I am a stay at home mom. I love my job. Contrary to what some people may say, it is a real job - you are raising your children and managing a household. However, I used to be (up until about a year ago) a working mom. And, honestly, I have found that now that I'm staying home, I do have it a lot easier. When I was working full time outside the home, it was horrible. It was hectic all of the time, and it was always rush rush rush rush rush and bust my butt all day at work at a full time job outside of the home, only to get off of work and have to go home and do another fulltime job there in a fraction of the time that stay at home parents had to do it. I would get up at 3:45 a.m., rush to shower, get dressed, eat breakfast. At 4:00 a.m., I would get the kids up, dress them, feed them, scramble to get diaper bags packed. 4:45 a.m., load the kids in the car, drive for 30 minutes in heavy traffic to the babysitters 5:15 a.m. - drop kids off at baby sitter's (feeling horribly guilty) 5:45 a.m. - arrive at work, rush to clock in. 6:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. - bust my butt at my job (nursing) outside the home all day, dealing with crap from bosses, doctors, co-workers, patients, paperwork, and a ton and a half of stress. 5:00 p.m. clock out, rush to baby sitter's to pick up my crying kids. 5:40 p.m. arrive home after a hellish 40 minute car ride in rush hour traffic with screaming kids. Rush rush rush rush ( over a two hour time period) to make supper, set the table, do the dishes, sweep, vaccum, clean, do laundry, yard work, run errands, get groceries, spend 15 to 20 minutes with the kids (usually spent giving baths), put them to bed, and then wake up a few hours later only to do the whole hellish, hectic routine over again.
Now that I am a stay at home mom, I am able to relax a little. I don't have a boss or annoying co workers, no deadlines, no crabby patients. I am able to spend as much time with my children as I want. A typical day in the life for me staying at home is this: 6:30 a.m. or 7:30 a.m. - wake up, take a nice shower, eat breakfast at leisure, get dressed. 8:00 or 8:30 - the kids wake up, I get them up, dressed and feed them an unrushed, unhurried breakfast. 9:15 a.m. - throw in a load of laundry, play with my kids, straighten up the house, maybe go to playgroup. 12:00 p.m. - make lunch for the kids and feed them or if we need to run some errands, we drive into town to meet their daddy for lunch , and buy groceries and run errands. After lunch is playtime - we go to the park, read books, play with toys, sing silly songs, play games, play outside (right now they're all about jumping in piles of leaves - lol!) 3:00 is naptime (usually, unless they don't want to take a nap that day). During this time I finish up laundry, deep clean the house, and have some ME time (a totally new concept - didnt' have that at ALL when I was working full time outside the home). 4:30 or 5:00 p.m. - kids wake up from naps. They play while I make supper, which is ready when my husband comes home. After supper, I wash dishes and then we have unrushed time to actually spend together as a family. It's wonderful. I love it. And yes, compared to working two full time jobs (one inside the home and one outside the home) - I do have it easy compared to the way it used to be when I worked full time, and compared to working parents. I love it and wouldn't trade it for the world. Count your blessings! It's easy to get discouraged sometimes and to get "sucked into the vortex" of "it's so stressful here at home and people don't think this is a real job and on and on and on" I've never though that for a minute but I can see why some people feel that way- remember - your worst day as a stay at home mom is still 10 times better than your best day at the office! Chin up and good luck! God bless!
*Edit* - it just amazes me at some of the other answers on here. I'm a stay at home mom and I have a ton of respect for working moms. They are up before the crack of dawn, many to be TO WORK by 6:00 a.m. (as I used to have to do), that means being up by 3:30 a.m. to get the kids up and ready as well as yourself. Their day doesn't end when they clock out as one answerer assumed - it STARTS when they clock out - that's when working parents have to go home and do another full time job in a fraction of the time. When I worked, I was lucky if I got to bed before 11:00 p.m. And as for this "stay at home moms are always on call 24/7" - yeah but hello - so are working moms and not only for their kids, but for their jobs too! Who do you think stays up with a working parent's sick kid all night? THE WORKING PARENT! And guess what - daycares don't take sick kids. As I said before I stay home, and you know what, a working parent's job is never easy. They do everything a stay a t home parent does, they just have to do it in a fraction of the time plus they have to do their full time gig outside the home on top of that!
Answered By: ~*Mrs. GM2*~ - 10/10/2007