How do i get over the loneliness?
Ive been in a relationship for nearly 9 years now. We both work hard with our jobs and other commitments and between them and looking after our 2 toddlers we dont get any time for each other and the relationship is startin to become a strain. He often falls asleep on the settee when he gets in from work cos he is tired leaving me to sort the kids out for bed etc. Thing is i keep telling him not to go to sleep downstairs because im sick of going to bed on my own all the time. All he says is that i dont give him a reason to meaning sex, but i try my best but he wants it every Nite, i wouldnt mind but i work just as hard as him and it annoys me as he thinks i do nothing. Anyway last Nite as usual he said get in the bath early and we will have an early Nite so i thought great, got in the bath came downstairs and said We going to bed? And he replied yeah after i have watched this film (Idianna bloody jones) so as usual i ended up in bed on my own, our 1 year old was playing up so i ended Sorting him out. When my boyfriend came upstairs i told him i felt lonely and that he was using our house as a b+b. He never said a word just went downstairs to go to sleep again!! Then i started crying with our little boy asleep next to me. What do i do? Im at the end of my tether and often think about leaving but we have 2 kids and a mortgage and i just dont know what to do.
Asked By: curly.angel24 - 8/25/2009
Best Answer - Chosen by Asker
I feel for you and I understand your frustration... More
Answered By: GAR - 8/25/2009
Additional Answers (10)
your affectin your kids ! u dont cry in front of them its not fair sorry! u need to decide if u wanna stay in the relationship or not ! write a lists of ups and the downs .. sounds like ther wud onli be 3 ! kids mortgage bein alone
Answered By: Zoe - 8/25/2009
I have two children under 5 ... and it is very hard to sleep sometimes and going downstairs isnt the answer you just have to sort out your differences and try to find time for SEX and talking over issues. Possiblly with a third party someone NOT too close to either of you BUT you agree o0n.
Answered By: Ree 9 - 8/25/2009
You have to decide whether you want to be with him or not. Maybe if you say that you're leaving him, he might start to change. Next time, don't let the kids see you cry. You may think they're only babies, but they're smarter than you think.
Answered By: ℓα яєιηα вσяι¢υα - 8/25/2009
You've got 2 kids and a boyfriend, make the most of it, I'm single, no kids and an overwhelming ache for a family, I cry myself to sleep most nights because I'm so lonely and don't have anyone... More
Answered By: Sam C - 8/25/2009
It really sounds like things are building up between you and a lot is being left unsaid. Men and women do communicate differently and an awful lot gets lost in translation... More
Answered By: Paulastar1 - 8/25/2009
To the people who said... More
Answered By: тιηкєявєℓℓ - 8/25/2009
sounds like to me things are already over and by his choice, thats why he acts and carries on like he does. Its just a matter of waiting it out to see who has enough first to do something about it. You need to sit down and realize if this is how you want your life to be or you want something better for yourself. You'... More
Answered By: shecat2u - 8/25/2009
I'm sure that same scenario is being repeated in countless homes across the country right now. You aren't alone. This is what most families experience at some point, and it's how you deal with it that determines whether you will stay together or not. But you can't do it alone, you need your husband on board. It... More
Answered By: SHINY - 8/25/2009
love is not an event . its a process---it will show gradually . give it time stick to it . will pay off in some years regards
Answered By: hyderali - 8/25/2009
I KNOW RIGHT NOW THERE MIGHT BE ALOT OF ISSUES GOING ON TO CAUSE THERE'S A LOT OF FRUSTRATION, BUT IF YOU REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS TALK TO ONE ANOTHER. TRY SETTING A TIME WHEN YA CAN SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH ONE ANOTHER. ME AND MY BOYFRIEND HAVE BEEN TOGETHER GOING ON 7 YEARS AND RIGHT NOW WE HARDLY... More
Answered By: roxy - 8/26/2009
Over 483 Local Jobs Now Hiring In Your Area. $18-$87/Hr - Apply Today!
No Fees! Apply To Become A Mystery Shopper! No Contracts, No Hassle
Earn $95/hr Bookkeeping Right From Home. Free Video Explains All!
Click. Search. Apply. Free!
Other Career Questions
What is your current job? Why did you choose this job? What do you enjoy about your job? What do you dislike about your job? What would be your perfect job? Would you rather have this j...
Where are the jobs? Is productivity and globalization creating a permanent “recession” of jobs? My main issue is I am doing a paper for school and have no idea where to begin. I was hoping suggestions...
Hi ok im 19 and about to start college to do an acess course into a university. Ive been browsing through all the courses and im tottaly stuck! I thought politics but im scared ill end up with some r...
Content is not owned or controlled by Monster. Any content concerns should be addressed with Yahoo!
Yahoo! Does not evaluate or guarantee the accuracy of any Yahoo! Answers content. Yahoo! Disclaimer.
Best-Paying Work-from-Home Jobs
It’s easier than ever to work from home. Of course, not every job is a mobile job, and some companies aren’t interested in having their employees work from home.
2013 Marketing Jobs Outlook
The US may be facing another year of anemic hiring overall, but that won't be the case in the high-orbit world of multichannel, digital media marketing.
2013 Engineering Jobs Outlook
Engineers will find job opportunities in select disciplines in 2013, with candidates who are all-around, client-oriented businesspeople in demand.
Best-Paying Jobs by Major
What could you earn with a particular four-year degree? Find out by checking out this list of the top-paying jobs for 20 of the most common majors.
Eight High-Paying, Secure Jobs
Want to earn a good salary and enjoy a measure of job security as well? Check out these well-paying jobs on tap for fast growth in the coming years.