No it doesnt make me a you a bad mom it makes you look bad because your so young. but just ignore what people say and take care of your baby
Answered By: Daphny D - 1/2/2009 |
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Answered By: hlllo - 1/2/2009 |
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As long as your going to school or working i don't see a problem the porblem i have is people who just sit on their butts getting this stuff
Answered By: Paul B - 1/2/2009 |
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No people just want to be ignorant. seriously i had my child at 19 and less than a year later my uncles gf had hers and she is 36 and personally i am way better a mother than her. age makes no difference of what type of parent you are.
Answered By: Krystal K - 1/2/2009 |
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I don't think that means your a bad mom,
you might have made a bad decision in your life getting pregnant at 15 but lots of girls do that, and it's not always a bad thing.
there are many girls out there that have had a teenage pregnancy and been happy.
don't worry about what other people say to or about you because you're your own person, and it definitely doesn't make you a bad person because we all make mistakes. :)
<3
Answered By: Caseyface - 1/2/2009 |
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I don't think just your age alone makes you a bad mom,if YOU (not someone else) give your child what they need(a home, food,ETC) and give them love and attention then I would say you are doing a pretty good job.
Answered By: Victory - 1/2/2009 |
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No but you should have waited a little longer to have a baby. its better if you are older cuz then you will have a job and can support a family.
Answered By: Ashlyn W - 1/2/2009 |
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Irresponsible sex is wrong, but that doesn't mean you are a bad mom
Answered By: IWIU - 1/2/2009 |
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It doesn't make you a bad mom. It depends on how well you are raising your child. You are awfully young to provide proper child care considering you should still be in high school, and being a teenager, are most likely involved in outside activities like clubs and dating and such. I just hope you realize that being a parent is a huge responsibility. I am 15 as well and cannot imagine what life would be like if suddenly a baby entered my life. Don't get me wrong, I love kids and can't wait to have them some day, but I am a kid myself still, and have a lot of growing up to do before I can be an adequate parent. I wish you and your child the best of luck!
Answered By: amazing♥ - 1/2/2009 |
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Answered By: ghost - 1/2/2009 |
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As long as you're not sitting around letting these assistance agencies take care of you when you're of age. You would only be a bad mom if you didn't finish school and get more education or start working by setting a poor example for your kid.
Answered By: JC - 1/2/2009 |
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It doesn't make you a bad mom. I think some people have issues with the fact they work so hard to provide for their family and others are handed money for nothing... and that's fair enough. There's also the stigma attached to teenage sex and pregnancy... another reason you may get that impression. It doesn't really mean you're a bad mom in the abusive, uncaring sense.
Answered By: dreams87 - 1/2/2009 |
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Not at all. It depends on how you raise your child and how you treat your child. Most importantly, this all depends on how you love your child. When you love your child, there are sacrifices that you will make for your child. I don't think age has anything to do with it. It's more about how responsible you are.
Answered By: Wifey - 1/2/2009 |
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No it doesnt...on the contrary....alot of teenagers just abort or give the baby away n thats something u didnt do u r trying 2 take resposability 4 ur actions n i think that is something people should admire=]
Answered By: gaby - 1/2/2009 |
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That doesn't neccessarily make you a bad mom!
You could be a very caring and loving mother to your child.
I think that people make the assumption that because you had sex and got pregnant in your teenage years, then you will be a bad mother because of what happened.
They also think that since you had a baby at a young age then you are going to take care of your child irresponsibly because of the irresponsible choice you made before.
This isn't always true.
One bad move does not make or break how good of a mother you are, contrary to what those other people think.
Don't listen to them, I bet you are a great mom.
Answered By: Anna S - 1/2/2009 |
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It just means your life will be more challenged than an older woman's would be and you have deprived yourself of experiencing many things that teenagers should be enjoying. You need a good support system and help making major decisions about raising your baby. I hope you have that in place. Babies are a blessing, but we can become parents too soon. Being dependent on the state to feed and care for your child is not a good situation. Hopefully you are continuing your education so you may be self sufficient someday.
No need to bash you. What is done is done. I just hope you have gotten reliable birth control so you won't repeat having children until you are better equipped to raise them. Many teens neglect that and have multiple children before they are ready after having a first one. Don't be angry with people for telling the truth.
Answered By: amazingly intelligent - 1/2/2009 |
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Being a teen mom DOES NOT make you a bad mom. My mom was 15 when she had my eldest brother, 18 when she had my next brother, 20 when she had me, and 23 when she had my sister..so yes..4 kids by the time she was 23!! Yes things were hard for a while..we were on welfare and all that for a while cuz we had a dead beat dad that didn't help our mom at all, but somehow we made it through, and my mom was a great mom! she still is! my mom now makes over $100,000 a year and owns her house in an expensive area of southern california! Having a baby so young does make things harder, but if you keep focused and take the best care of your little one that you can, then your a good mom! Don't listen to all those people that say otherwise! Just keep your chin up and know you did the right thing by keeping your baby, and not taking the easy way out by aborting it or giving it up! Props to you!!
Answered By: Amanda W - 1/2/2009 |
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Not all teen moms are bad moms but alot do have a hard time coping with the responsibility. In my opinion if you love your child do your absolute best to care for your child and do right by that child it doesn't matter how old you are. I was 19 when I had my first, I now have three, and even at 19 it was hard for me to grow up and let my life take a backseat but I did it and so have many other young moms, even younger than me. At 15 I'm sure you agree that it is hard, but as I said if you step up to the plate and do your best then no you're not a bad mom. I get assistance from the government too and I think that doesn't make you a bad parent you need help and you've gotten it. At least you know you can take your child to the doctor instead of not being able to afford it because of the lack of insurance. If you're old enough to have sex then you're old enough to accept the responsibilty of those actions. I know some young moms that are better at meeting their childrens needs than older ppl, it just depends on the person really.
Answered By: jen - 1/2/2009 |
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Get a job your not taking care of your kid if your getting WIC Medicaid and other assistance that means IM PAYIN for your kid your a drain on society and should be fixed
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tax payer tired of supporting poor lazy people and tramps
Answered By: slycye99 - 1/2/2009 |
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It certainly doesn't make you a bad parent just because you are a little young. I don't know the circumstances under which you got pregnant, but either you made a mistake and had sex or you didn't do it willingly and you ended up pregnant. Either way, you did a wonderful thing by keeping your baby, and even though you didn't want to get pregnant so soon you still ended up with a wonderful gift. As long as you love that baby and you do everything in your power to protect the baby and support him or her, then you are a good mother. A bad mother is someone who has no regard and abuses or neglects her child. Just remember that everything you do should be for your child. That means taking care of yourself and finishing school. If you love your child then you are a good mom.
Answered By: whinie_p - 1/2/2009 |
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It doesn't make you a bad mom, but it doesn't make you the best mom either. Your child is put at a disadvantage when you can't provide him with financial stability as well as an emotional one. Prove to those you think see you as unfit by doing all you can to better your situation.
Answered By: elizabeth_ashley44 - 1/2/2009 |
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No. A bad mom is a bad mom. No matter the age. Your age does not determine the care your child receives. Your determination to being the best you can be does. Getting help? Shoot, if you are able, get it, get on your feet, get off the help and get on with a fabulous life with your child. Best of luck!
Answered By: Dana C - 1/2/2009 |
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Are people saying your a bad mom for having a baby as a teen or a bad mom because your dependent on federal assistance to take care of you childs basic needs? I mean do you get food stamps too? I'm not trying to be mean but just wondering. I don't think either has anything to do with being a quality parent emotionally but I don't think mothers who are being supported by the government really understand the type of hurdles a mother who is coming out of pocket for everything are going through. The burden on the mom who has to work for everything her child needs and wants is very different from the mom who is getting govt. help. Without govt. assistance could you even financially support your child? More than likely not. People who have children and hop on govt assistance are just ill prepared and that make some people question their judgment which they translate into a person's parenting skills. The fact that your 15 your labeled as immature because you have spent most of your life being taking care of by an adult than you have spent taking care of yourself. Unless you have been paying rent, food and utilities since you were 7 yrs old. These are just some reasons some may look at you as a "bad" mother. Some people see your future as a welfare mom on section 8, wic, food stamps and medicaid never advancing in life always being an unwanted burden to the tax payer. People are going to judge you and they aren't going to give you an explanation. You just have to accept it and strive to prove them wrong or prove them right.
Answered By: CeCe - 1/2/2009 |
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Of course it does not make you a bad mom. Stay in school, do it for yourself and your baby.
Answered By: Dayle - 1/2/2009 |
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It shows that you used bad judgment with your body but your parenting skills are not in question. what you do from here on out is the deciding factor for your child. work hard to get your education so you wont have to live off the taxpayers once you turn 18 and show your son what a strong woman can really do.
Answered By: boomer s - 1/2/2009 |
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