If someone announces that they are coming to visit, or just shows up, am I supposed to change my plans?
We live across the other side of Australia to our family and some of our friends. We have had three instances now, where people have either showed up unannounced (this was a relative that we had not seen or spoken to in 5 years!) the other two times were people who called less than 12 hours beforehand and said 'I'll be there tomorrow!' This is really starting to p*** me off. My husband works in a mine on a roster, and must give minimum 2 weeks notice for any leave. I run a busy pet sitting business and I would need at least a month's notice before I can organise to do anything! Apart from this, I do not have time to clean the house within 12 hours notice, nor can I afford to get someone to do it. We had a relative call last night and say she will be here in 3 weeks - that's good to have notice, but we have planned a weekend away for that date!!! Because of our jobs we have to plan things well in advance, and I would assume that our relatives, of all people, should know this!!! What do we do??? Am I right to feel annoyed by this? I would never just 'drop in' on someone on the other side of the country without giving notice first!!! Our 'weekend away' is actually 4 days at a beachside camping place 4 hours away. My hubby and I have not had a trip away for months, and I have worked each and every day for 3 months now. VERY much looking forward to it, I really don't want to have to cancel :-( Imagine your most annoying relative. Now imagine bringing them along to a romantic campsite for 4 days with you. We want to avoid bringing her with us at all costs :-(
Asked By: Mrs M - 8/31/2011
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Travelers hate to spend money on accommodations when there are friends or family they think they can park on. You really need some good words handy, when that sort of thing pops up... More
Answered By: marys.momma - 8/31/2011
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no stick to the original plan unless a confirmed change has been made
Answered By: Cameron - 8/31/2011
dont cancel the trip, just take them with you
Answered By: Pearl L - 8/31/2011
Inform your relative that you will be unavailable due to a planned vacation. If he/she is reasonable, they'll understand. If not, tough.
Answered By: Gina - 8/31/2011
Start learning to say "no" to people. Give people an inch and they they take the whole yard stick.
Answered By: Andrewa - 8/31/2011
You ASSUME your relatives know that you have to plan far in advance. Have you TOLD them? For the sake of argument, I'll asusme that you have told them. So they know that you need some warning yet continue to 'pop in'. Ignore them. Obviously not literally, but simply continue with your plans WITHOUT them. When... More
Answered By: mcq316 - 8/31/2011
I'd be extremely annoyed. I would tell them straight up, "Hey, sorry you came all this way, but you didn't tell us when you were coming and we've already made plans. Next time I'll expect to hear from you before you decide to drop by."
Answered By: Jack Danger - 8/31/2011
It sounds like your friends and family are just using you to avoid paying for hotel rooms. It's time for you to get some thick skin and a stronger spine and start saying no. It isn't your responsibility to entertain guests to whom you haven't invited... More
Answered By: missbeans - 8/31/2011
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