who thinks that this is unfair??? (kind of long)?

im in college. im in whats called a suite there are four bedrooms a bathroom and a common area there are two girls to a room let me get one thing straight... this is a very expensive private school, the girls that go here are spoiled because their daddys paid for all of this along with their new cars the only reason im here is because i get free tuition because my mom works here as a teacher im very far down on the scale, im practically poor compared to these chicks so, the common area was obviously kind of naked looking, so i offer to bring some old stuff from home... including a 150 pound rug i dragged upstairs to cover the floor... but everyone said "ew no, it's ugly and old" so this one girl, who thinks she f***s roses, goes and buys all this crap that we dont need from ikea such as shower curtains (we already had) bathmats (we didn't need because there are drains in the floor) an ottoman (that looks like tofu cube) a lamp (that we REALLY didn't need, there are lights in the ceiling) a table (yet again, we dont use that for anything) curtains (we have blinds) (these are all ugly brown poop colors too) then she expects everyone to pay her 20$ each for it even though she's the one who's taking it home i'm the only one who has some questions about this, because 20 dollars for me is two freeking weeks of chores i asked her "why pay for stuff that isn't going to belong to us?" she kind of dismissed it as if she didn't care, but then the next day there was a note on the bathroom door saying; "hey guys, not to be rude, but i did go out of my way to buy everything, i'd appreciate it if you give me the 20$" i wrote a note next to hers (a lot of notes go around, cuz we're never here at the same time) my note said "not to be rude either but whats the point in paying for stuff that we; didn't need, didn't ask for, dont take home at the end of the year? i also offered to bring some FREE stuff that no one wanted because it wasn't aesthetically pleasing, this is a dorm room not a five star hotel" she got so freeking p****d at me so after a few days i wrote another note saying "sorry, i didnt mean for that to be bratty, but im short on money, because i havent started my job yet, and any money i do have, i have to spend on photography supplies etc.." she wrote another note back saying "well i thought it was rude, everyone else thought it was nice and you're the only one with a problem paying me back... you've OBVIOUSLY never been to a five start hotel cuz this is FAR from it" this made me really mad... part of me wants to stop writing stupid notes and keep the peace , just give her the money and get over it.... while the other half of me wants to write; "well no SHIITT i've never been to a five star hotel. we're on different ends of the spectrum here. im freeking poor, of course im the only one with a problem, $20 is NOT bubblegum money for me... if i brought stuff for people to use, i wouldnt expect anyone to pay me back, i wouldnt ASK for it either cuz its mine, i bought it, im taking it home..." my roommate, bought couches for the common area, and she doesn't expect anyone to pay her back... because shes taking it home one other suitemate hasn't paid her yet, and she agrees with me and hey, i bought a garbage can for the bathroom, does that mean everyone has to pay me a $1.20? the way i see it, if you take it home, it's yours... who cares if im using it, does this mean that i shower with my butt hanging out? i dont effin care? im really very simple, i feel lucky that we have running water and this girl is very temperamental so theres no easy way to confront her or get away with not paying her.... whatd do you think / suggest???? i really love all the answers im getting, you all know how to word this so it makes sense, and i know im not crazy!!! keep answering people, every bit helps for when i have to confront her!! =D

Asked By: Ivy - 10/18/2008
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In college (and life, really) usually roommates will split the responsibility of buying items for a suite, not splitting the cost for the items that one person bought. As in, one person buys the rug, one person buys the coffeemaker, and so on until everyone has roughly contributed the same amount. That way it is clear... More
Answered By: ladyroo - 10/18/2008
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The way it usually works is that furniture is bought by one person to share with others. I never charged my college roommates for using my sofas, tvs, dishes, etc. If she is keeping everything then you should not need to pay. If worst comes to worst go to the office of residential life and move.
Answered By: kalichicoc - 10/18/2008
i think that u should just ignore them and give her her's 20 bucks with a note thats says i might never have been in a 5 stars hotel but atleast i don't cry over 20 bucks. and plz do not write anything else and if she write u back ignore her. cause if u write what u wanted to write they will be like eeww she is poor... More
Answered By: *cool boy*:D - 10/18/2008
You are totally right!!! My daughter is in college, living in an apartment. Everything that is in the apartment belongs to one of the girls. Whoever it belongs to, takes it when she moves. And whoever it belongs to, paid for it by herself. That is the ONLY WAY TO BE FAIR. (making a point...not yelling at you... More
Answered By: HIS! - 10/18/2008
She's really being unfair. She cannot just go out and buy stuff and then charge everyone. If everyone else is paying up, then that's because they're being pushovers. If she did not discuss with everyone what she's going to buy first, she cannot charge anyone for it. Although she bought it for everyone, she bought... More
Answered By: Phu N - 10/18/2008
This is an interesting problem... More
Answered By: polynesiab - 10/18/2008
You're on the right track. You should not feel obligated to pay for furniture you didn't ask for. Tell her it was really sweet of her to purchase such fine items (poop color rocks!) and that the suitemates as well as yourself appreciate it, but let her know it isn't your job nor your obligation to help pay for it... More
Answered By: Friendly French Fry - 10/18/2008
You don't need to pay her unless you are cutting off some of the fabric and taking it home with you. This is a classic example of... "You can pay for school but you can't buy class"
Answered By: yoda lover - 10/18/2008
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