Ah, the 4 drags of life in one, sorry to hear you got dumped on at the time, job, wife, home, divorce ... a bummer. Well, you can get real depressed, but the good thing is you can drag yourself out of it by getting involved with others. Most that came to our clinic, we got them into a volunteer job, like a hospital, or library, or a kid's group that needs help. The thing with a hospital, if they like the volunteer a lot, while also making friends, you can make contacts and contacts make networks. Good for finding a permanent job, some hospitals even feed their volunteers, which is a plus when hungry. By helping others, your mind is busy & you find you are not dwelling on yourself and your losses, good or bad.
Also, we send the men to their churches, or mosque or synagogue, or temple (divorce is in every religion), where most of the prayers services are around the men in some cases, you can make friends, network, get invited to meals, maybe find ways to get a job, even a place to live to your liking, and a way to start over. Another is taking up an old hobby and join a club, even a reading club is good, or like my favorite, shooting, clay or glock or sniper. One retired guy took up paint-ball, it was a great release and actually found friends and made good connections that helped me through the divorce & restart his life.
Also, rent or borrow great comical movies, old or new, old shoes, even Red Skelton or old Carol Burnett with Tim Conway--laughter makes the body strong and fills the mind with positive thinking. Take up writing, like a journal, by hand, positive stuff. Go to parks, even digital photography can link you to people that will buy photos, but that takes time too. I have a woman that never touched a keyboard is now designing web pages. Out of necessity we can find solutions. A new life begin by beginning new things. Hope this helps.
Answered By: Yusofa's 3 Tribes & 2 Clans - 7/9/2009