My husband wants a child of his own and I cant have a baby?
I am 23 years old and I have been married to my husband for two years and together ten. He is 24. After we got married we discussed having children, I can't get pregnant because of a very bad womb and I am not producing healthy eggs. I have know this since I was a teenager and even then it devastated me because I have always wanted to be a mother. He has always know I can't give him children and he has never minded. When we started discussing it we are our family's are torn between how we should go about children. He wants to use a surrogate and his family say that its the fair way because he can have his own children, and its my fault he cant naturally. My family have told me to learn to live without children, that if I can't have my own there is no point in bringing in someone else's child. I want to adopt I think it is the best option and I feel more comfortable with it. My husband wants a child of his own (his own blood) as he puts it. I could not go for surrogacy though and I am the only one that seems to feel trapped. His family wont accept a child that's not "theirs" and my family don't want that either. I feel so isolated my husband does not care how I feel about this. He says that he deserves his own child. I will only be treated like a step-parent if we go through with surrogacy because my husband was raised to believe only biological parents can really be great parents and my decision would not count as much as his or his family's. I have considered leaving my family and husband behind and going through adoption on my own. I am the main provider in the household my salary and the perks in my job are very good. We have seen specialist and everything I have not had a period in 5 years roughly. Help My husband point blank said no to adoption. I am not a christian but my husband is. I believe in God but do not subject myself to religion.
Asked By: Amy - 5/17/2012
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If your husband cannot come to a compromise I honestly don't think the two of you have a future. Marriage especially is about compromise and he is being selfish as are his family by saying ''it's your fault'' it's not, its nature or Gods plan (as him being a christian might say) He of all people being christian should... More
Answered By: Pixie - 5/17/2012
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Answered By: Kasumi - 5/17/2012
Well it sure as hell aint "your fault." Sounds like a fundamentalist Christian or something....What you do with your family is ultimately up to you. But you can't stay in a relationship, nor does God or any one expect you to, that you are going to be blamed for things that are outside of your control. That is... More
Answered By: Virgil - 5/17/2012
Sorry but your husband sounds like a selfish twat, sorry for what you are going through it isn't your fault at all and familys torn apart over it? What the ... people need to put themselves in your position, imagine if your husband couldnt have children? You would probablly adopt or something, i can understand his urge... More
Answered By: trusting - 5/17/2012
Hmm i can completely see both sides... its too bad your husband feels that way about decision making ect... because if you two could come to an agreement that your word would mean as much as his then it could work out for both of you.... and a woman is born with as many eggs as she will ever have so its not that your... More
Answered By: tricia - 5/17/2012
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