are and what you are going through will be over quicker than if you think about what a great life you could have somewhere else. There are thousands of people who could give a crap if your gay. In my city there is a huge gay community. DO NOT LET PEOPLE MURDER YOU, with their hangups. They are clueless and sad. Good Luck, get out of school with the best grades you can and start your life somewhere else. Make this just a bad memory and not the end of your life.
Answered By: kittenlove - 9/17/2007
You need to join some on line support groups to deal with the fact that you are gay (i would say to talk to a psychiatrist) but they are expensive and you said you do not have money...you will not be happy with yourself or your life until you realize that you cannot run from your sexuality...i hope this helps!!!
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straight female happily married with a child on the way...but i do not believe that people choose to be gay i think you are born that way and the only way to deal with it is to accept your sexuality and then find ways to cope with it...i wish you all the luck in the world!!!
Answered By: CHELBY H - 9/17/2007
You're living under a great deal of stress and negativity. That is why you see no way out of it, but suicide.

Is there a gay community located somewhere in your country? If so, move there. If not, your thoughts of shifting to another country is a good idea.

You are being persecuted. Anyone would feel helpless and hopeless under these conditions.

Stay strong. Look into your options more. Take action. You can be happy and live a life of peace in the right place without bullies breathing down your neck.
Answered By: Marguerite - 9/17/2007
Start saving up money. I'm also a university student. Part of being more confident in who you are, is to be more confident in your sexuality. It's not like you chose to be gay. Just like I didn't choose to be straight. It's a genetic thing. So, love yourself, and others will love you, no matter the sexuality. And like I said, start saving. That's my best advice. If you can, set aside anywhere from say...5-15?f any pay you get. After a while, that will add up, and you'll be able to leave. But until then, just keep your head up. Things will get better.
Answered By: kari_lively - 9/17/2007
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