Would this scare him away?
There's a guy who seems to have a true, serious interest in me. I wouldn't mind trying things out with him since he's not bad looking and seems very nice. Sounds pretty good right? Well, not exactly. See, I don't have a job or source of income. Now for the REALLY embarrassing part - my parents give me an "allowance" of $20.00 a week for helping out/cleaning the house and stuff. It's nice, but these days $20.00 a week isn't much of anything and at age 21, that's just pathetic and embarrassing to be "relying" on your parents... isn't it? I'd feel bad/guilty if a guy I was with had to pay for everything everytime we went out. Or even more embarrassing, I had to "pay" using my parents' money. That's sounds way teenager, doesn't it? I'd want to at least have MY money to offer to pay. Then if he insisted, that'd be different. I'd feel like a bum if he had an income and I didn't. Plus, I don't have a car. I've actually never drove period because I'll admit I have a slight driving phobia. It's not driving in general, there's only about 3 things about it that scares me/makes me nervous. I think this guy is for real and he actually does show an actual interest in me. Other people I tell the story to agree with that. But I don't want to scare him off and make him think I'm a complete loser for not having a income, car or license. I know for a fact that he has an income/job. What is you advice for this? Yes, I plan to be honest with any guy. If this guy would keep talking and ask me out, I'd go with it and I would tell him about me not having an income and I'd explain exactly what the 3 things are that I'm kind of "scared" of when it comes to driving. Thanks ahead of time. I really appreciate any advice/input I get. Do you think this would be a huge turnoff for guys? Or would they be willing to accept this and still want to be with me? There's another thing too. This is something I had no control over, but is very embarrassing and makes me feel bad. I have 5 silver fillings (2 on the lower left side in the back and 3 on the lower right in the back). They aren't noticeable when I smile, but I find them disgusting and ugly. I'd be afraid a guy would think it's because I didn't take care of myself properly. Truthfully, it's because my parents never took me to the dentist as a kid. My first ever trip was when I was 17 and a half. I knew I had at least 2 cavities and I'd mention them a lot, but my dad always made an excuse to put it off. Once I finally got to the dentist, a lot of damage was done obviously. I'm glad it was just fillings I needed, but I wish so much that they weren't noticeable :( I know he works, and I'm pretty certain he drives. Another embarrassment for me is the fact that someone who works with my mom doesn't drive and is close to my age. He just has someone take him. That makes me feel even worse about not having a job or some form of income. This guy seems real though. He broke the ice and talked to me last week and even though it was our first actual conversation, he was open with me and disclosed some pretty personal info with me. I would like to go to school (I have a few options actually), but I'm unable to pay for it right now. Plus, I don't technically have a diploma. Why? I was homeschooled for high school and they have been terrible and won't hand it over even though the schooling is paid for and my work has been completed. The guy knows I was homeschooled. I told him while we chatted.
Asked By: Pug_Lover01 - 1/7/2013
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You seem to be pretty down on yourself. Stop and think of what you can do to change your situation. Have you tried to find a job? Even if it is part time or something temporary I think it would help you to feel better about yourself and we all feel better when we are productive... More
Answered By: Jeannie - 1/7/2013
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I would ecept it nd go out with you.im kinda goin threw the same thing but not exactly im 25 nd a new collage student just got in collsage but no job liceince suspended nd liveing at the parents house. Nd yes i aggree it dose feel inbarissing bc it turned 3 girls off. But to me if the guy is real he will understand nd... More
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