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My name is Mitchell Porter I am 18 years old and a high school senior in an International School in the Philippines. Please take the time to read this because I need help and guidance I feel so lost.

Now I admit I am a slacker, I'm pretty intelligent I took an IQ test a year ago and scored 129. However I spent a majority of my high school lazy and unmotivated which led to fairly poor grades, I've been trying to get it together because I graduate 2 months from now. Because my grades aren't good enough and the application for universities in the U.S. have passed. I have to go to Community College. The problem is my parents want me to go to this one college in Florida. They already paid for it 10 years ago, and want me to apply to the college and housing. The problem is I don't want to go there because I want to make my own decisions and do things on my own terms. I have already discussed this with my parents and they said that they will not pay for any college outside of Florida that I choose. For them my options are
1. Go to the college they want me to go.
2. Join the military
3. Strike it out on my own.

I'm so lost and have no idea what to do.

I wish to take control of my life but I need help, If my parents refuse to pay for my tuition and board then how can I attend another college and be set financially what would be the benefits of joining the military?
How can I stand up to my parents and show them that I'm no longer a child I am now a legal adult who has to take responsibility for his own life and make his own decisions about what he wants to do.

Thank you for this I really need this.
acidnt69 if you say so but if I want to to go to another community college away from my parents, and they refuse to pay for it. Then how can I make sure I afford the tuition and housing?

Asked By: Mitchell - 2/26/2012
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Go to college. and get a degree. just get through college fast.

don't join the military, the military advertises BROTHERHOOD, UNITY, BRAVERY, AND FIGHTING FOR THE GREATER GOOD. thats just crap. they only send the dimwitted into the battlefield. the smart ones are the ones that stay in the headquarters.

with a degree you can get any job you want. jobs = money . money = power . power = control . especially over your life.


what you need to recognize is the two things that will help you in life.
- motivation
- will power

dont wait for motivation, train yourself to have willpower. motivation is you waiting for an outside event to make you feel like you want to work. thats something CONTROLLING you. will power is the ability to do work from your own choice. once you develop a strong sense of will power, you will be able to motivate yourself into making the right decisions in your life.

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Tell them about your plan. Apply for scholarships (every bank has a scholarship, all you need to do is write an essay and they'll help you). i dont understand why your parents wont pay for your education. tell them its an investment. and in order for them to pay tuition for you, you must earn their trust.
Answered By: acidnt69 - 2/26/2012
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Some things you just gotta roll with until they are under your control.

Now, I'm going to say it.... you are VERY VERY Lucky that your parents are paying for your college. Most people don't have that privileged these days.

So many you don't want to go to that college... have you been there? Give it a chance man... College life is extremely fun, no matter what college you go to. I'm sure you'll enjoy it.. dude... plus... florida is lovely.

Use it to your advantage. Go there, educate yourself, be successful. Then when you graduate, you can be employable, HAVE NO DEBT BECAUSE YOUR PARENTS PAID FOR YOUR COLLEGE, and be on your way to living an easy life.

You have it good as hell right now man. I'm sure you don't feel like it, but take a step back and compare it to everyone else in the world(which you may not be able to do).... you're lucky.
Answered By: X - 2/26/2012
I'm a guy who served in the US military and I've been to PI many times. I also attended to the Phillipines mudslide in Leyette on Feb 17 2006. I'm now in school full time and work full time.

I also know some high ranking officials in the PI Army. They do not live a glamorous life like you think.

What your parents have done for you is fantastic. Most people from your culture would die to get the opportunity you have. My honest opinion is that you would be an absolute fool not to accept it. It's not like they would have total control over you. You would be many many miles apart. Your parents are only trying to assist you in having a better life. Do you really want to sleep in the dirt while it's raining or in shelter on a comfortable bed? In the end the choice is yours but I know what path I would chose if I was you.
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