Should I tell the people at the care home that I work at that I am a lesbian?
I've been working there just over a week, and several people are asking me if I have a boyfriend- every time they do, I feel deceitful when I just laugh nervously and say no. I want them to know about my sexual orientation for a few reasons: A) In case there are any policies in place which say I should not be bathing the mentally disabled women I care for and should not see them naked or anything. B) I live very near to the place that I work and it is likely that they might someday see me in the town centre with a girlfriend. I'm worried that if I don't tell them now, they might think that I was trying to hide my sexual orientation in order to look at the women I bathe without suspicion, etc. On the other hand, it is a difficult thing for me to just announce. They did not ask me for my sexual orientation on any of my application forms, and I'm not sure who I should go to if I need to share this information. Certainly my lesbianism doesn't change my ability to do my job, but I'm worried that it will change the way people look at me and make them have less faith in my motives when I volunteer to help with changing or cleaning the women in the home. Also, the people I work with are still almost strangers and I have trouble coming out to people I don't trust... Please help, should I tell them or not? Am I required to? Who should I speak to and what can I say without making myself sound suspicious?! I really don't want to put this job in jeopardy, I love it. UPDATE: I added a co-worker I trust on Facebook and told her, and she was really kind about it. She promised to keep it a secret and assured me there were no laws in place that prevent me from doing my job. She encouraged me to be open if I wanted to in case people saw me with my girl and gossiped about it, but promised that people wouldn't find out anything from her. I feel much better now :) Thank you all for your advice.
Asked By: Drops Of Jupiter - 9/21/2011
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Are you saying straight males nurses and care workers shouldn't give grandpa his bath down at the Golden Manor? Or only the gay male nurses and care workers... More
Answered By: DaveTBiG - 9/21/2011
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Why would you tell them anyway that's your personal life. If you do they can't fire you so who cares.
Answered By: wichichila - 9/21/2011
Contact Lambda Legal and see what the laws are concerning job discrimination where you live. In many states, it is entirely legal to fire someone on the basis of their orientation... More
Answered By: MzCalypso - 9/21/2011
the next time that they ask you if you have a boyfriend just tell them that you're a lesbian...i don't think it'd matter to them, its you personal life in the end and you don't have to hide it. good luck <3
Answered By: whatever - 9/21/2011
I would say get to know your patients first. you have not been working there that long. i know i have to trust the person and know them before i reveal that im a lesbian. when you do im sure they will accept it. you can still do your job effectively like everyone else even though you are into women. when you decide to... More
Answered By: let it be - 9/21/2011
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