Stop assuming that kids will out grow things...like for ex., my 17 month old is not pronouncing words well which is to be expected but every word is muffled and jumbled and nothing is clear. She tries to talk alot but nothing is clear. She has had fluid in her ears for 11 weeks now and recurrent ear infections. I know that there is something wrong with her speech because I have another kid and am around other kids her age. My pediatrician practice blows me off like I am expecting too much from her. WELL, I took her to a well known very accomplished ENT who the chief of Ololaryngology at a University level Hospital and found that she has alot of negative pressure in her ears and to her everything sounds like people are talking underwater. She is mimicking back what she hears....muffled sounds. She is having ear tube surgery tomorrow.
Also, I HATE when doctors consistently overschedule and make parents wait with their children in the waiting room. 1) the waiting room is full of germs 2) it is impossible to make a 2 yr old wait patiently for over an hour and a half. I switched dr. offices because my old dr did this consistently. I don't mind if there is a problem every now and then when they are running behind but not EVERY time. I HATE when Dr's do not value our time as parents.
Answered By: Blueberry - 7/20/2008 |
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I wish they would stop giving babies thrush medication that is loaded with sugar. Hello, thrush is a yeast infection, yeast feeds on sugar. I went through it, as did several of my friends. It makes the infection so much worse and it makes the baby miserable.
Answered By: UVA Rocks Hokies SUCK! - 7/20/2008 |
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Here's a scenario: My first child, a girl, her appendix ruptured when she was 7 1/2. When my 3rd child, another girl, came home from school one day with the exact same symptoms as my first had, i called the Dr. immediately so that we could get her in and get things checked before she went through the same thing. I took her in, he looked at her, asked a couple of questions and said ''oh no, she's fine, you're just being paranoid--she has a virus" The next day i had her back in the office again and he agreed to send us for x-rays (i never figured that one out!!) The next morning when her temp hit 104.8 i took her straight to the ER. They admitted her immediately, went in for surgery and sure enough, another ruptured appendix.
So, in answer to your question, i WISH pediatricians would listen to mom's/dad's when they come in with a serious concern and not just 'blow it off' as if it's nothing. After all, we are with our children day in and day out, we know what their habits are and we know when something is wrong.
On a positive note, when i brought my last child in after she was born, my pediatrician told his staff to not talk down to me and to trust my judgement--i actually know what i'm talking about 9x out of 10 when it comes to my kids health.
Answered By: laffngrl2 - 7/20/2008 |
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It is important to shop around for a good pediatrician. I went though 2 before I found one that I like. The thing I like most about my children's doctor is that he listens to me. He trusts my motherly instincts. I don't like doctors that don't listen and don't take seriously a mother's concerns. Doctors know a lot but I think sometimes a mother's instincts are best!
I just want to add something that I did not like about my ob/gyn(I am still searching for another one). I asked him some advice about breastfeeding(I guess it wasn't the right person to ask). My son was fussy for a while and had green poo. I asked him if I should try cutting out diary from my diet and he said I can eat/drink whatever I want because only a very small amount goes through the b****t milk and it does not bother the baby. I was out of there so fast! I know realize that it was not the correct doctor to ask BUT even I know better than the advice he gave me and I'm not a doctor!
Answered By: moonlight177@sbcglobal.net - 7/20/2008 |
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Nothing, i LOVE my pediatrician! all of his advice and recommendations have been wonderful!!!
if you don't like or trust your child's pediatrician than you should find a new doctor. people always think doctors are "out to get them" when in fact doctors (legitimate ones) are simply trying to HELP people and do what is BEST for them. they have a hard job dealing with the general public and in this case PARENTS who constantly give them a hard time. i have nothing but respect for them.
Answered By: BABA BOOEY!!!! - 7/20/2008 |
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"Since as moms we tend to not question the authority of our pediatricians..."
Ah, well. Perhaps it's not the doctors that need to do something differently?
Answered By: "Obber" - 7/20/2008 |
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I wish they would stop prescribing antibiotics when not necessary.
Answered By: ♥Hannah's Mommy♥ - 7/20/2008 |
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I wish my doc would explain things better to me. Just because he has given out the answer to 100 other people doesn't mean I don't need to know too. I always get " yeah, everyone asks that and then a vague answer.
Answered By: Aggie H - 7/20/2008 |
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Pediatricians should at least follow the guidelines put out by the AAP. i hear people talk about bad advice from their pediatricians all the time.
at least i'm not afraid to fire a doctor who is giving bad advice.
Answered By: chaley1998 - 7/20/2008 |
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This list is long for me..but the number one thing is to strongly encourage exclusive breastfeeding according to the AAP guidelines which states a least 6 months (exclusively). We would have such healthier mommies and babies. They should also provide better resources and education to mommies who need to work and breastfeed. Encourage women to nurse longer.
My friend's pediatrician just told her that she should stop night time feedings because he is really getting no nutrients at night and his teeth will rot...(he is 11 months and has 4 teeth).
Answered By: luvnbirth - 7/20/2008 |
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I wish pediatricians were less judgemental about delayed vaccinations... there are very few who are supportive of this. Is that doctor going to be there to help you when your child has a bad reaction or suffers permanent damage? No I didn't think so. So he/she should let the parents make that decision without making them feel like they are harming their child.
Answered By: autismcaregiver - 7/20/2008 |
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Do some more current research on their own. take a breastfeeding class or something and a nutritional class of some sort. reseatch the mroe natural ways to do things so all the crunchy momma's can have some support:)
my son got a stomache bug at 9 months old and lsot some weight. i told the doc this a sit was right before his appt. well when his doc ( who wasnt his regular one) saw his weight hadnt changed dhe freaked and told dme my son needed to be weaned onto some high calorie formula and have bloodwork done to check his GI track. i told him i didnt think he was right and that duh he was sick and id be back in two weeks to check his weight. well he's 15 months now, still nursing,and almost 6 pounds heavier
Answered By: Jillian - 7/20/2008 |
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I wish that they would not ignore or deny/dispute obvious vaccine reactions even if they occur weeks after the vaccine.
Answered By: tasha l - 7/20/2008 |
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One thing I'm SICK of hearing is how of all things, our pediatrician says to stop giving real fruit juice... there is NOTHING wrong with fruit/real juice... how about stop giving processed fattening foods. I promise, juice is NOT the problem in our society, it's called "happy meals".
Answered By: *Due 11/29 with number 4!* - 7/20/2008 |
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Encouraging moms to start giving more solid meals and less breastmilk meals per day too soon. My doctor told me that my daughter should be eating 2 solid meals per day, and ever since I did my milk supply is horrible and it's so hard to keep it up.
Answered By: Kelly M - 7/19/2008 |
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I wish they would all stop using vaccines made by the Merck pharmaceutical company because they use the tissues of aborted fetuses in making their vaccines.
Answered By: RAVEN - 7/19/2008 |
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I don't question my pediatrician. No matter how experienced of a mother I may or may not be, a ped goes through years and years of training and education to practice medicine. I do not think I am smarter than he is and I personally think its ridiculous that with the invent of the Internet that everyone decided that our medical professionals know nothing and the research that we do ourselves on the Internet is some how more accurate than their years of training.
Just like if any of my kids, God forbid, commited a horrible crime, I wouldn't think to defend them in a court of law, just because I can look up all the laws myself. I would want a professional that practices law to.
Answered By: jezzie1977 - 7/19/2008 |
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I am ok with the 4 month thing because some babies it is needed and they take it based on each individual case. My boys weren't gaining weight on formula because they hated it after i stopped breastfeeding but i could hide formula in their food and they started gaining weight with the food. That was at 3 1/2 months old. They wouldn't have thrived if the pediatrician hadn't recommended food early. They did just fine on the food. They aren't diabetic and aren't overweight and they only food allergy either of them has is a peanut allergy (my youngest son) and his dad is allergic to peanuts. But I do agree that many babies could wait until 6 months and be fine but the pediatrician i take my boys too don't recommend even starting cereal until 6 months unless there is a medical reason to start earlier.
Really the pediatrician my boys see I don't think has given me any ill advice. She says that she prefers babies being rearfacing as long as possible and recommends the covertable carseats to keep them rearfacing longer. She recommends no more than 1 hr of tv, computer time, game time a day and doesn't recommend any of that until age 3 or older. She recommends breastfeeding when possible but will recommend some great formula with advice if breastfeeding isn't possible. She doesn't agree with circumcisions unless there is a medical reason for it or religious reason. Overall I guess I just find her to be a great pediatrician. She is the 3rd one my boys have seen because the first one moved 2 states away to be a specialist at a hospital there, the 2nd one stopped taking our insurance so i looked a long time to find the one we have now.
Answered By: dueinoctwith#3 - 7/19/2008 |
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I wish they'd stop telling all mothers that they must WAIT to introduce solids until 6 months! I wish they would consider the child and use their brains rather than spouting off anything and everything the AAP tells them is correct. I wish they'd use their experience rather than go by trends. I wish they'd teach mothers to recognize the cues their children give them rather than going by every new book out there....
I realize that not every doctor is this way, and I am lucky to have one that is not. In this day and age, we rely on the latest trends in infant care rather than age-old, time-tested experience. A lot of people think that you should not go by the saying "well, I turned out OK and I had rice cereal when I was two months old," but seriously time and experience will tell things. People seriously think rice cereal makes children obese?!?! Eating high-calorie food and never exercising is our problem here in America and we want to blame it on rice cereal and starting solids to early? We ALWAYS have to have something to blame our own foolish decisions on I guess - that's America.
I wish more moms would question the authority of our pediatricians. I know so many people who take their pediatricians advice as the only thing out there. And they should definitely consider it - but where does common sense come in?
Answered By: Evalee's Mommy - 7/19/2008 |
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I wish they would stop giving horrible breastfeeding advice.
Either get an education on infant feeding from someone other than a formula company, or refer patients to an IBCLC who can help them.
Answered By: GranolaMom - 7/19/2008 |
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Well put jezzie! I don't question my ped on the food, or juice, pacifier, or bottle. He has gone through way more training than I have, and I know my children aren't his only patients. He sees things over and over again, and has a broad spectrum of acceptable - versus a closed minded view of my own little life.
The only time I ever went above my pediatrician's recommendation is when my daughter got Strep so often, I lost track of how many times - so I took her to an ENT (without a referral) and got her tonsils out almost immediately.
For some reason, tonsillectomies aren't as routine as they used to be.
Answered By: Paula K - 7/19/2008 |
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I wish that my pediatrician did not give me advice about anything. If I ask for advice then great, but instead they have all this bull-crap info aiting for me. Like wean your baby now, CIO, start solids, and baby lead weaning is not "real"!
Answered By: Cades Mommy - 7/19/2008 |
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That is why I LOVE my pediatrician. He has never given me any kind of recommendation unless I ask him for it specifically. He comments on my child's health, not on my parenting decisions.
Some things we have never discussed - cosleeping, CIO, length of time that I should breastfeed, why I shouldn't delay vaccinations, when I should start solids, car seats, pacifiers, circumcision, etc...... Don't get me wrong, it is NOT that I think that there is anything wrong with discussing those things with a pediatrician (they can be a great resource), but I just don't want to or need to, quite frankly. If I have questions, he gives me his professional opinion without emotion, and that is exactly what I expect him to do.
I would never go to a doctor who told me half of the things that I hear other pediatricians telling moms. Just yesterday, there was a mom on here who said that her pediatrician told her to stop nursing her five-month old because he was 17 pounds!! Grrrreat!
It is NOT that I turn my nose up at a pediatrician's experience and education. But that doesn't mean that I am going to blindly trust everything that comes out of their mouth. Doctors have different ways of doing things, some don't keep up on current research, some are too arrogant to change their old ways, and some are just bad doctors. I LOVE my pediatrician, but he is a great resource, not the king of all knowledge.
Answered By: desert mama - 7/19/2008 |
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I agree with your comment about how to give the okay to start solids at 4 months. The longer they wait, the less likely that are to have allergies.
Also, I wish they would stop making us pay for the visit to find out results from testing. It's something that can be done over the phone. I hate how it's all about making money at the doctor's office. So in order to find out if your child is okay, you pay for the visit and the results.
Answered By: Karla - 7/19/2008 |
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I wish they'd stop dispensing solid food and breastfeeding advice! Pediatricians are NOT trained in nutrition and lactation!! I'll gladly sit and listen to them talk about diseases and medicine, since they actually went to school for it. :)
Bottom line though, how we raise our kids and feed them is NOT up to a doctor!
Where we lived before I was lucky enough to have a ped who actually listened to me and NEVER criticized my choices. She was very supportive of us cosleeping with our daughter, as well as "extended" breastfeeding. :) Hopefully here I can find someone like that!
Source(s):
Breastfeeding my 21 month old
Answered By: Lauren F - 7/19/2008 |
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Now I am rather lucky with my son's pediatrician. When I started the rice cereal at a week before his four month check up they were fine with it. My son was 13 lbs 13 oz, only 5 lb 5 oz at birth. He was eating over 40 oz a formula a day, and screaming when I ate if I was anywhere withing sight. He loves his food. Now I still do not give him much. At five months he gets three small feeding a day. But yes I have heard of some annoying things docs think you should do with our child. Try to remember that every child is different, and some things are alright for a child a few months early. My son was a little more then a month overdue, so he is probably more then ready when I give him anything new. :)
Answered By: hoopy - 7/19/2008 |
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I just wish they'd take the time actually listen and diagnose before rushing to prescribe something...or actually listen and DO prescribe something if needed. That goes for regular physicians as well. I feel like they just rush to move on to the next person without taking the time to learn more about particular situations.
My daughter's regular pediatrician is awesome. He's really laid back about everything and gave me some of the best advice- People have been raising children for thousands of years, so just use common sense for most stuff and you'll be fine.
Answered By: elizabeth_ashley44 - 7/19/2008 |
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I don't think there is anything wrong with starting solids at 4 months, if your baby is ready. I wish more parents would look for clues in their babies behaviour for certain things instead of sticking to strict schedules, age timelines.
I also don't question my doctor, I may not agree with her, but I wouldn't ever presume to know more than she does.
Answered By: kiki n - 7/19/2008 |
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I wish they would stop giving advice about breastfeeding and solids. They are NOT infant nutrition experts. The 'advice' they dispense is usually their opinion, and not based completely on fact.
I love my pediatrician because he doesn't give advice about feeding.
Answered By: Hokie Dokie - 7/19/2008 |
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I'm so lucky to have my pediatrician. She is also a really good lactation consultant. She has always been supportive of my decisions...co-sleeping, baby-wearing, extended nursing, delayed vaccines, and then no vaccines. She wanted to make sure I was knowledgeable on the topics and just gave me the info...she didn't try to persuade me either way.
She answers questions I have thoroughly. I wish there were more doctors like her. (Not just pediatricians)
Answered By: mommy_2_bella - 7/19/2008 |
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I don't wish my Paediatricians would change anything.
I have the best Paediatrician in the world, who has honestly been just perfect for our family. She has been there from day one, even held my hand during labour, and sat in for all my son's operations.
Mine never tells me what to do, she lists a few different idea, and we research on our own. I don't know what I'd do if I didn't have her.
We pretty much have her on speed dial, because well with 5 kids, you do need a Children's Specialist in your lives.
What do I wish they'd stop doing?? I wish they'd stop being judged as a group. People shouldn't do that, and I for one find it offensive.
Answered By: ♥ Charli ♥ Needs A Holiday - 7/19/2008 |
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I wish that they would stop saying that if your baby has constapation and it like a month old, don't feed it water. It got the poop out of my baby! I also wish that they would stop saying that babies can't feel pain. my baby was born with some extra skin on his wee-wee. His doctor said to put some cream on it. I asked him if it would hurt the baqby. He said that it wouldn't hurt him. But guess wat! when i was puttin the cream on he started crying because it hurt! he could feel the pain! I know that I should probably stop dissing pediatricians like I am because I am in college studying to be a pediatrician. but still, I might be a ble to smack some sense into pediatricians!
Answered By: Sierra - 7/19/2008 |
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