I dont know whether to stay or leave this guy?What should I do?
I have been dating this guy on and off for three years.We met at work, he was a security officer, and now works at a gym as a sales counselor.He lives in a four bedroom house, with his sons mother who happens to be the mother of his oldest son.He say they are not together, and hes just helping her out because she has two other children he cares about, so he doesnt want to see them homeless.but whenever I try and come by and see him he says no, because I know the reason.Second,he never can spend the night because, its usually because his babysitter has a time limit, or he has do something in the morning...Third, I let him borrow 250.00 dollars as a loan until 9/23 a few weeks ago, because he says that he was late on his rent and the irs took over 300 dollars out of his check and really needed the loan asap.I said okay, but please pay me back on the 23rd. he promised to pay me back but he said he couldnt pay me back until next week, because he has a irs lein that garnished his check a second time.So I called him monday several times, texted him, no answer.I called his job, his supervisor tells me hes off, so he calls me yesterday on his way to work, and says that he couldnt call me back because he was working on his aunts front lawn and was too tired so he turned his phone off. And thats how it always is, If I try and call or text him when hes off, I get no response, until he s either driving to work, or actually at work.And when I questions him about it,its always well, I was sleep, or I turned my phone off.Then when we o talk, its always about sex, how he wants me to get a hotel room near his house, it cant be too far, or he asking me to send a airplane ticket for him to come visit me, I'm thinking like this guy is a serious loser.Fourth, its my birthday, havent even got a phone call or a email to wish me a happy birthday, I am feeling very sad about that. any advice any opinions. I gave him a loan and I DO NOT sleep with him anymore, We havent slept together in over 10 months
Asked By: Shirley - 9/26/2012
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Answered By: Been There - 9/26/2012
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I'd leave him personally, you are always the one putting in the effort and trying to make it last and he's basically using you for money and isn't putting in himself. Also the thing about living with his ex is sort of strange too, I doubt they'd be homeless unless she's some physcho bitch:S have you considered he is... More
Answered By: Becky - 9/26/2012
Sorry hun, it sounds like he is in a relationship and is having one with you on the side. Get rid of him and find someone who really cares about you. You will probably never see the money. Good Luck!
Answered By: Connie - 9/26/2012
I think this guy has been lying to you all along. Don't loan him anymore money. You'll be lucky to get a penny of it back. It might be in your best interest to avoid him completely. I mean, what a CHAMP! He's using you!!! Move on and don't look back. You can do way, WAY better. Good luck, and Happy Birthday!
Answered By: Lanie - 9/26/2012
Honey, this guy is a total loser!! Your relationship is going nowhere. He has no money, he lives with another woman, you can't even spend a night together, and you can't even call and reach him on his day off. This is a relationship of convenience...for HIM. And....he's asking YOU to buy a plane ticket for him... More
Answered By: Anya - 9/26/2012
LEAVE THIS GUY ASAP AND KISS THE MONEY YOU LOANED HIM GOOD-BYE! HE IS NOT WORTH YOUR TIME SO I HOPE YOU LEARNED A LESSON FROM THIS. GET OUT BEFORE HE ASKS FOR ANOTHER LOAN!
Answered By: Carolann H - 9/26/2012
he is definitely using both of you, thats the reason he never is heard.or seen from when u call him! come on its common sense leave him! find a new man that will treat you right be faithful to you and will not make u feel sad! good luck and happy birthday! :)
Answered By: Yolaanda - 9/26/2012
Take him to People's Court or Judge Judy to get your money back from him.
Answered By: lassa_fever - 9/26/2012
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