Is it better to be liked or respected?

Here is the article that discussed women and anger. It was published in the New York Times: It says, "Women have to choose between being liked but not respected, or respected but not liked." Do you agree? Do you think we're 'damned if we do, doomed if we don't'? thanks, rebirth!

Asked By: Jo - 11/2/2007
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i strongly agree with you with my experiences as a professional woman in a very male dominant field. I have lost a job for being wishy washy and also for being too forward. I have been seen as lacking knowledge for being nice and saying please and have been treated with less respect from my colleagues who i continued... More
Answered By: uz - 11/2/2007
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I'd say young women want to be liked & respected. Remember you must EARN the respect of others, I am 50 & don't care if someone likes me or not as long as i get the respect i deserve
Answered By: Amanda H - 11/2/2007
thats sour grapes, anyone who treats people right can be liked AND respected.
Answered By: baserunner316 - 11/2/2007
I can only answer as a male boss , It is better at least in the work place to be respected When I started out in my business (The Pharmacy business) I tried to be a friend and confidant to my employees , I learned in 3 or 4 short months that it doesn't work It is better to be respected by far
Answered By: banjaxed - 11/2/2007
it is better to be liked or respected
Answered By: xnnyl76 - 11/2/2007
i would rather be respected. i don't ever want to change who i am or what i believe in for people to "like" me. they wouldn't like me they would like the person that i come off as.
Answered By: kk - 11/2/2007
in my opinion i think it would be better to be respected. I mean i would rather be liked by everyonebut if i had to chose, i would pick being respected, being respect is a great thing. If someone didnt like you, but they respected you, then they wouldnt be rude to you, or just plain out mean , they would have... More
Answered By: allaboutpink101 - 11/2/2007
Answered By: im2stupiddotcom - 11/2/2007
i would rather b respected(dont matter if u like me)
Answered By: *~$mz.hood$~* - 11/2/2007
I honestly believe that women can be liked as well as respected.... I would hope that its not one or the other... For me having respect is higher on my list then being liked... I think if the woman is genuine with herself and with others I believe they will be liked as respected, because it will show . a person doesn't... More
Answered By: tammy s - 11/2/2007
What a silly article. The same question would apply to men, but men have decided a long time ago that respect in the workplace is better than being liked.
Answered By: stockman - 11/2/2007
Not sure. It isn't all that important and you can't force a person to like or respect you, but if they do, well that's great. Anyway, it's always much more fun to keep people wondering.......Maybe also too, to joke around and just be happy & not stressed out....
Answered By: Shivers - 11/2/2007
you have to be liked, before you can demand respect!!!!!
Answered By: poopsie - 11/2/2007
Yes it's best to have both. But it can be very hard to respect someone who you just don't agree with or really like as a person.
Answered By: Jai - 11/2/2007
Feared is really what you are looking for. Doesn't matter if they like or respect you. That's what your dog is for. What matters is when the ship is taking water they do what you tell them.
Answered By: Racist Answer Man - 11/2/2007
It depends on the person whichever one they value more.
Answered By: get right - 11/2/2007
If by "getting respect," you mean by being treated humanely..then yes, that's essential... More
Answered By: Trinity - 11/2/2007
I pick respected. Sure it's nice to have people like you, but if at the end of the day you end up not liking yourself because you lack conviction, then you have much bigger problems than winning a popularity contest... More
Answered By: Devil's Advocette - 11/2/2007
When it is put into those terms, I would have to agree...damned if we do...and damned if we don't. I think when you are respected you are generally well liked. If you can make a point in a general, or a well rounded way without losing your temper, you can make an impact. Of course we all at times lose our temper... More
Answered By: omorris1978 - 11/2/2007
I should have looked at your question and link first-I just asked about the same study but found the article in another paper! I believe the study, but it's darn depressing... More
Answered By: waswisgirl1 - 11/2/2007
I would rather be respected. I like to be liked, but I care more about being treated as a useful member of society. Women shouldn't have to choose between the two. We've managed to do both time after time.
Answered By: Rio Madeira - 11/2/2007
screw both! osore mai fantasutikku toppyoushimonai kawaii jiga! ( fear my fantastic crazy cute self!) trying to learn japanese..
Answered By: Shadow Dweller - 11/3/2007
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