Is this normal for an interviewer to do this?
so today I went in for an interview and I was going in for the 2nd interview by the head chief executive. now this is where it got weird, so she asked me about my previous jobs and said how much she liked that product over that product. then she started talking about her daughter? an her divorce ...then how she didn't finish college because she was making more money doing what she did for this company ... then she talked about how her teenage daughter is a handful... I just played it cool thinking she was using some sort of psychology thing to trick me into saying something stupid. the interview ended and she seemed happy an I was escorted to the door... now I'm freaking confused? is this normal behavior for an executive? like it felt like she was going to burst into tears at one point and tell me her life problems... is this normal? was she trying to see how I react or something?
Asked By: Clone - 11/7/2012
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It could be that she was trying to see how you would handle her outbursts. So many times while working you will have customers who will tell you way too much info! But you have to be nice, and listen to them, for they are the customers. She may have been testing to see whether you would remain silent or not. So I... More
Answered By: RedMoon - 11/7/2012
Additional Answers (32)
Just be happy you didn't walk into the room with a couch a desk and a camera
Answered By: ChocoJesus - 11/7/2012
Yes it is normal
Answered By: Aly - 11/7/2012
lol.it may be normal,she confided in you sort of venting,,i find that hilarious,chill.u'll get a cal Best of Luck,
Answered By: ghinva - 11/7/2012
No, that is honestly not normal, but honestly nothing bad about it... More
Answered By: TreasurePlanetLover - 11/7/2012
It is not normal and not abnormal either. She was just being herself
Answered By: kenneth h - 11/7/2012
More than likely she was trying to get you to give her answers to questions she wasn't legally allowed to ask you. Questions like "Are you divorced?", "Do you have kids?", "If you do have kids are they a problem?" are all questions that she probably would like the answer to but can't ask them. She was using this... More
Answered By: Walt Pietz - 9/18/2013
While it is definitely not normal for an interviewer to share such personal facts about herself I would think that she was having a very hard time in her life at the time of the interview. For some odd reason she felt that YOU would be open to just sitting and listening without trying to give HER advice. Just from... More
Answered By: katrice01 - 9/19/2013
Maybe she was seeing if you could take control of a conversation or maybe push it in the right direction....Good Luck!
Answered By: William - 9/23/2013
Many employers are over worked and over their stress limit with no one to vent with regarding life in and out of their everyday circumstances. True, many interviewers today may be attempting to gain some perspective on how a potential employee may handle stressful situations and how their own personal baggage brought... More
Answered By: jumpnjax - 9/24/2013
I think it is very abnormal and she should take a vacation or see a counselor. That is very unprofessional behavior. I would be afraid to work for her. You don't want to be her emotional sounding board.
Answered By: Kelly - 9/24/2013
Had an interview kind of like this once. Not much related to the job as I think I had that wrapped up already after interviewing with HR and with my immediate superior. Those went well because I tested well and because my boss obviously liked me and was selling me on the job basically. Then 3rd interview was with... More
Answered By: Scott S - 9/24/2013
The entire discussion during an interview or during business hours is totally unprofessional. Keep applying for other jobs, not that you'll be rejected from this opportunity, mostly likely you'll get the job because you're a good listener. However, do you really want to be your boss' counselor? What may seem like... More
Answered By: Barto - 9/25/2013
Maybe you're a good listener and she doesn't have one in her life. I've turned interviews around a few times when the interviewer decided to dump their problems on me. I think it might have cost me at least one job- it embarrassed the interviewer when he realized how much he had revealed to me.
Answered By: chief34997 - 9/26/2013
I think that it is important to understand that the prospective employer is not only "sizing you up"and evaluating you but a job interview is an opportunity for you to "size up "and evaluate a prospective employer... More
Answered By: Denise - 9/28/2013
I pray that this job did not entail writing because and has a "d" on the end of it and your in this context is spelled you're as in you are...
Answered By: Dawn - 9/28/2013
Maybe she had too much to smoke that day! lol
Answered By: LINDAGALE - 9/28/2013
Hey there... More
Answered By: Marina - 9/30/2013
My guess is that she just has not developed interview skills. She didn't want to be there, and was taking the time to talk about what was on her mind. I've seen this before. How to respond? Simply offer yourself as a person who can help make her work life easier by bring your skills to the business.
Answered By: Tom - 10/1/2013
Nope it isn't. Apparently her position needs to be re-evaluated, I would have terminated her, as she's not doing her job interviewing. Too busy flapping her gums on irrelevant poppycock that has nothing to do with an interview. Don't think she's capable of hiring practices.
Answered By: Ruth S - 10/3/2013
People, calm down. I know I'm late, but just had to revisit this. Nothing is wrong with the interviewer. Every manager has their own interviewing style. I have been interviewed where we hardly talked about the job and did now talk of my skills that much. Managers do know how to read. If your resume has enough... More
Answered By: V - 10/8/2013
This person know anything about job interview. The botton line it was not a job interview. The equal employment opportunity law can help you for future, go to EEO page, and get informed!!!!!!!!!!!
Answered By: MARIA V - 11/5/2013
Because people are not trained to be professional communicators and professional interviewers, they resort to bazaar methods to check out candidates. It resounds with illiteracy and lack of ability to "check out" a candidate without resorting to poor strategies. There are more professional ways to "test" a candidate... More
Answered By: Linda W - 11/10/2013
Maybe she was just trying to test you once again, But... what about your CV and Cover letter? Where they convincing enough?
Answered By: Hans - 11/11/2013
Women are batshit crazy. Period.
Answered By: Russell - 11/13/2013
Not sure what caliber company this is......Fortune 500 or small business, but that was weird. I don't believe she was trying any psychological tricks to see if you are divorced or finished college - it's not necessary or appropriate. I've been through "stress" interviews - they don't get this weird. She is probably... More
Answered By: Dan R - 12/5/2013
I don't think it was a test. She felt she could spill her guts to you for some reason. Not very professional and I would think twice about working for someone who is an emotional billboard. People like that draw you into their personal problems, no place in the workplace. Hope you ran far far away.
Answered By: ChrissyK - 1/25/2014
There is no normal anymore. Let the interviewer beware.
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Answered By: Sopna - 2/10/2014
When applying for a job as a teller at a major Bank, all we talked about was camping. Both of us loved it and so on, I thought it was a strange interview, so when the hiring manager closed the meeting she said "by the way do you want the job". And I was hired!
Answered By: Judy - 2/13/2014
no this is not normal as i think
Answered By: Vishal - 2/17/2014
I would be concerned that you were so focused on this and seem to think that an "executive" isn't a human being. Professional only gets you so far. Sometimes just being a person takes you further, along with writing skills. That is normal.
Answered By: O'aces - 2/18/2014
What kind of position did you apply for? What's your job function? You have to ask yourself if her questions have anything to do with what your job function...if not then the woman was venting... Or trying to have you as a friend already....I think you got the job ...congrat
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