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Is there anything more that I can do to make my boyfriend not want sex?

A little long but please help me if you can :) I've been with my 21 year old boyfriend for a year and a couple of months (I'm 20). He is an extremely attractive, popular, caring and considerate guy. After about 7 months together, he let me know in a flirty and fun way that he really desired to pleasure me orally and see me possibly in my underwear for the first time. I let him know that I didn't have any desires or curiosity for anything beyond cuddling and kissing. He immediately apologised and has completely respected how I feel towards sexual activity ever since. He never speaks of anything sexual with me and always keeps things above board. If by chance he gets flirty and playful or slips up, he immediately apologises or I give him a look and he apologises. I want our relationship to be about romance, love, devotion, kissing and cuddling. I'm extremely against sexual activity and become very agitated if my boyfriend gets flirty with me in any way or if he goes beyond normal conversation. Is there anything more that I can do try to stamp all sexual thoughts or desires he may have for me out or make him not desire me sexually? I want him to just see me as a person and have no sexual desires or thoughts towards me. We're both virgins and I'm not religious.

Asked By: Ryan - 5/9/2010
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I think Dan Savage does a decent job describing the situation... More
Answered By: Tau - 5/9/2010
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How ridiculous is this. You don't want him to have sexual feelings?? That's the most retarded thing I've ever heard of. Time to grow up girl. Hopefully this guy's leaves you because you don't know a thing about relationships.
Answered By: Racer - 5/9/2010
 
What a stupid question. Seek sexual counselling because you desperately need it.
Answered By: Phobee - 5/9/2010
 
I commend you for being so strong and not wanting sex until it is right. There is nothing you can do to stop your boyfriend thinking about it, it is a male thing. And I don't mean that in a nasty way. Women can go without sex a lot longer than a man can. If he really loves you and respects you, he will abide by... More
Answered By: k1e9r6r3y - 5/9/2010
 
Refrain from bathing. Start wearing a burqa. Get a chastity belt (and let him know you're wearing one).
Answered By: Little Princess - 5/9/2010
 
There's nothing you can do (other than religious brain washing) to stop him thinking about it. Your talking about a fully grown male who is genetically built to think about stuff like that. Could be a problem down the track so try and respect this fact.
Answered By: lyttlejohn7 - 5/9/2010
 
Why are you against sexual activity? I think thats cool though that you guys are both virgins, and it's good that he respects you on your thoughts and beliefs. But i doubt that you can make his sexual thoughts go away...He's a guy and you love each other. If you guys love each other, then i'm pretty sure he see's you... More
Answered By: Katie K - 5/9/2010
 
dont have a chance of keeping him not wanting sex, are you gonna die a virgin? just tease you only live once!
Answered By: Lil Sexy Lulu - 5/9/2010
 
You will kill him. Do you know how stressed guys become when there is no sex? Sex is NORMAL, no sex is unnormal.
Answered By: guy - 5/9/2010
 
well babe there is no problem in demanding something for urself well this kinda situation u r in now many girls go through that well thr is a difference in males and females it has been noticed in a servey that males like physical intimacy and females want emotional intimacy i can just say that sex is not something... More
Answered By: swati singh - 5/9/2010
 
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