I'm pregnant, and the baby has a heart defect. What should I do about the absent father and his family?
I'm 20 weeks pregnant, and I found out a few days ago that the baby has serious heart defect and will need surgery shortly after birth. I've had an amnio done, and the baby doesn't share my blood type (AB-), he has his fathers blood type (B+). I haven't talked to the father in 4 months, not for lack of trying. I was going to go on living my life without him, and just see him in court for child support, but this changes EVERYTHING! I don't know how I should tell him about this. All I want from him is to give blood incase the baby needs it. I tried today to tell him. I went to his job (he works at a local zoo). He drove past me within 3 feet of me, gave me a dirty look, looked at my tummy, and just shook his head. I tried so hard to speak up and say something, but I have a stutter, and by the time I got a word out, he was gone. Now I'm left with a few options, and don't know which to do... 1: Keep going back to his work, whenever I can, and try to be able to catch him and just tell him. I used to work there too, and alot of my old co-workers support me with this, and I won't get in trouble. 2: Go to his Moms work and try to talk to her. I never met her while we were dating. I emailed her once on Facebook, just telling her I was pregnant and that if she wanted something to do with the baby, she's more then welcome to call me. She ignored me, and blocked me. I'm sure my ex told her a bunch of lies about me. I dunno. But, I know where she works, a hair salon, and I'm wondering if I should try talking to her, even though she's already ignored me. 3: Just keep calling him, leaving VMs and texts, and hope it gets through to him, which I don't know if he will even listen to messages or read my texts or emails. I don't know what to do. My entire life was turned upside down. I was 2 weeks away from moving to the other side of the US, away from him, and starting a life on my own, and then I found out about this. And, I can't leave without my ex atleast knowing what's going on. Please help, what do you think I should do and say? Thank you.
Asked By: Sienna's Mommy - 1/14/2011
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Answered By: Tina has Twins - 1/15/2011
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I'm really sorry for what you're going through :( The best I can suggest is to try and keep contacting him. Call and leave messages or go back to his work. Be confident and get him to listen... More
Answered By: Elise - 1/15/2011
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