How do you find what you need to be happy within yourself, instead of seeking happiness in relationships?

I have always been the kind of person that thrives on the company of others. I believe one of the most important things I will do with my life is forge relationships with people I find valuable and interesting and sincere. However, this "goal" tends to go too far. I find myself unhappy and irritable when I am alone. My happiness is determined by who calls to talk to me and how often. It's exhausting. How do I find happiness all by myself? I am an atheist and I do love myself somewhat, if not completely.

Asked By: m&ms - 12/25/2009
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Answered By: Jonathan Huie - 12/26/2009
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independence. not having to rely on any one else for anything brings satisfaction and happiness to me.
Answered By: Jimmy - 12/25/2009
*sticks up middle finger* Sit and spin.
Answered By: Mama - 12/25/2009
Honestly, the only way I've come to find happiness in being alone is meditation. I'm a Christian and most people don't think you can meditate without being a religion like Hindu or something. This isn't true. What I meditate on is God and how faithful he is. I'm not trying to be preachy or anything, but God IS how I... More
Answered By: carrie - 12/25/2009
Remember that it does not have to be either/or. Spending a day alone can mean a chance to read, play on the computer, soak in a tub, work on hobbies, whatever you like. People who are very caught up in social activities sometimes forget how to appreciate time alone... More
Answered By: auntb93 - 12/25/2009
you may love yourself , but do you like yourself? Like the hobbies you have? cooking ,watching movies,playing music,singing karaoke,traveling,fishing, camping,riding motorcycles, exercising , ETC... More
Answered By: Noble and famous - 12/25/2009
You are using people to validate your existence. Everyone does this to some extent, but you have a problem when you NEED that constant "fix" you get for the attention of others. You "love yourself," and that's good. It's a place to start. Now you need to begin working to become one of your best friends. Learn to talk... More
Answered By: Old School Hero - 12/25/2009
It's pretty easy for me because people mostly suck. I guess I am somewhat anti-socual because everyone is so fake. It makes me sick. Save myself the drama of "getting to know all about you" stuff. Sometimes, I think it would be better if America just cut off a hand on a convicted creep to save me the time of it all... More
Answered By: bluelotussmellslikebananas - 12/25/2009
Between the lines, your question seems to be screaming -"What is the Meaning of Life!". Most Atheists are Atheist because they reject the "absolutes" of the various dogma offered for consideration by other religions. Therefore, you might accept that the Meaning of Life is open to some degree of Relativism. Id Est... More
Answered By: Happy Camper - 12/28/2009
First of all you need to cut down a little bit of your friends company...for example don't keep calling them With for them to call ...if you want to be happy alone... More
Answered By: Angel - 12/29/2009
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