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Ok I know he had a job there this week, but once again my husband watched his ex mistress walking past him!?

That's twice this week now, and 3 times total. I know he has a job on that street, as a mailman, but it worries me. History is: In Feb this year I caught my husband cheating with a woman for a whole year and apparently he was on the verge of leaving me for her but we worked through it. He swore that was it with her. Although he said he had loved her. She sent me all his messages and texts and IMs and in these, he expressed his love for her, said he didn't want to be with me, I was sexless and cold, but SHE was vibrant, sexy and made him feel loved and able to love again. After I found out, he cut her off and was horrible to her. He also denied he "meant" what he said in the years' worth of those messages. BUT - He went back to her many many times over 6 months, after he promised me that he would cut her out of his life for good - most recently in August when he went to her work, asked the guard to call her down, she got into his van to hear him out .. The next thing you know, my husband is arrested for 'sexual assault' in September. He was finally released without charge 2 weeks ago, and that was that, but they have been warned to stay away from each other. TWO WEEKS AGO: I have found out via a very reliable source, that he drove past her as she walked home from work to the station - IMPORTANT- they both work in the same zip code, he is a driver - he saw her, stared, and apparently he parked right whereby he knew she would be walking past. Minutes later she indeed walked past, and his van was right there, and he caught her gaze and made sure to hold onto it until she disappeared from his view. I am sure he genuinely had a job/pickup/collection, but answer me this: why did he park right by where she would be walking? I happen to know there are PLENTY OF SIDE STREETS on that road so why did he park up in the main bit where she would be passing (entrance to the metro) Why didn't he just think 'f*** her' and park in a side street and not look at her? YESTERDAY: I was told again that MY HUSBAND WATCHED HER WALK AGAIN, AT THE EXACT SAME SPOT. THIS TIME HE WAS SMILING AT HER. Now I don't know what kind of smile - was it "haha, you didn't get me jailed" or "hi!" or what? Apparently she stopped a few meters away, texted something to someone, and carried on walking. Now - he did NOT attempt to speak to her, nor did he leave his van at any point. TODAY: She RAN past him apparently, while he watched. Should I worry?

Asked By: Chrissie - 12/11/2009
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If she had him arrested, and he's still willing to risk it happening again, there's more going on, in his mind at least, than he's telling you. Stalking, on company time, especially when working for the Postal Service, is absolutely risking his job/career. If that's not important to him, there's more going on, at... More
Answered By: bill b - 12/11/2009
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You should check in on the Troll of the Year question to see how your faring so far.
Answered By: Snarky - 12/11/2009
 
Dump him already. You shouldn't have to go crazy worrying if he will cheat. If he is going to then he will.
Answered By: melizza - 12/11/2009
 
My condolences if this is real....and dump the cheater. If you're a troll....get a life.
Answered By: But Inside I'm Screaming - 12/11/2009
 
The real question is, after all this b*****d has put you through, why do you continue to stay with him... More
Answered By: The Artist In The Ambulance. - 12/11/2009
 
Tell your story on the Jerry Springer Show... sounds like it would fit in perfectly for the format
Answered By: Hottie here - 12/11/2009
 
If he isn't trying to wave at her or talk to her, and he has a job there, leave it alone. They do work in the same vicinity, so you tell us.
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Answered By: ♥Sophia♥ - 12/11/2009
 
JEE. ZUS. CHRIST. He's going to cheat on you if he hasn't started already. I'm going to start reporting every post about this as abuse. You're just spamming.
Answered By: Jennifer M - 12/11/2009
 
you get my vote. troll of the year 2009
Answered By: You'll Never Know - 12/11/2009
 
Yes. Loves her Doesn't love you. Leave him. Blah, blah, blah....
Answered By: Element Say FU Yahoo! - 12/11/2009
 
When will you wise Up ? at this point your pain is self induced stupidity..
Answered By: cool breeze - 12/11/2009
 
If your husband loves/loved this lady then its less likely that he will forget it just like that! No human can forget things that they love or loved in a nick of a time. So, its obvious that he will jump the fence if he gets any possible chance... More
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Answered By: Soothsayer.. - 12/11/2009
 
Since i got rid of my cable to save money, i now use your "stories" as my soap opera...i think you need to introduce new characters though. A new mistress perhaps?
Answered By: Mrs. Claus© - 12/11/2009
 
You should take your show on the road... More
Answered By: Honey - 12/11/2009
 
I am not an advocate for divorce, but you should run. I just broke up with my boyfriend because he can't stop texting his ex wife. He won't talk to me because he pretends to be mad at me for the break up... More
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Answered By: busymomandteacher - 12/11/2009
 
You know, I no longer think this is fun for her. I was wrong about that one.
Answered By: FAS - 12/11/2009
 
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