WE are all out laws sometimes... in this life.. if we marry...
the trouble s.... waters can be many... but the bridge is acknowledging where the hearts need to bend... realizing.. there is more than enough love to go around...
After life... you bet I would... there are many wonderful mother in laws, even if they weren't particularly fond of us... the trouble never was really with us... so coming into these awareness's.. free us... to be graciously generous. What is astounding... is when we change our shades, and put on new lenses... our vision changes ~ it is possible to see them as children, as we move our hearts into compassionate comforts.. they too, are just children, who have been hurt by this life too. New compassions rise in us, once we understand, these people are love in essence.. so, we can, help raise them to life...if we handle with care, those delicate hearts.. with integrity...most of the time, i have seen the fragility and fear, kinda moves me to be kind, and love touches all!
Also,I realize, many of these old souls, never had Love explained to them, and perhaps, never discovered love or how to love others.. a look into family dynamics really will help anyone experiencing difficulties and yes, when someone is eighty or so, i would say, don't expect change from them, helping them best is loving them now, and maybe if your lucky, you will get to place a picture in your wallet... with a smile, of her on her face.. and take it home wit ya.. before she leaves planet earth!
I can't reconstruct anyone's ex mother in law, or present one... but still in all... I can focus on the beauties of their hearts.. even if they could not mine...
That is what the bridge does.. it frees us, to walk over those stormy waters.. and takes us into lands of new appreciations... when we are freed, we are taken from those things that bind us...
One good thing to do... with any mother in law... is to ask permission, in soft genuine kindness... it gives them a sense of worth, and turns their hearts towards goodness...a quietly spoken word given in real love is felt... and can move those inward mountains we all seem to have... some time or another. ((Essentially, when we humble our self in this manner, we are be-questing... beseeching their blessing, bestowing honor upon them, giving them their rightful place... and in so doing, the willow tree, bows, covering us in times when shade is needed... it really is quite beautiful to see this flowering >> unfold before us... think of how the blessings are handed down>>> generation to generation>>> when we honor her, she honours us...most of the time, this is all *She* ever really wanted from the beginningssss.... ) this is the encircling power of love...
one might say... tenderly...." is that okay with you Mom,_____(insert name) ~ most of these ladies deeply just want to know they are truly loved... and that they are of worth too...
A good hug, with a generosity of spirit is the only way to turn the stubborn ones around... that and a casually planted thought, that love is meant for us all... wish I could explain this a little better...
Somewhere over the rainbow, they may come to love you and maybe even say they are sorry... for those hurts they expertly carry out... Once I make a star, i will take on a tougher job!!! haha The trouble with in laws, is that we are all part of the group... and we all are considered at times... the Outlaws.. in this group. Some thing most overlook! Love Kar
Answered By: ! - 11/18/2011 |