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	Caused me more problems than it was worth? A few days ago, I was walking home at 11pm having been to the 24hr supermarket. It was a Friday and things were a bit rowdy, although this is a small English village. From about 100 yards away I could see something, or someone, lying in the street and as I got closer I realised it was a person. In fact, it was a young woman, I don't know maybe 19, 20, 21, completely drunk. I put my shopping down and we sat against a wall, talking for one or two moments. She was crying, her breasts were hanging out, her shoes were in the road, and I didn't know what was going on. Eventually, I helped her to get dressed - yep, I put her bra back on - fetched her shoes, made her look a little respectable and called a taxi for her. I didn't know - and didn't ask - where she was going to go, but I didn't want her getting in a taxi with everything exposed. I was not the Good Samaritan, but I felt pleased that I had helped her on her journey. I gave her some money for the taxi. When I arrived home - 2 mins away from all this - I told my girlfriend, and she went bananas. She is not really speaking to me even now. 'Was she nice?' 'How old was she?' .....and so it went on hour after hour. The truth is that I did have to put her breasts back in her bra, because I knew the taxi was on its way. How? Because I rang the taxi company. I didn't feel her breasts, I just put them back. For God's sake. The girl was out of the game, upset, and I wanted her at her home ASAP - but I did not dare ask her address. That was her job to tell the driver where she lived - I had done all I could. The problem is that I would probably do the same again. Should I have just left her (that would go against the grain), or what? Asked By: Paul - 9/30/2011

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There is no doubt that you did the right thing. If the world did not have people you did the "right thing" and had the attitude to help out a stranger in trouble the world would be cold and awful place. You girlfriends response is very immature, and it could point to some form of insecurity that she has. Her reaction is completely "over the top". Instead being happy that you saved somebody from r**e, abuse or worse she is jealous that you gave somebody other than her care and attention that was absolutely required in the circumstances You girlfriends sounds a very different type of person to you. A person who does the right and responsible thing without any sense of "getting something back" Even though you are hurt and confused, the problem really lies with your girlfriend not with you. She does not appear to have a understanding that it is the right thing to help people in distress where you can without any thought of reward. Any normal person would have done the same as you. You have not said how long you have been with your girl friend, however I think that you deserve somebody a lot better and somebody who is more like you, kind and forgiving. This may be not the last time that she gets upset because you may need to help somebody else in future. The reality is, in life is sometimes circumstances get more difficult and confusing situations, if your girlfriends reaction was so selfish in a case, that was so straightforward, (a person needed help) it does not sound like you are a good match. However the decision with your ongoing relationship with your girlfriend is yours, however this totally unrealistic and selfish reaction speaks volumes about the type of person she is. Therefore the question you now have is this the type of girl friend (or the type of reaction) you want. If she is not willing to come to the understanding that you have indeed done the right thing after things this is telling you a lot about the person that she is. Good Luck. (and well done) Answered By: John - 9/30/2011

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You done a good thing. Tell your girlfriend she needs to trust you more, ask her how she would feel if that was her in the street? Would she want someone to just leave her? Answered By: Lilly - 9/30/2011

How could you question what you did for that unfortunate woman ... even if your girlfriend is questioning your motives? It was the most natural and humane thing to do. Feel proud and glad that fate put you in a position to render assistance to this person. Just ignore your girlfriend and her insecurities, as long as your conscience is clear. Answered By: Effie - 9/30/2011

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