By finding a local church and MOVING OUT. Catholic churches will be especially helpful, some of them even have homes that they provide for abused women, pregnant women, etc. Good luck
Answered By: Corrine B - 1/15/2008 |
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Go to your parents house with your kids.
Answered By: Tim M - 1/15/2008 |
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There are many resources available to you such as public housing, especially if you're being abused. Call your local Department of health and human services and they can give you some options. Good luck.
Answered By: Kathy R - 1/15/2008 |
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Google women's shelters. there are all kinds of shelters that will let women and children in, away from the man. they help you build a new life. google them in your area for a start.
Answered By: elbow17green - 1/15/2008 |
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Just walk out... Its that simple.... The state will help you wherever you end up until you get on your feet...
Answered By: Toddzilla - 1/15/2008 |
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Well,I would go to a shelter. Maybe try to go back to school and further your education. There is hope! You just have to WANT to get out!
Answered By: ezziriah - 1/15/2008 |
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Do you have a phone? Call the police get a restraining order leave when he is gone and go somewhere such as family's house or a shelter to get your on your feet again. Just because you don't have an education doesn't mean that you can't stand on your own two feet.
Answered By: StrawberryWonder - 1/15/2008 |
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There is an organization in almost every city, they are not advertised. Contact you local police department and they will assist you and your children in getting away from your abusive marriage. Good luck to you and your children.
Answered By: Fred K - 1/15/2008 |
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Wow , just reading that makes me hurt..
The woman cant do it on her own , she needs friends , family and tons of support , she also needs to reach out to some professionals .
The children need to be put to safety.
She can do it and it doesn't take education it takes will power more then she will ever have needed.
As for work their are centers where people help with the money and finding jobs..
I wish her all the luck in the world and know she is not alone ..
God Bless
Answered By: mary b - 1/15/2008 |
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Local Fire Station will help you find a shelter for women and children. There are a lot of Not-for proffits that help for 30-90 days in vocational rehab and childcare while the newly single mom learns how to take care of her family. Also... Get the abuse documented by you and a friend. In secret. Hide your getaway bag either at work or in a locker at a gym, but not in your car or at home.
Source(s):
Dr Phil or Oprah the other day.
Answered By: Zebrarain - 1/15/2008 |
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By walking out the door with kids in tow!
Answered By: nonameblonde - 1/15/2008 |
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I think one of the most traumatic aspects for anyone in an abusive relationship is the feeling of isolation. Most abused people believe what they're being told--that they're worthless, no one loves them, no one will ever take care of them, etc. It's common for abusers to lead the victim to believe that, without the abuser, they would die.
That's the first hurtle. Realizing that this is not true. There are options, programs, people who will help.
The victims need to become aware that they do have choices and help if they want it.
Without this, it doesn't matter how many options are available. The victim won't pursue them believing that that option isn't available to him/her.
Answered By: Tikva - 1/15/2008 |
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There are shelters and places that will help women that need it. by staying in that kind of relationship she will die, and so will her children.
Answered By: skibm80 - 1/15/2008 |
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Shelters ....State Aid....Low income housing ..... Check with DHS for finding some kind of training for a job ....
There are many resources available for people in these situations ....They may not be ideal, but they are sufficient to help get a person out of a dangerous (abusive) situation and get that person help so they can learn to stand on their own .....
Answered By: TanDan72 - 1/15/2008 |
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Answered By: farzaneh_sadeghi - 1/15/2008 |
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Hopefully she has friends or family that will take her in or go to a shelter....
Answered By: Mean Carleen - 1/15/2008 |
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She simply needs to go to a legal adviser and rest is advisers job....
Answered By: jessy_bajaj - 1/15/2008 |
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The best thing you can do is get out of their and go to a shelter that will take women and their children or go to your family and see if you could stay a while you can get a job and be able to get on your feet and be the best mother you can be.
Answered By: yesstarfree - 1/15/2008 |
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Yes. Contact an abused women's shelter or go live with a friend or relative. You can take out a student loan and finish your education and it will also cover many things like transportation and housing.
Better yet, call the police and press charges for assault. Then take the house and get a job at a daycare where they take your own children at a greatly reduced rate or free. There are several options, and they can walk you through them on the telephone at an abused women's shelter.
Do not live another day being abused. You have the inner strength you need to do this. You already have enough respect for yourself or you wouldn't have posted this. Get the process started and take the situation under your control. The law is on your side and so is the sentiment of society. You will make it. God be with you ( He is also on your side)!
Answered By: Nebraska Man - 1/15/2008 |
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Ask her parents if she can move in with them, go to a church and ask for help of call a church and ask for help, call a court house and ask for help.
Answered By: kim t - 1/15/2008 |
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It is very hard to leave an abusive marriage, especially when there are children involved. Abuse begins slowly and usually begins by being isolated from friends and family. Then the verbal abuse begins, belittling the wife to the point that she begins to believe she can do no better. Most often there are threats on one's life if they try to leave.
Don't believe anyone who tells you it's easy and just to walk out. If only it were that simple.
First, you need to get a job and get enough money to move somewhere else. Don't share this information. Having a job will increase your feelings of self worth and give you courage and confidence.
Then, unless you are in immediate physical danger, work your plan just as quickly as you can.
Having said that, if you are in immediate danger, you must call the police and have him removed from your home--again I say IMMEDIATELY. Many women do meet their deaths in these types of relationships so you have to move quickly if you are in that catagory.
Best wishes.
Answered By: Minister of Peace - 1/15/2008 |
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1. Open the door;
2. Put one foot in front of the other, and
3. Don't look back.
4. Do it NOW!
No one deserves to be abused. America is a great place. If you are ambitious, you can always find a way to make a living. Your parents would be the first option. After that, seek out a close friend, preferably out of state if he is potentially dangerous. It is more complicated with children. Their welfare is most important.
Good luck
Answered By: Julius4U - 1/15/2008 |
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To be honest, theres nothing much you can do abut the 'no education' part, since most jobs would require you to have at least one degree. Im a single parent. I had a diploma but it was done back in my home country years ago so i cant make much out of it here.
It really depends on the severity of the abuse. Get out could mean 'seek some counselling' but also 'take your kids with you and get out ofthe house'. I dont know wheter or not your question is based on your own real problems, but if it is and the degree of abuse can no longer be tolerated, i guess the best way out is to leave the house with your kids. BUT remember, its not about 'when' to leave, but rather 'how' to leave. Most ppl would say get out immediately. But seriously, the last thing you want to happen is you and your kids stranded in between with no money and no shelter. first thing you gotta do especially is plan out in advance. Make sure that you've got everything you and your children need (money, birth certificates, documents, contact no.s, where to stay, etc) so that when you're sure its time to leave you can just zip the bag and go.
Having close connections is also crucial. At the very least your friends can provide you with a shelter (and hopefully some money), a job and support!
Hope this helps. Take care.
Answered By: K - 1/15/2008 |
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