Good question. Emotional support provides reiforcement to the individual that they can trust you to listen to insecurities they may be feeling. If you are an active listener, most of the time, just an opportunity to ventilate vocally will help them find a solution for the issue(s). And if you have any helpful suggestions, contribute them. Our society has provided that almost everyone seeking job be computer literate. As well, because of the generous salaries payed for computer skills, most of our population has saddled their selves with a lot debt. For me, debt makes me nervous. I have one credit card, with a $10,000 limit. I pay it off every month. My mortgage payment, including tax/insur. is $729. mo. My food budget is about $60.00wk, and my util are about 120.00 mo. My guy buys the groceries, but pays no rent. We share the utils, TV cable, broadband, phone, and I do feel financially secure. But I'm not sure why an Ipod is necessary, nor $150.00 sneakers, or $100,00 sweat suits. So, when a person is overextended, it tends to present a threat, and fear. People just need someone to hug them, listen actively, and ask the person if they can think of any changes they can make that will remove the anxiety a bit at a time. I need emotional support occasionally. When that happens,my action is to seclude my self. It usually does with feelings of failure when a patient i triage dies. That makes me wonder what I could have done differently that may have made a difference. My honey lets me recluse for about 30 mins. and then come and sit not beside me but sort of at an angle to me, and hugs me, and kisses my eyes, and then says: OK, tell me if I can help". I tell him the situation, and he has never failed to say: "I believe you understand you did the best you could", and anyway, you can't change history." Then he gives me another hug, and goes to do what he wants to do. So, I believe the need for emotional support is not really more now than it was, but a lot of time it is not available, because members of the family are so involved with providing the economic means to life the "good life". My suggestion is for the parents to hug their kids, and ask them how their day was, and what was the most interesting thing they learned, ask them if their home works is finished, and you'd like an opportunity to take a look at it, and boy, you'd sure appreciate if they would gather the dirty laundry, and creat 3 piles. Whites, light colored, and darks. If they would put one piles of the different colors in the washer, and add one cupful of detergent, wash the whites with hot water, and both piles of coloreds with cold. Kids really do like to be helpful of they know you are concerned about them. Oh, by the way, boys can do laundry too. It will help them be independent when they leave home, and not feel it necessary to get involved with a live in situation with a girl who will provide the domestic tasks. I realize some of this sounds corney, buy this is how one of my sisters raised both her sons. The could cook simple foods, do their laundry, iron what needed ironing, and how to keep their domicile at least neat. Neither of the had a live in girl friend, and were not distracted from their educational goals. One is a computer analyst, and works for a firm as a consultant, with his biggest client the Anheuser Bush brewery in St. Louis, and the other earned a degree in Robitics, and creates programs for the software that is necessary for the absolute accuracy and dependable operation of the industrial robot. I'm such a techno moron, I wish I lived closer to them.
Answered By: zeb6219 - 1/27/2008