Why would a samaritan woman quash my hopes and dreams like this ?
i phoned the helpline last night because i was feeling lonely and low, i talked to her about my unfortunate life, the fact i have borderline personality disorder...the fact i'd had a terrible run at life so far...that id bullied growing up, suffered sexual abuse, assaults,.. muggings....time in a psychiatric unit etc. i told her i was 30 now and still had hopes, goals and dreams, even though i'd been unfortunate enough to miss out being employed...gaining qualifications.....making any friends...and never having a girlfriend or partner. i told her my goals were to move back to europe and get a fresh start, a clean slate...to live in a little village with a job, a home...find a girlfriend etc, in a non comercialized part of europe. she laughed at me in a mocking way & said how am i going to do that? with the disadvantages i'm at...because id never worked...got a mental health history etc.. she said i have to be realistic, & said i can try, but i don't have a chance, then she laughed iam extremely hurt by her words, i feel deflated... shes made me feel even more trapped here in this situation in britain than i already feel. made me feel like i'll never leave my one bedroom apartment living of welfare benifits coping with BPD. how should i handle this ?
Asked By: ∫e mousquetaire XVI - 1/22/2008
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dont take what she said to heart..some people just say things because they are ignorant.. i think your plans are good and you should try to fullfil your goals cause life is short so we must live to the fullest extent.you shouldn't blame yourself entirely, sometimes its just as simple as asking for help,maybe someone... More
Answered By: PunkRockPrincess - 1/22/2008
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The first thing you should do is call the hotline again and let them know what the woman said to you, ask to speak to a manager.
Answered By: paganmom - 1/22/2008
You should report her to the help line. That was not helpful. She probably should not be in that job. I am sorry she was so negative to you. Don't let it get you down. It is never to late to better your life. Good luck.
Answered By: Pam H - 1/22/2008
Quit whining!!! Get a life!!!! Get a job!!!! nobody likes a looser!!!
Answered By: lez k - 1/22/2008
sorry i dont know how she got hired. a proffesional counselor would be better for you.
Answered By: al canrell - 1/22/2008
She was out-of-line... More
Answered By: LuthienTinuviel - 1/22/2008
We all have our situations, some better then yours, and some worse. What that woman did was wrong. She puts herself in a position to help others, and then shoots down your goals as if they are unimportant... More
Answered By: theCATALYST - 1/22/2008
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