I have a question about inheritance from a Uncle?
I have a Aunt and Uncle who have no children. My Uncle's siblings are all deceased and my Aunt's is not close to any of her siblings and has not had much to do with them over the years in fact I have only spoke to one of them since she got sick. My Aunt got dementia it took me awhile to figure out what was going on with her. I chased her all over the place and finally had the car taken away from her. She had numerous wrecks and had not paid some of their bills and taxes for quite sometime it was a mess. My Uncle has schizophrenia and has had that for years.She was the one who always took care of the bills. One of my cousins husband stepped in to help me he straightened out all of the bills and makes sure their bills are paid which was a blessing. We have been driving them around to Dr appointments grocery shopping and whatever else they needed for a few years before one of our other cousins left her husband and moved in with them. She needed a place to stay and they needed the help and they are paying her $150 a week she pays no rent or utilities. In exchange she drives them around grocery shops and takes care of my Aunt who is bed ridden now. Hospice is coming everyday to tend to my Aunt as well. I have been appointed Power of Attorney over my Uncle only if he cannot make his own decisions and the Dr says so and one relative says so. He recently got very ill and was hospitalized and he will need rehab after this because he is so weak. I have been to the hospital several times to see about him and to make the arrangements for his rehab. The cousin that lives with them her and her husband got back together and he moved in as well. Now she is telling us he wants her to have his house. She has been there for 8 months and the House is worth about $225,000. She told me last night she has done more for them then anyone else has and she has given up her life to be there for them. She says this is her job and she is entitled to it.. Her sister and I feel like she has been paid already after all he is paying her plus free rent and utilities. As far as I know he has not changed his will. Oh yes they do have their own house they could go home to. My thing is we have no idea if there will be anything left for anyone to have. I plan to use whatever money he has to take care of him if that means I have to sell that house and everything in it to make sure he is taken care of that is what I plan to do. We have been told by hospice that his wife does not have much longer to live and she was the bread winner so his income is about to become really limited. I am grateful that my cousin is living with them and she has been a big help. I am a little bit stressed the only reason she is there is because she thinks there is going to be a big pay off. I have told her if there is anything left it should be split up among the ones who were their care givers as I stated she strongly disagrees. So for now I really don't want to focus on that I want to focus on what is best for them at this point in their life I have thought about going to his phycaristrist and asking for a letter stating he cannot make his decisions and I know her sister would concur just because I am afraid she may try and rip him off if she sees she is not going to get what she wants. What do you think I should do? We live in Alabama I already have durable power of attorney and my Uncle has told my cousin's husband he is leaving him everything and he has told me the same thing. He is not competent enough to make this decision on his own. Yesterday he told my Mom when he gets out of the hospital he is going to buy another car and move to Tampa and work and he is taking his wife with him.. There is noway that is going to happen. He license has been suspended and his wife is unable to travel period. He does have a will but I have not seen it.
Asked By: mdjgirl7 - 8/15/2011
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First, caregivers at end of life often either think they deserve a reward for their service, or the deceased apparently remembers them most, as they were the most recent people around before the death. That's a general statement, but I have a problem with the number of end of life care givers who end up with the lion's... More
Answered By: Stuart - 8/15/2011
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You need to get this all set up with the doctors and decide if you can take over care giving. If so I would send cousin home, if not set up a legal plan and a payment schedule for her care. Get copies of all legal documents, wills etc. If your Aunt passes ands things are in her name you may have major problems. Do not... More
Answered By: LYNN in FL (suspended @#*%) - 8/15/2011
If there isn't a will in place that appoints a durable power of attorney for finances then you will have to hire an attorney and settle the matter in court. The judge needs to be sure that your aunt and uncle are unable to make any sound financial decisions. Once that is determined, a durable power of attorney is... More
Answered By: Anser - 8/15/2011
If he hasn't altered his will then he might have told her he wanted her to have his house to gauge her reaction, or he might have meant he'd like to be he can't afford to, or he might not have said that at all and she could be playing you. If you take any action then you do need to make certain you are on as firm a... More
Answered By: Rusty Plastic - 8/15/2011
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