parents what should i do with my teenage son?

I'm a single mother of a 16 year old son named, Cj. My husband died 3 years ago right before my Cj got into his teen years and its been really hard for me lately when it comes to Cj. I feel like I don’t know who my own son is anymore since the past couple of months. I think its because of his 16 yr old girlfriend Ryder. Ryder has some tattoos kind of an Avril Lavigne punk rocker girl, the complete opposite of what my son is/was. She is possibly the best and worst thing that could have entered his life, but I‘m losing pieces of baby to her. Ryder and my son Cj have been dating for a little over a year. For maybe about the first 3 months that they were dating I really got to know Ryder and I thought still do think that she is a great girl. Her parents died when she was younger and can relate to Cj. She’s at the top of class in grade and ever since her and my son have started dating he’s gone from a B student to an A student but still… about 6 months ago I caught Cj and Ryder smoking pot in my house. I had a stern talk with and told them the dangers of drugs. They said they would stop, but they haven’t anf continue to get high almost everyday “because it should be legal anyways” “we’re just having some fun” is what they say. two weeks ago, I come home and I saw her giving him oral sex or a Bj like they called it, oh yeah and they smelled like pot. So I had a talk with them together about sex and safe sex. Then I had a talk with Cj alone and I asked him to respect me and my house They have been pushing it. They obviously have a physical attraction to one another. They are always displaying their affection when other people are around. It's gotten to the point where Its disgusting, they are very inappropriate in public places. For example, being all over eachother like animals in a movie theater. They make disgusting sexual remarks towards eachother when other people are around. Its embarrassing. Last week i walked into my house and they were dry humping and excessively kissing in my house Today I went to in my sons room at 6am and there Ryder was underneath his covers showing off her best talents. Apparently she’s been sneaking into my house at nights. They’re rebelling for no reason at all and I don’t understand. Something has to happen, it’s gotten to a point where it’s unacceptable and I can’t handle it anymore. They say they haven’t done anything more than oral sex but that’s probably lie and I can’t handle my son smoking pot and whoring himself out with this girl. I don’t care that his grades have improved since he’s been dating her and I don’t care that they say that they’re in love with each other. I want them to breakup even though I know that’s not going to happen. I don’t know. I want my son back, to be like he once was. What should I be doing? Is this really how kids behave nowadays? Is Ryder poison to my son? What should I do?

Asked By: - 7/25/2011
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hi im 16 and iv been dating my boyfriend for over a year reading your story makes me wonder if his mom feels the same about me :( but then again my boyfriend and i swore to ourselves to never to drugs or drink and i am very proud of that. and i don't have tattoos ouch! ok so.. first of all my mother would murder me of... More
Answered By: sarah - 7/26/2011
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