You may not want to live anymore, but your friends & family do. And so do I. And I don't eve know you. I'm 16 and suffer from generalized anxiety disorder and depression. You would not be 'winning' if you killed yourself. You'd be missing out on all the happiness of life. I know it's scary and sometimes you feel like you'd be better off dead, but you wouldn't. Hang on to your hopes and dreams for the future. If your mom wants you to move out, see if you can stay with a friend or another family member. I know what it's like to be scared of people. Sometimes I can't even stay in a situation where there are a lot of people. I leave or I start crying. Friends come and go, so don't be too worried about that. You'll find friends, and when you do, they'll be good friends. Friends you deserve. Don't drop out of college unless you are getting really overwhelmed, I think it may be helpful. Do you like school? I mean, can you focus on work (studying or something) to get your mind off depressing thoughts? Don't start cutting or self-harming because that won't help. Honestly, I've been there, and it only makes things worse. I also know what it's like to not want to tell your therapist the whole truth. It is scary. But if they don't know everything, they can't help you in the most efficient way. Stay strong, I know you can do it. If you ever need to talk, email me at smilelaughshare@gmail.com
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Answered By: Haidyn - 4/14/2012 |
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Megan,
I sincerely hope that you don't hurt yourself in any way. Life can get better and I'm not just saying that. I know thats probably what a lot of people tell you. But I promise I have a point. I have been hospitalized in the psyche ward four times and have seen 3 different therapists since I was 14 (I'm 22 now). The first one wasn't a good fit. It sounds like your therapist might not be a good fit for you. But don't rule out therapy because you have one that doesn't work for you. There are plenty of good therapists out there that will be a good fit for you. And on a side note, therapists won't send to to the psyche ward unless you tell them you have a plan and are going to act on it. They won't send you to the hospital for suicidal thoughts or cutting yourself (unless your intentionally cutting to try to k***********f. On a side note, I think you could benefit from seeing a psychiatrist (that you trust). To help you and put you on medications. Medications help a lot. I promise. It sounds to me that you might be bipolar. But its an uneducated guess. Only a professional can tell you what you have. But I am bipolar and they diagnosed me with everything under the sun before I got that diagnosis and it seems like they might be doing that to you.
And please, please try to stop cutting yourself. It is not worth it. Its hard to understand the consequences right now, but they are there. I used to cut myself on my arm and now I have ugly scars on my wrist that I have to answer to and they will be on my arm for everyone to see and its a constant reminder of the past, when you just want to be looking forward and not back. I don't wish that on anyone. Please just don't do it. I know its good way of helping you get through bad times because physical pain is much easier to manage the emotional pain. Try hold an ice cube on your hand or snap a rubber band around your wrist and snap it. I know it's not the same feeling as cutting. But cutting will find a way to haunt you for the rest of your life.
Try to stay in college if you can. You might be in a different country so I'm not sure if your talking about high school, which I think is called college in other countries and college (to the US) is university to other countries. I'm not sure which one your talking about, I've never heard of GSCEs. Which is besides the point. In either case try to stay in school. If you can't mentally handle it, I completely understand. I had to withdraw from a semester, because I was hospitalized twice in the same semester and couldn't keep up with grades. It is what had to be done and that is okay. But I hope your decisions don't bring on a whole set of new problems about self-esteem. I know I felt like a failure at the time. I hope you don't feel the same way i did if you choose to take a break or drop out. Now, I realize it's what had to be done.
I don't know you, but I sincerely hope that you can overcome this and lead a happy and fulfilling life, even though life seems scary. I am a random stranger online, possibly in another country, and I would care if you hurt yourself, fromone human being to another So I know your family must care about you, and I'm sure there are other people in your life that care about you. Don't be afraid to ask for help. It does get better.
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Answered By: kailey - 4/13/2012 |
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Honestly, you see your life as horrible now but once you get older you'll look back and laugh at those cowardly bullies, and everyones who's ever put you down.
Stay in college!! Do not let lack of confidence or having problems stop you living up to your dreams and making a good life for yourself. If you leave college what have you to fall back on? Because not many places will hire you for a job with no qualifications what-so-ever. Vicious bullies have already stopped you getting your GCSEs dont let them stop you getting any further education
Alot of people think of themselfs as ugly, but honestly everyones beautiful in their own way. Do not let people destroy you! Live your life and do as well in it as you can.
and as for killing yourself, you'll be the loser in that game you were born to stand out so walk around with your head held high
Im sorry i dont really have an answer to your question :( just some friendly advice, i hope you find the right path x
Answered By: Sophs - 4/12/2012 |
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Dont give up on life sometimes and very often it can be a b***h but sooner or later it will get better and if u need to talk to someone go on a chat room or something and if u dont want to then email me joesetera@yahoo.com dont kill urself and dont drop out cuz then ur gonna be depressed about that to
Answered By: Joe - 4/12/2012 |
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Apply for McDonald's or KFC.
It's time to get strong and earn your wings, don't worry about bullies because they never pick on people bigger and stronger than they are which implies they are weak with internal problems of thier own.
One thing is true from which no-one can escape; if we overindulge in anything at all we may suffer the consequences.
Like sadness, if your feeling sad for too long for whatever reason, or have experienced damaging emotional trauma and don’t deal with it you may one day induce clinical depression on yourself, then you’re going to need to see a specialist and need medication all your life.
You can't beat a good diet, keeping the mind Capricious and the brain healthy which you need in order to find and drive your goals and find a little enjoyment in life from time to time.
Negative mentality and emotions or visa versa gives rise to an Un-Capricious mind.
From the onset (The start or catalyst), I believe this renders the mind Un-Capricious. (The mind turning in on its self-lessening the possibility of a person being able find a solution to their problems, this then paves the way for a downward spiral)
This is why specialist say you never see depression coming.
We need our minds to envisage, not to see!
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Keep it real, takes breaks and find some enjoyment in something once in a while.
It's amazing how many people are beating their heads against inner city walls and against each other(Their minds in boxes), when just down the road from them will be rolling country side with amazing views, running streams, and lakes.
Mountain biking, camping out, walk along the hills and mountains, walk along a beach, this is our true nature.
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Go to the gym, change your diet and get fit.
Create poetry, art or learn a musical instrument, then give what you have to others because creating is really good for us.
Learn about what words are in terms of duality/meaning, phonetics and etymology.
Learn a new language http://www.bbc.co.uk/languages/
Learn to touch type http://www.typeonline.co.uk/
Play chess online for free against people all over the world http://www.chess.com/
Learn about philosophies and spirituality.
Ramana Maharshi. http://peacefulrivers.homestead.com/maharshi.html
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Answered By: ™ʎllıq®® - 4/12/2012 |
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It's okay, do not feel like you're alone. There are so many other people in the world feeling the same as you. Firstly, tell your mum how you're feeling and that you're having therapy and that you dropped out of school if she doesn't already know. If she does know, tell her that therapy isn't really working for you, and ask her to come along to your next session, and tell your therapist/counsellor how you're really feeling. They're there to help. They may advise you to a mental hospital, but it's okay, because then you're getting the help you need! You have just as much right to be here as anyone else. You're beautiful, and people love you. Try to stay on at college, but make sure you tell your mum & therapist/counsellor that you're finding it hard. There is also help for that. Just be open and honest, because that's the best way forward! I really hope this helped & good luck! :-) x
Answered By: Jenna - 4/12/2012 |
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PLEASE DON'T give up on your self! I can't say anything about you looks because I have not seen you.I think you are honest with your self. that is hard the next hardest thing is being honest with your Mother and your therapist. Both need to know, how you feel. therapist are slow in prescribing pills but they can help. Don't shrug them off. Going to the hospital is not the worst thing that can happen. It can help and help find the cause of these feelings. you are not alone there are a lot of people who have gone through this and have become successful in life. You can to. Get help to day Make an appointment with your therapist. Good luck
Answered By: pigwell - 4/12/2012 |
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When you talk about the "average teenager," that's the impression of the average teenager, nothing more. That's not even the majority of teenagers. I'm a teenager, just a bit older than you, who knows a lot of teenagers, and the majority are not like that. There are very few people who really have a lot of friends at our age. Sure, there are people you hang out with, or sit with, or eat with, or go out with if you're the friendly type, but that doesn't mean they're friends. And so what if you do in fact have fewer friends than most? Do you like the friends you have? If you do, then that's what's important, that your friends are good friends. If you DON'T like the friends you have, then there are always new people to be met, even if you're shy.
Don't drop out of college. Even if it feels like you're going through the motions right now, it's somewhere for you to go, something for you to do. Not everything involves working with people all the time. You just need to find something that you enjoy doing, and then, even if you do have to deal with people on occasion, it'll seem worth it.
You FEEL ugly, and you FEEL like the world would be better without you...but these things aren't true. You feel this way because you're at a really low point right now. But things are going to get better. You have hopes and dreams; hopes and dreams exist because they can and will happen. They might not always go exactly the way you planned, and getting there might be hard, but eventually, things do work out. You will be happy. Good things will happen to you. Life is a cycle of good and bad things, but it's the bad things that you go through that will someday help you appreciate it when you have something truly wonderful.
Life might be a race...but the first one to the finish certainly does not win. If you want to look at life that way, then "winning" is enjoying what comes to you and being able to show to world that you're strong and made it through the hard times so you can enjoy the good.
Be honest with your therapist. What you're feeling is something very common for people, especially your age. The therapist is there to help you, not send you to a hospital (unless your situation is really dire; but you're asking for help, so that's the first step to turning a dire situation into something safer). Maybe there is medicine you can be put on for just a bit, to get you through this especially trying period. Maybe medicine is not for you and in time, it will be finding where you want to go that will help you.
Almost everyone has times when they feel like everything would be so much better if it was just over. I know I have felt that way. But the important thing to do is take some deep breaths, step back, and look at what you have. Maybe you can't see much right now, but take a close look and you'll find there are many reasons to live. Remember that things will always get better. Sometimes they get really bad before, but eventually, everything is going to be all right. It really, truly is.
Answered By: Skyline_pigeon - 4/12/2012 |
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I have experienced this myself, when I was a child. I was very shy and quiet but what kept me going was my family support.
However when i reached your age and started to be self dependent, I couldn't resist all the problems I faced so I got a really depressed and my grades were getting very low noticeably, I stopped enjoying anything in life. I cut all my friendships and lost weight. my mind was full with negative thoughts such as I'm shy ugly, no body loves me, stupid... etc.. I started not only to hate myself but even my parent, i got angry with them and throw all my problems on them.
however when my parents noticed how in a bad situation I was, they did seek out medical advice for me and got me to the psychologist.
all what i can say is that the treatment was very helpful. may be my personality didn't change that much but i have learned how to accept my self and think in a positive way,
believe me aren't the only one who suffer. god created u as every body else and u have the right to live. do not waste your life caring about people, even if nobody with u, u can live and succeed. there is always a new opportunity in life. you are very young, it's not late to complete your study again.
if u can't study in the same area or same school, move to a new place don't just say i can't and stop. seek help. speak with ur mom, don't be afraid, she has got more experience and can help u.
if the therapy u are on now didn't work, try another one but don't give up.
when i was depressed i used to think that i have all the problems in the world , physically, mentally...etc.
but once u pass this, everything will be find and u will forget about all of this.
Answered By: pink apple - 4/12/2012 |
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Don't k***********f. You can talk with confidence and anonymity on the suicide hotline.
Answered By: Anna - 4/12/2012 |
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Remember that the best form of suicide is to kill your old life and build a new 1 change everything. visit yourlifeyourvoice.org to talk to a free online councellor. look up exercise and depression online it releases endorfins which improve mood and brain chemistry. and Art Therapy; channelling what ur feeling into something creative helps ur brain process the negativity in ur head. also find some volunteer work; helping others or nature builds selfesteem, gives life new meaning gives perspective and good karma... u dont have to believe in god but finding some spirituality can really help and good karma is a good start... basically research all u can on depression then when u find things that help come on here and share with the other deprrssed people, more good karma. good luck. Why not join clubs groups are and activities outside of school where you ll meet like minded people. Or challenge urself by joining groups u wouldnt normally be interested in... And volunteer work looks good on ur cv.
Answered By: petee p - 4/12/2012 |
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I feel the same, but I'm 15. Although, I have a kind of philosophy which really helps - maybe you should make one? You need to get inspired... These hopes and dreams you speak of; by saying 'but nothing is gunna happen', you're immediately helping to ensure that they do not happen. You shouldn't do that to yourself, nor to anybody else. Also, remember that whether you tell yourself you can, or whether you tell yourself you can't, either way you shall be right.
You made me laugh in saying "I'm not your average teenager. Most teens are very popular and are out drinking, getting high and having sex". I used to be 'popular' and doing them things. Then I had a sudden realisation that being that person didn't make me happier, it only makes you, like you said, 'average'. Don't be that, be more. Find something you wish to be, get inspired, and take action. Beware following the crowd, though, for you are far more noticeable and interesting without one.
You say you're 'ugly'? You're only as ugly as you make yourself think. Plus, being any better-looking will not make you any happier. Looking 'good' only makes the imperfections all the more obvious. Think yourself to be blessed in thinking such negative thoughts, for once you overcome these thoughts, you'll be a stronger person. As JFK said, "do not pray for an easier life, pray for a stronger back". Speaking of which, the social anxiety thing, I presume it's because of the bullying? Look upon your antagonisers as your helpers, for they have given you the opportunity to create a stronger person of yourself, believe me. Go out and overcome that anxiety.
Remember that it doesn't matter how slowly you go, as long as you never step back. harming yourself would only be a step-back. What good could possibly come of it? And killing yourself? That'd be a hell of a waste... Just take any opportunity you can to overcome this anxiety thing of yours - you will fail to overcome it at first, but failure is the key to success. Just keep trying. Speak to people you wouldn't usually speak to etc. It may even make you more anxious before anything, so do not stop trying. You'll be happy once you get over your fear.
Life isn't a race, either. This is the only opportunity you will ever get at it, don't waste these fears and worries you have - overcome. That's the only use you will ever get out of them.
Now, go for it, and good luck.
Answered By: Jamie - 4/12/2012 |
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