I literally have 99 problems: Feeling lonely and depressed, and finding it difficult to change it?
I'm 20 and female and rather uncomfortable with where I am in life. I'll try my best to summarize my problems, but as you can see I might be rambling a little because of all that's in my head. I apologise that this is a very long post, but all my problems tend to interlink as well, so I'm trying to get that across. I've been unemployed for 6 months since leaving education and it's so unfair because I have been putting immense effort into trying to get a job, internship, apprenticeship or training course. I couldn't even get a part time job during education either, so this sucks more. I constantly scour the web and any other source with help on how to get a job, as well as looking and applying to several jobs every week on job sites and company career sites. I've had my CV checked by a few professional people and they say it's fine, and I'm just unlucky because of the bad job market. I've also managed to get a few interviews, but still been rejected by all, and a couple of the employers gave me feedback that I don't seem very passionate about the role (even though I thought I was), so I am trying to work on my interview technique and articulating myself better. But all these knockbacks are so depressing (I couldn't even get an Xmas temp job ffs), because I'm not being given a chance to start my career and earn my own money, and also it's one thing making me feel so unwanted in this world. I've done plenty of volunteering and I still do, but I'm getting a bit fed up with them and just want a paid job for once. I'm not going to uni because I didn't do well in my A Levels and I don't feel passionate about any particular subject anymore. After failing my A Levels, I thought about doing an Access course as soon as I was old enough, but then I realised that probably wouldn't be the best idea. It seems wrong to try and get into uni just for the sake of anything but wanting to study, which I hate. And I do like learning and reading things on Wikipedia, I just hate doing essays and exams where I'm graded on my knowledge and intelligence. I also don't really know what career I want either, which is stressing me out a bit. Being NEET is having an impact on other parts of my life which could have improved otherwise, such as my barely existent social life and love life. I had a few friends from school who I used to hang out with outside school, but since school finished we seem to have drifted apart and finding it hard to keep in contact. I've tried contacting them and asking them out to things, but they either ignore me or have some excuse that they're too busy to come. This sucks because I'd like to try clubbing and going to bars more often, which I feel I can't really do without friends to go with. Two girls who I used to call my best friends both have long time boyfriends, and it's a bit of a shame that they're not really helping me to get one too. I'm also a long time single person, with my limited experience being one primary school "boyfriend", one non serious secondary school boyfriend, and one unexpected date with someone I met on a forum. I've never ever even kissed anyone passionately or done anything sexual, and although I don't want to be desperate and jump into something casual as I'm saving myself for someone special, I'm feeling a bit frustrated all the same, and like I'm a weirdo for not having much experience. I'm upset at how hard it is for me to find someone special, as I find it immensely difficult to hook up with guys. This is really depressing me and making me feel rather unattractive, and another reason I feel unwanted in this world. I've tried using an online dating site a few times, but I'm not sure I like it because it feels so weird "shopping" for men online like I'm buying items on eBay or something. And before you say to join hobby clubs to meet people, yes I want to but I can't right now because they cost money, which I don't really have since no one will give me a job. I also want to go travelling the world but again, no money. So yeah, basically stuck in a crap cycle of loneliness and dissatisfaction which I'm finding difficult to break out of. Congrats if you managed to read that all. I feel like I'm not making the most of being young, but then again I'm stuck at what else I can do. Anyone ever been in a similar situation, or have any advice for me?
Asked By: Gee - 12/18/2011
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99 problems but a b***h aint one
Answered By: Matt - 12/18/2011
Additional Answers (3)
Sorry to hear this is how you're feeling, it must be hard for you not really knowing what you want for a career, but there are many options and although it feels like you keep being rejected, one day soon, you will get a job and things will fall into place... More
Answered By: Chloe - 12/18/2011
i would answer u but man this is a little to much to read. lol
Answered By: cool black - 12/18/2011
Here's the positive point. You still have a long life to live. You're a decent woman and reading this I already want to be friends with you. You just have to find the right people with , rather than similar interests, similar ways of thinking. It's always nice to find someone with similar interests but its nicer to... More
Answered By: May Jeanette - 12/18/2011
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