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What is the difference between adoption and fostering?

I assume there's a difference, at least. I would really like to know what's the difference is. Please. <3

And my second question is:
Which one would you rather do if given the choice?

and if how has it worked out for you if you've already done it =]

Asked By: InkedRainbow - 7/30/2009
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Adoption is forever. You become the child's parents in every sense of the word. Foster care is a temporary program for child who have been removed from their home due to child sexual abuse,physical abuse, or neglect. It is a program designed to help the child's family get on tract by following a service plan set up specifically for each family to help them solve the problems that brought their child into the care of the CFS. Their service plan might include: drug counseling, rehab, getting a job, getting a home, cleaning out the filthy home, therapy,separating from a sexual abuser, etc. etc. MANY,MANY times the parents don't even try or they don't complete the program plan. In which case the court can and will terminate parental rights. Many times also the parents just sign away their own rights.
I've done both. I've fostered 100 kids, I've adopted 2 kids, and I've took legal guardianship of 2 teens and in all cases I did the right thing.
I also "mentored" with the child"s family during the last 14 yrs of our doing foster care. It was a great experience--and we gained several friends and I can at any time call any of those families and kids and they on the other hand Do call and write and send pictures. WOW--I'm blessed.

And you can always go with whatever WUNDT offers. He is always right-on.
Answered By: cricketlady - 7/31/2009
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My parents are currently foster parents their actually taking care of a relative of ours little girl. they are in he middle of adopting her now that her birth mothers rights have been terminated. i dont really like foster care and cant wait for the adoption to be completed. at any point in time they can decide your not fit to adopt the child and rip her away from you and i have grown attached to my sister and fear that they will take her away all the time. so id go with adoption. you dont have to worry about getting attached then having to give the child back to their birth parents if they end up getting them selfs put together.
Answered By: im a good listener! - 8/3/2009
Foster is temporary and adoption is permanent.

Personally... I'd rather adopt because I have a thing getting attached. I wouldn't want to let the child go and that's what a child needs... someone that would love them and keep them no matter who the child is or where they came from. I've never personally adopted, but I might later on in life. Right now I can and do have my own natural children so the reason for adopting wouldn't be because I couldn't do it. The reason would be less selfish. it would be to give a home, support and love to someone that really needs it. I would wait to adopt until I'm older and my other kids are little older. I got my hands full and I'd want to be able to give my adopted child the attention they would need because they haven't had the nurturing or support they really need. I'd need time to prove to them that they are wanted and just as special as my natural children. And they would be. My real name means love and I've been aptly named. I have a lot to give.

For a long time I've donated things and money to a half way house for abused and neglected children. I do understand the need for fostering. The child needs a place to go that's healthy until they can be adopted. However I rather be part of a longer term solution just simply because I get attached and it would break my heart to have to give up the child to someone else. I know this without a shadow of a doubt because I've done that with animals (which I treat like my own kids... they are so spoiled) and a baby cousin I took care of one summer. Life is precious. All of it. My adopted child would be just as loved and as unconditionally as the natural. Because it isn't the genes or method or even species (hehe) that gets me to love. Everyone deserves to be loved unconditionally by someone.
Answered By: mystic - 7/31/2009
Adoption means the child becomes part of the family permanently.
Fostering is providing a temporary home till a permanent home can be found for the child.

I would not do either. I was abused in both foster and adoption.
cw
Answered By: C Wood - 7/31/2009
Fostering is temporary until the child can be returned to the parents or the parents rights are terminated. Adoption makes a child the legal member of a new family.
Answered By: Lucky - 7/31/2009
Hiya, well thier is a difference

okay...adoption:
you permantly keep the child, the child is yours forever, your the childs parents and like you treat the child like its yours 100?

with...fostering:
you only give the child a temporary home, sometimes just for a couple days and other times it could be till the child is 18years old.a child is placed into fostercare if socialworkers are trying to get an adoption home for him/her to go to.or else the foster parents could be just taking care of the child till the mother/father get thier lifes toghter to bring the child home. also some parents always want to be the childs mother and place them in to fostercare as they cant raise them but dont want to put them up for adoption.the child will then be put in and out of different homes as the parents wont make the decision to put them up for adoption.


hope i helped.


EDIT: forgot to say Id pick doption, i plan to adopt at least 2 or 3 kids when im older.im only 15 now.
Answered By: love--?-- - 7/31/2009
I am someone who was adopted as a 6month old baby. Adoption makes the child 100?OURS. Fostering means you take care of the child for a temporary time, with the state overseeing your every move. Most of those children are taken from troubled homes and spend time in and out of different homes. It's difficult to love and then lose them. I would suggest adoption, but oNLY if you are totally prepared to be a full-time parent forever and ever.
Answered By: kiwi - 7/31/2009
As other have said, adoption is permanent and fostering is meant to be temporary (though it also sometimes becomes permanent).

We adopted through a 'foster to adopt' program in our state. It was a fairly good experience. Our sons were placed with us when they were 'legal risk' cases, i.e. they had been in the foster system for almost a year and their parents had not made any progress toward having custody returned to them. During the first few months we were a typical foster family, caring for the boys, but taking them to visits with their bio-family, writing reports on their behavior and progress, taking them to required doctor and therapist visits, etc. Eventually the case was resolved and we were given the option to adopt (which we took).

Having been through both as a care-giver, I prefer adoption. First, we are now a family and I feel the boys will have opportunities in our home they would not have otherwise (our sons were both delayed because of the neglect and abuse, now, 2 years on, they have both caught up with their peers). Also, frankly, fostering is a lot of paperwork and can be a real pain in the ***, for example, just taking them on a weekend camping trip involves getting permission, filing forms, etc.
Answered By: Wundt - 7/31/2009
Contrary to all of the previous answers (at the time I clicked over to type this reply), fostering doesn't have to be a temporary solution, even though in the vast majority of cases it is.

Personally, I would foster, as I don't believe adoption should be allowed for anyone other than those kids who'd prefer that they are adopted by the people that they live with.
Answered By: 7rin - 7/31/2009
Adoption is a permanent home to a child, fostering is a temporary measure.
Answered By: Lola Jo - 7/30/2009
Foster parents just keep the child for a time. They are paid by the State and usually have to pass rigid guidelines. They have no legal right to the child, just to care for them temporarily.

An adoptive parent has legally adopted the child and is now, in law, their parent.

If I wanted a child for my own, I would adopt. If I wanted to be able to help children in need, I would foster.
Answered By: Julia III - 7/30/2009
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