Waiting for the other shoe to drop?
All weekend I have felt in my gut that something wasn't right. Everything was going so well. My partner of three years was finally on track. Starting a great job on Monday (today) that is going to get us where we want to be. Bradley is doing wonderfully, a happy healthy little boy. My company is in the process of buying the my contract to hire me permanently. But for some reason I couldn't sleep. Seems like everytime things are going so well something comes along to ruin it. Turn it all to sh*t. Every single freakin time. Every time. I spend my entire life waiting for the other shoe to drop and having everyone around me tell me to stop doing this, just relax, enjoy life. But history has always proven me right, that other shoes ALWAYS drops. And guess what? It did this morning. My whole world came crashing down again. Instead of getting hired I got fired. Long story, who cares about the details, point is I just can't win. Am I alone in this theory? "Funny" thing--I was looking at other questions like this one and I asked this same question 9 months ago today. I loved my job. I loved the hours. I loved the people. It was the first time in my life I felt happy, content, comfortable with my job. I was so proud when they said they wanted to hire me permanently. I was so humiliated and heart broken when they let me go this morning. I did not bring this about with negative thoughts. This was inevitable because of vindictive people in my life. I will say no more about it.. I don't know how to begin looking for a new job logistically with daycare. I'm so lost. Ruby's mom: Thank you. You are right on many, many levels. I think the reason I was/am so heartbroken and in tears is because this worked out so perfectly and allowed me to so much time with my baby. Thinking about looking for another job I know the possibility of finding another 20 hour job such as the one I just had will be very difficult and more than likely a full time job is more realistic and easier to come by. THAT more than anything breaks my heart. Bradley's father seems to think I should just pull him from daycare and stay home full time. A one income family scares me even if we could make it easily. Too much to take in at one time... LOL: Rain---thank you, for the laugh, you are right, the company troll is out of my life forever. :) there IS a silver lining.
Asked By: Mynameis - 7/28/2008
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ugh. i am sorry. before i say anything else: i know you have had a total crap year -- the car accident, the struggles with b's dad/money, all of it. crappy, for sure... More
Answered By: ruby's mom - 7/28/2008
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I'm sorry Bradley's MoM. That sucks, it does seem to happen that way. Screw all the keep your chin up things will turn around pep talks. Right now you just need to be mad, give yourself permission to be p****d off for awhile. Then pick up and start over again. I really am sorry.
Answered By: branofwinterfell - 7/28/2008
Wow, I'm so sorry! Did they give you any reason at all? With us it always goes back to money. We'll be doing great, all the bills will be caught up, and then something will happen to one of the cars... More
Answered By: Noah's Mommy & Marine Wife. - 7/28/2008
I'm sorry about this unfortunate event in your life...but I do want to let you know that it will be ok... More
Answered By: Trish the Dish - 7/28/2008
It totally sucks, but everything happens for a reason. Maybe you'll find an even better job elsewhere that lets you spend more time with family or gives you better benefits. I'm like you--always waiting for the other shoe to drop. I wasn't getting hired for a year--I went through thirteen job interviews and was ready... More
Answered By: malwilhist - 7/28/2008
I used to joke that "you know how sometimes you have one of those days? Well I have one of those lives... More
Answered By: glbenner - 7/28/2008
Never underestimate your intuition and gut feeling. Mine has never steered me wrong. At least you get a warning before everything falls apart. And how do you know this job was the best thing? I think the stars have something else in mind and this had to happen for the good thing that's coming. You have your happy... More
Answered By: rachel j - 7/28/2008
Ouch isn't that the way it goes. Sucks and I'am sorry your feeling was found to be true! Unfortunately gut feelings are our little intuitions. Usually it has a way of working out for us somehow I hope it does for you too!! Lots of luck and best wishes to your family
Answered By: nmk - 7/28/2008
I know the economy is strapped right now, and there are lay offs around every turn. Trust me, it's not just you, I feel like every day is a downward spiral. And when you are at the bottom it doesn't feel like you can get any lower, and somehow, someway, it always does. You just have to hang in there. it will get better... More
Answered By: adidas69143 - 7/28/2008
I'm so sorry. No, you aren't alone in your theory. My hubby went through one of these periods a couple of weeks ago. He felt like he was working is back side off all of the time and had no progress to show for it, that we were in the exact same place as we were a year ago... More
Answered By: rainwriterm - 7/28/2008
oh my god im so sorry for you if i could do anything for you i would i really really would i give you my deepest sympathys (and a star)
Answered By: Treasure - 7/28/2008
I am sorry that this happened to you. You mentioned a nasty lady at work before... she will have karma repay her. This is very upsetting, especially with a little one to take care of and financial needs.I hope that it turns around soon. Remember every other time that the shoe dropped? Well you got through it, and you... More
Answered By: Sarah B, Canadian Girl - 7/28/2008
I know exactly how you feel, for once it would be nice for everything to go good for just a week! I was in a similar situation last week... my fiance has traveled for the past few months, and when he got a job at home he decided to come back... his job was supposed to start 2 weeks ago, and it still hasnt, just when I... More
Answered By: ~*~Ky Mom~*~ - 7/28/2008
So know what you mean. I just said to my husband that I can't remember a happy moment without a but. If that makes sense. I remember last spring when I found out I was pregnant I was so estatic and thought this has to be the happiest point in my life. It lasted literally for less then five minutes. I came out of the... More
Answered By: Donna- I luv my Lily- - 7/28/2008
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