Ramadan : Will every muslim please read this? please wallah i need every muslim with a heart to hear me out?

	Ramadan : Will every muslim please read this? please wallah i need every muslim with a heart to hear me out? I'm going to let go of all of my dignity for this. Only because I'm at rock bottom and I need help from Muslims. Please take me seriously ok? i know it's long but wallah i beg you to read all of it. please I am one of 5 kids, of two parents that divorced 1 year ago after 23 years of marriage. I have visited jordan once, 4 months ago only to realize this is where i personally need to live to live my life. All of my life i have worked no less than 65-70 hours per week. Parents needed help i did not have time for college. i have never had a chance to save any money. parents divorce and hell breaks loose. death threats back and forth while little kids cry on a daily basis. spitting in each others faces literally. kids losing their islam. my little 11 year old sister would sit in my mothers car at night from like 8-12 while my mom is sleeping.. alone and depressed with our cat. i am working and have no way to fix it. dad just took custody of her and 13 year old bro. why? he saw cuts on her arm asked what it was.. and found out. an 11 year old screaming for attention not getting it. little bro wears headphones playing video games 12 hours a day sleeping the rest trying to drown out the reality of his life. my family is a crazy bunch of depressed people and i have always been in the middle carrying them on my back trying to help them financially and mentally but thus far it's only went lower into a hole. i have a beard and practice islam. police pull me over even while JUST WALKING asking for id, who i am, what am i doing etc etc. undercovers follow me for no reason if i drive to massachusetts a state away. if i walk into a convenient store and theres people talking, the room gets silent. im a freak show... no one sees me as human even though i am. muslims here are not good.. not trustworthy, not caring.. i have no friends no family.. i live my life alone and wallahi i cry every freaking day or at least have in the past week! i don't know what to do anymore. im 22 and need to go to jordan and get married. i have no comfort or friendship. what am i going to do, look for it hugging into a girl at 2 am in my car? just lost my job (company lost it's license long story) and my car isn't goign to last long. im on the verge of being ruined constantly. for too long ive been like this. and the world doesn't hear me or see me. how can i live??? so 4 days ago i saw a contest on fb where the winner is by number of votes. the winner gets 100,000. i need less than half to bring my family to where our family is and get married. the country i visited.. let me tell an example. A boy who is my age, has 6 or 7 siblings. his parents too old to work. he is in school and raising a family on less than 250 a MONTH. there are people like him and thousands of people in worse situations there. my aim is after i open my business do to things, take a percentage of that income, + the leftover money, and open up a soup kitchen/shelter. where muslims can eat daily, and also live if they can't afford living. i swear to god this would make the lives of thousands of muslims liveable. but why doesn't this happen now? muslims don't think it's a big deal. or muslims don't think they can make a difference. why? because they don't have high expectations of their creator. which puts us in the situaiton we're in now. to all those that live in the uk or usa that have never seen the middle east.. know that what you have is hundreds of times what they have. the cars they drive are so cheap they dont even exist in the us. the homes are made of rock. they can't use water freely because it gets delivered to their houses monthly or weekly. i swear, you do not understand how rich you are compared to those people. and they are the most beautiful muslims you'd ever meet in your life. i want to be there because although poor i can achieve two things. 1 is being in the simple life, farther from sin im in now so id be not in danger of what i am, be able to see what life is instead of being distracted by dunya and also be able to have a family not fearing for my kids iman. second thing is i would be able to help thousands of muslims that truly need it. i swear to allah if you read this and are muslim or even not muslim and have a heart.. all you have to do is vote for me once a day, show your friends this message, tell them to vote once a day, put it on facebook n youtube . spread the word. if every one of you does that truly i can win it. please, don't take this as NOTHING becuase it's not and im at rock bottom in my head and don't know how to handle it any more. will you please help??? it's WINNABLE wallah this is the youtube ad my bro made for me and then the link to vote if you care enough to. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SLU1IJ3MdWI&feature=related http://apps.f http://apps.facebook.com/dockerswearthepants/entries/25821 tebriz thanks but i didn't post this for a lecture on how great american muslims were. i posted this for what i posted it for. do it or don't salam and thanks. Asked By: Jihad Rousan - 3/3/2011

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I am deeply saddened by your story! I thought my life was hard, but after reading this, I feel like I have no reason to complain. I'm sorry you have to go through all that, but remember Allah tests those who he loves. Be patient, and InshaAllah Allah will help you out with all your problems. Just continue to pray, make dua, and remain steadfast, and you will be rewarded. I sincerely wish you all the best, and applaud you for your strength. If you need anyone to talk to you can leave me a message :) PS. When I voted for you, I saw your picture. Mash'Allah you have a lot of noor :) Answered By: M - 3/3/2011

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Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu :( May Allah (swt) grant you success and shower you and your family with blessings and always keep you all under His Mercy and Protection....Ameen Ya Rahman Answered By: فاطمة - 3/3/2011

Sallam bro, You shouldn't generalize muslims in the west, although you may have had bad experiences. trust me there are muslims who were born out in the west who didn't forget where they came from (elhamdollilah good parenting) everything in this life is a test. and the muslims, whose parents struggled for a better themselves, who are living in the west have their own test just as you do. this better lifestyle is a test. muslims in the west have a better opportunity for a better education which means a better high earning job. and believe are muslims who achieved all of that but didn't forget and many of them (young and old) give much needed money back to their communties and go back and start organizations to help the poor. bro, there are good people out there who have good intentions. don't be jaded by a few and stop believing in the good of people. as for you and your struggles, just remember there's plenty of people who are in worse circumstances than you and that while your life may not be ideal at the moment, it is still a blessing, and that Allah will not give you what you cannot handle. there will be great bliss and uncanny depression in this donya, but they're all test. it's tough to help the majority of people when you yourself are poor. but please don't lose your faith in people, especially those who live next to you. ____________________ I wasn't lecturing you. Answered By: Tebriz - 3/3/2011

Salaam, It takes a lot of courage to pour out your heart in such a manner as you have. Bro have sabr and stay as focused and strong as you can, Insha'Allah your situation will get better. I will keep you in my Dua and also inform my friends and colleges of your plight. Answered By: - 3/3/2011

Er, my post didn't post. To summarize, life is a test. Allah tests who he loves and if he really loves you, he tests you even more! Your job? Have patience and to overcome it and get to Jannah where you will feel none of these sorrows. I want you to try to think about how much worse things could be for you. You could be paralyzied, brain dead,, autistic, blind, deaf, lose a limb, inability to speak, having to live in severe poverty having to worry about how you will feed your family tomorrow. Me, I have had my tests to. I grew up with parents who would fight all the time, I used to wish they would get divorced. I also grew up with a father who spent no time with his children, but would constantly yell at them for every little thing. We were scared of him. Now, I am used to everything. I don't care so much anymore. I just try to work with what I have, not what I wish I had. Then, recently I was told by doctors that I am believed to have muscular dystrophy. My life felt like it had ended. I wanted to curl up and die, and spent many hours loathing in self pitty. I kept thinking of how my life would change and how much I would miss out on in the future. Alhamdullilah Allah has helped me to overcome this with patience. My desires of having a happy normal life of my own have been replace with the urge to help others stuggling in life. I have recently taken up volunteering to help immigrants fleeing from their countries out of fear for their life to help them learn basic math. I am amazed at how strong some of these people are. I also am a mentor to a little girl in BBBS, with my job being to help her overcome her life issues and to be strong and try to be happy. Volunteering has done me a great deal of good too. I suggest you try volunteering in the meantime if you can't afford to do your great idea. And please try not to think badly of Americans. I am American. Do I think how perfect the US is? NO! I am fully aware of what is going on in other countries, and I badly wish I could help them. The problem is I don't have much money right now. I have always had a wish and desire that when I got older and was financially able, that I would travel to those countries and hand out money to those in need. I still want to do that. So please, don't generalize about Americans, it is extremely offensive. If you take steps towards Allah, he will come running to you. Make dua that Allah will make your life easier. But, if you want things to change you have to also do your part to achieve that. I assure you, loathing in self pitty will do you absolutely no good. You need to look at the postive aspects of life, think of the future, and don't dwell on the past or things that you don't have or wish you had. I wish you the best and very much hope that your life will get easier. But please, be patient and mindful of Allah. Think postively, not negatively. Oh, and yes inshallah I will vote for you daily, if it can help bring you happiness. Answered By: Mindy - 3/3/2011

Brother, there is a hadith along the lines: The people most prone to trials with afflictions are the prophets and then the most pious and then the next in piety and so on. A man is tried according to the strength of his belief. If his belief is firm, his trial will be harder, and if his belief is weak, he is tried accordingly. A servant of Allah will go on being tried with afflictions until he walks on earth free of sins. So have Sabr Al-Jameel Answered By: ΛЯΛβ ΜΦŞľıΜ - 3/3/2011

Subhanallah you just made me realise how lucky we are over here i felt alot of pain reading your post to say the least i have voted for you, will get others to vote for you and am going to make alot of dua for your situation to change inshallah Allah swt must really love you to put you through such torture stay strong Answered By: Sunshine..x - 3/3/2011

Alsalaam alaykum wr wb, may Allah swt ease your struggle in this dunya and reward u for it in the next..ameen. question: do i need to have a facebook to vote? salaam Answered By: Jana B - 3/3/2011

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